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Relationships 101 – For kids

I am in the fortunate position, as a parent, to have a “Do-Over”. Yes, same Mom but different kid. There is a significant age spread between my first two children and my youngest. If you have read some of my previous articles, you will understand part of the reason for the gap. If you have not read my previous articles entitled “A Labor of Love and Loss” Part 1 and 2, I…

Selling a Book to Independent Booksellers

I own an independent bookstore, and I hear a lot of pitches from a lot of writers, and most of them aren’t very good. In addition to working in my bookstore, I’m also an indie author. This gives me a unique insight from both sides of the pitch.

Know Your Audience

When I ask you who your demographic is, and you reply, “My book is for everyone,” you’re wrong. …

3 Steps to Overcoming Mental Work Week Exhaustion

Have you ever felt exhausted? 

I know most of you would be nodding your heads and rolling your eyes at this moment saying, “DUH!”

We all have had the immense pleasure of feeling completely mentally and physically run down. But how much is enough? What is your limit that forces you to throw in the towel? And what can we do, if anything, to help us to avoid thi…

A charity you should know about.

There are so many possible ways we can contribute to our society and community, and I believe every person can find a way to connect and give back. Some charities work on large scale projects or events a few times a year while others have ongoing smaller initiatives. As a parent I have a soft spot for children’s charities, but truthfully just about any good cause can get me...

Sales Tips – Part 3

You are in sales, whether you like it or not. Everyone is in sales. My mentor always says, “If your mouth is moving, you are selling something.” You are either selling a product, service, an idea, or yourself. A lot of people say they don’t like sales because they really do not understand how to properly do it. I am going to share with you a few sales tips I have pic…

Santa’s Little Snitch

He knows when you’ve been sleeping. He knows when you’re awake. That’s more than a little disturbing. How does he know? Satellites? Spyware? Wire tapping? Rats with cameras? The fat boy in red is too lazy to gather intel* himself and has a new weapon to fight the war on naughtiness: its name is Elf on the Shelf.**

The official propaganda is that at the sta…

Krampus Is Coming To Town

A series of strange reports have been coming in from all across Tioga and Potter Counties of oddly dressed individuals that appear to have glowing eyes and horns. These bizarre incidents seem to be connected to a rash of home invasions. Some area residents are claiming it’s the Jersey Devil or Christmas demons, some locals are blaming the trouble on drug dealers disg…




The closer I come to the BIG delivery day, the more and more nervous I get of what is to be expected afterwards. SURPRISINGLY, I am not nervous about the tiny, breakable human that is about to become our reason for every breath we take, but I am nervous about the stomach that may be dragging on the floor behind…

Theeey’re heeeere!

It’s coming. “They” are coming. It’s just around the corner. In four weeks from now your family will be coming for the Holidays.

So why not do something crazy and time-stamp your dis-function with a family photo?


All jokes aside, when’s the last time you had a family photo taken? Was there a now “ex-partner” in the shot? Was there a child or t...

Turn your dreams into Goals.

Setting goals is one of the most difficult tasks in any successful path. If the goals are too ambitious, one can’t help but feel like it may waste a lot of time and energy in vain. If they seem too easy to attain, they will not serve as stimulus and learning for big changes.


Individuals find themselves trying to find a balance. On one hand, dreams can c...

How much longer?

Like most of you, I was shocked to hear about what happened in Las Vegas a couple days ago. I have always joked that Las Vegas was like my “home away from home.” It seems a bit ironic that I just finished up a 3 part series on my favorite things to do in Vegas. It just goes to show you how quickly things can change. 

I always looked at Las Vegas as a place to escap…

Making the most of the Holidays

If you’ve read some of my past articles, you have noticed a pattern, and this one stays true to encouraging people to live their best lives. 

Like many others, Christmas is my favourite holiday. My family has a number of traditions that make this time of year so special. Some of them beginning when I was a child and some that we’ve started in the more recent yea…

Falling for Fall

This is my open love letter to the wonderful season of Fall. I know I’m not the only one to vivaciously embrace the temperature drop after a long summer, but what I feel is much more profound. It’s another reason that life is worth living, making even the hardest days a little easier to bear.

The leaves changing colour is just one of the many aspects I impatient…


This article has nothing to do with the ever growing popular sport of Cow tipping. It is about what to tip and why you should tip.

Many servers are part-time workers who are going through school and are trying to pay their tuition and cost of living while in attendance. Some, are artists who dream of making it big in their field and need the flexible hours to…

Sales Tips – Part 1

You are in sales, whether you like it or not. Everyone is in sales. My mentor always says, “If your mouth is moving, you are selling something.” You are either selling a product, service, an idea, or yourself. A lot of people say they don’t like sales because they really do not understand how to properly do it. I am going to share with you a few sales tips I have picked up o…

Who says charity can’t be fun?

Often charity requires us to give of our time or donate money expecting nothing in return, but the feeling of doing well for others. While I think that in and of itself is a wonderful thing, but it is also fun when you get to play and donate at the same time! For some this might be partaking in a charity poker game or for those of us unskilled in the art of gambling, …

Embracing Your Stages

Lets get sentimental for a moment. 

