Loving yourself is the greatest gift to the world!

Erin Roseman
Author, Health & Wellness Coach.
Personal Development

Sep 06,2017

“Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.” 

– M. Scott Peck 

Loving yourself is probably one of the most important aspects of health and wellness. If you don’t love yourself, your body can’t love you and people can’t love you. I don’t know why self-love is so difficult for so many, but I do understand the struggle. It took me 28 years to learn how to love myself. It’s incredible, really. How are we able to function at all, how can we hope to have successful relationships, careers, friendships if we don’t even love and value ourselves? Where did we learn this counterintuitive behaviour? How did we come to be so unloving towards ourselves while still believing we are able to love others? 

I find a lot of women, in particular, struggle with self-love. They hate aspects of themselves, and because they have low self-worth, they wind up putting everyone else’s needs before their own. In reality, of course, this is a bizarre and backwards. I am here to give you permission: it is ok to love yourself! It doesn’t mean you’re shallow or a bad person; it just means you choose to care for you a choice that will ultimately allow you to love others more deeply. The more you love who you are, the more value you bring to those around you, and the more supportive, kind and gentle you will be. This doesn’t make you selfish; rather, it makes you great. The more self-worth you have, the more joy and great people you will attract into your life. 

The power of I am statements. 

A great tool I use is affirmations.  I want you to write “I am” statements and “I love” statements of positive reinforcement to yourself: I love myself, I love my eyes, I love my smile, I love my body, I love how compassionate I am. I love being strong, I love being happy, I love being vulnerable. I am confident, I am loving, I am amazing! The more you practice and externalize your self affirmations, the more you will internalize those affirmations and retrain your brain to think positively about yourself. 

So go for it now! Take a blank piece of paper and draw a heart or sun or circle in the middle, then draw about 10 lines coming from the centre outwards. In the middle of the heart shape, write I AM, then on each line around it, write all the things you are and want to be. Be positive and really mean the things you write. Then read them to yourself, and allow yourself to believe them. Learn to love yourself more and more with each day. 

Note that, if you really struggle with self-worth, this may be a difficult activity for you. It may bring up raw emotions and you may feel the urge to deny the positive messages you’ve written on your paper. I urge you: be kind to yourself! 

Acknowledge your negative feelings, but don’t let them dominate you. Keep practicing self-love and letting yourself think positive thoughts, and eventually, that process and that self- love will become your true reality. 

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