So I’ve always lived my life up until my 25th year as a woman with the assumption that I would only live this life for me. I would look at my life and the things that I liked and what I had at that stage and would truly believe that everything that was already around me, was enough for me. Then came along somebody who ad…

Identifying Priorities

Just when you think that you have everything figured out life goes ahead and gives you an opportunity to redefine or replan your priorities. 

This may sound like a similar quote from dumb and dumber. but in life, sometimes when it comes to priorities sometimes we feel like we couldn’t get any dumber. 

Prior to recently having a child this past 48 ho…

Songs With Stories

“I like everything but Country”. How many times can we say we’ve heard that line when asking somebody what genre of music he or she listened to? Now personally I don’t go out of my way to listen to Country music but it is obvious that there are millions upon millions of people that do. I do not ignore that fan base nor do I ignore the fact that these tunes are story telli…

#NOMORESHAME – The “Me Too” campaign.

Me Too

You may have seen these words throughout Facebook.

Me Too, #MeToo, Me2….or whatever form a person wishes to post them.

The “Me Too” campaign, for lack of a better word, was created to bring about awareness in regards to women who have and who are being harassed, abused, raped, and any and all other injustices.

Unfortunately I too h…

Find Renewal Like the Sun

I feel so in love with life right now. Ask me last week, and I would have said otherwise. To be able to connect with the shifts inside of your heart and soul and BE OK with them is key to living fully.

I tend to have words land on me: literally they show up in my periphery and in my brain. I use them, read them, see them, hear them in conversation… Just like when…

How Do You Say Goodbye?

How do you say good-bye?


Life is a journey, we are born into what we hope a loving family. We are taught how to crawl, walk, and be self-sufficient. We go through each day learning and exploring, and growing as an individual. Some days are good, some days not so much. We try and challenge ourselves and strive to be the best we ca…

Finding your passion

Don’t ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

– Howard Thurman

We all have passions, hopes and dreams. Sometimes they are difficult to pinpoint after all, we imagine so many things, and it can be hard to tell if what you’re daydreaming about…

Why Writers Need to Walk

Henry David Thoreau wrote, “It requires a direct dispensation from heaven to become a walker.” What beautiful words, fitting for a man who spent two years, two months, and two days in his singular “experiment in simplicity” at Walden Pond. Thoreau’s time at Walden included daily walks in the Walden Woods–long rambles that could last for hours.

Jane Austen stated her d…

Making the Most of Your Deer

Clear, cold–more than a little frosty, a good morning to hunt, and it just got better. A nice eight point cautiously makes his way along the edge of the woods. All the fatigue from the long hours of waiting washes away in a rush of adrenalin. I raise my rifle for the killing shot. I squeeze the trigger and the buck crumples. Silence fills the air. The hunt is over, but the …

The Art of Scheduling: Part 2

If you haven’t already, please read part 1. I promise it will make more sense that way 🙂

So with these issues, how do I create a great schedule? First I would begin by looking at the needs of the restaurant and determining how many staff are required for each shift that day. I would also note if there are any special skills needed as back up (someone who can bart...

Sales Tips – Part 2

You are in sales, whether you like it or not. Everyone is in sales. My mentor always says, “If your mouth is moving, you are selling something.” You are either selling a product, service, an idea, or yourself. A lot of people say they don’t like sales because they really do not understand how to properly do it. I am going to share with you a few sales tips I have picked up…

Over Independence…Is that a thing?

Is there actually such a thing as ‘Over Independence’?

I mean we are taught through our formative years to ‘do it ourselves’, to ‘learn’… in fact most of our life’s journey is about becoming the ultimate in achievement – INDEPENDENT!

Those of us who have raised,  or are raising children do so in hopes that one day they will be INDEPENDENT. Able to sustain th…

Tough call

It has been said that my industry is “fake”. We alter, change, modify for an unrealistic or unachievable norm. Photography is an art that has certainly evolved tremendously since it’s birth in the late 1800’s. We are often referred to as “image makers or image manipulators” instead of photographers. We no longer just capture an image, we transform it …

Take care of yourself

Do you take the time for self care?

I am a huge lover of self care and feeding my body everything it needs. However I wasn’t always this way, I wouldn’t spend money on doing things like getting a massage, seeing a naturopath, chiropractor, getting my hair done or nails done. I didn’t really take care of my health until about 5 years ago, when I didn’t r…

Grandma tips 2 Cure Diseases with Cinnamon & Honey

When you think of medicine to help alleviate arthritis pain, or lower cholesterol, it’s probably a safe bet that cinnamon and honey didn’t cross your mind — until now.

Believe it or not, cinnamon and honey have been used to cure an array of diseases in traditional Chinese medicine for thousands of years, and this mixture has a long tradition of use as a homemad…

Do You Ever Know You Are On The Right Path?

I spend a lot of time in my head. 

As you may already have interpreted from my previous articles, this website has become more of a therapy outlet to unload the continuous thoughts that sprint through this exhausted mind. SO, just ONE of my frequent concerns that always seems to pop up is, Am I really on the right path? Am I do everything I should be doing to align...

“Me time” and Mama Guilt

I recently asked a group of mom friends: what do you for “me time”?  The answers varied. I like to read, I like to run, I like to get a pedicure, I go to Target by myself, I go to the bathroom by myself. One friend scoffed and said “me time? what’s that?” A wide variety of answers for sure. For a wide variety of moms with different ideas, perspectives and backgro…

Ball Striking

Have you ever wondered how Justin Thomas or Ricky Fowler can hit the ball so far? They are both world class golfers of small stature who excel at the primary skill that separates the Tour professional from the weekend amateur and that skill is “Ball Striking”, or more precisely, consistent centered hits on the club’s face. Every golfer at all skill levels has had that one p…

My body is beautiful no matter what you say!

I recently attended a lecture on obesity, overweight and stigmas associated with these conditions, and I have to say that the lecture opened up my mind about a lot of things. It made me think of all the times that somebody made me feel as if I HAVE to lose weight, and all the times somebody made me feel as if I wasn’t beautiful because I’m not super thin.


Our Vibrations

We are all linked in. Our Vibrations are the connecting pins. Us, here together. Some creating joy, while others are causing pain. But each is in an attempt to experience the same. The better part of the two. People just want to be happy. For the some that understand, they get their happiness with others. For the those, that don’t, they attempt to get their happiness at…

4 Tips to Combat Holiday Stress

While the holidays can be a joyous time of celebration with friends and family, there’s no question that the busyness of the season can take its toll. Everyone seems to be stressed about something from lack of time, to lack of money to pressure to give the best gifts. With all the extra “to do”s on the list, the season can fly by in a blur of obligations and busywork …

Serious Wealth

How do you create serious wealth?

Most people were raised to believe that:

Time + Effort = Money

However, I don’t believe that’s how wealth is created. One of my coaches put it this way:

Value + Results = Money

What va...

I don’t want a baby – STOP trying to make me!

So to give you a background, when I was 21 years old, I found out that having a child would be very dangerous for me. You see, I have lupus, it took 7 years for me to get a diagnosis, and two strokes. I have to be on medications for the rest of my life. Mainly immune suppressants, anti-vitals, pills to protect my stomach and blood thinners. At the time, I was crushed…

Soul Food

Do you remember your annual visits to the pediatrician? We went for our “well check-ups” and my mom breathed her annual sigh of relief each time that we were deemed healthy and sent on our way. Those check-ups, for me, were torture. I remember them as visits to the den of shame where I learned the mastery of self-hatred. As if invisible, Dr. Pedvis admonished me in thi…


Being a first time mom, there are so many new things we experience and these first 8 months have been fun filled and filled with emotions, and just as I was getting the hang of raising one child, another one has come along. We applied for my stepson to come visit us from Cuba and his Visa was approved and within a couple weeks we had him here and I was a mom of two! Things I…

Happiness Part Two

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Happiness Part Two

Actions to take that enhance happiness

Exercise regularly. If you are not exercising now, start simply with easily achievable goals and track your progress. Avoid the mistake of starting at a level that is too hard…

We Can Make A Difference

My mama was not a person who could sit still for very long, and she worried about retiring. What was she going to do to fill her time? It didn’t take long before she was busier with her charity work than she was when she worked full time! I had a good role model.

For a lot of us, though, it is so much easier to sit at home, criticizing and pointing our fingers at …


It’s that time of  year again when you must dash out and find Treats for the little ones who want to Trick.

I do like Halloween. Kids are creative with their outfits. The little ones are dressed up in the cutest of costumes. Their reactions are “dead” funny! I just don’t like the ingredients in all those “goodies” we hand out.

The merchants association in…

Tisana Tea

This past week I have been so sick and it’s been draining. I have a job that is physically and mentally exhausting, and when I come home and am finally able to lay my head down I realize it’s one of the rare times I miss Cuba. I hate being sick but if I had to be sick somewhere, it felt more comforting back in Cuba. My grandmother was so also right there helping me, making ...

Being the Supporting Partner

Well the time has finally come. My partner and I are merely days away from welcoming our son into the world. We are over the moon excited for our big day to arrive! It feels like just yesterday we were hoping and praying that the procedure would take, and now look how far we’ve come. Seems absolutely surreal!

I thought with this new upcoming role I am about to u…

Searching for Sergeant Bull

Searching for Sergeant Bull


The first time my father traveled to Europe was in the hold of a boat built to haul bananas. He was a nineteen-year old Iowa farm boy sailing on the USS Marine Devil with approximately 1,700 other young men recently inducted into the army. He was assigned one canvas shelf to sleep on in a stack of eight shelves set eighteen in…



This is my view as I am writing this article, I am in Spain until tomorrow evening spending some lovely time with my beloved and some special friends.

Today we have spent our time on the beach and been approached countless times by people selling their wares, each trying to make a living and feed their families. Many are known as “l...

Defining Moments- which track?

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Can you think of a defining moment in your life? It may well have been one that at that specific moment in time you decided that you would get out of an abusive relationship, you decided to quit a job, to have faith in yourself that you would be the author of a bestselling book.

It could well ha…