RECIPROCITY OF A MOTHER’S LOVE

CLAUDETTE McFADDEN
Loving mother. Budding entrepreneur. Solid and fun-loving woman.
Children And Families

Mar 13,2018

Today as I sit at my desk and ponder on life and love and what it all means….I received a text out of no where which put it all in perspective.

My younger daughter who is away at University, because of her work load, she is limited on how often she communicates; so you can imagine my surprise when I received the following text from her; breaking into my thoughts.

Here goes – A private conversation becoming public…..unfiltered

Hey mom, this week is crazy with midterms and assignments coming left, right and centre. I’ve barely had time to breathe and eat the last few weeks, lol, but please don’t be mad at me. I want to call soon. Tonight I’ll be at the library super late doing a test and studying for more tests I have tomorrow, but I’m hoping tomorrow won’t be as long of a day for me and that if all goes well I’ll be able to call in the evening. I hope you haven’t been lonely.

Love you mama and thank you for always doing your best for me and (my sister), we all have different ways of expressing ourselves, but we know we’re loved, and we love you as well.

My response:  

Aaahhh? You always seem to know what I need when I need it – I love you too very much and you know what, just focus on getting your stuff done if you can call great, if not don’t sweat it…

Daughter:  

I feel I’ve been neglecting you, and I know you only have 2 kids and friends aren’t the same as family. You’ve given up so much for us and I don’t want you to feel all alone in a house of virtual strangers when we both are still alive and well. I just want you to know that even though I’m pretty sure I’m in the hall of fame for worse daughter ever, I love you and I care about you and I do think about you a lot.

My response:  

Thanks (daughter), you’re the greatest – so selfless – you’re the best daughter any mom could ever have and no, you’re not in the hall of fame yet – lol…  

Good luck on your exams!!!! It’s almost over…..(she’s graduating this year)

Daughter:  

You didn’t have to do a lot that you did for us, and even though you don’t often complain or talk about the extent of your sacrifices; from the little I do know and have gathered over the years, I know you’ve done a ton all in the name of being a good mother and proving for us. We didn’t always understand, and we still don’t a lot of the time, but we appreciate you even if we don’t say so as often as we should.

You left your home and put yourself through school, didn’t date much that I know of to keep us safe, stayed at a job you didn’t love, worked all kinds of jobs and all kinds of crazy hours, went without food sometimes to make sure we always had food on the table, have a house and our own rooms and a car and good schools. You put us first and did your best and it was more than most people could have accomplished alone; or ever. You’re my hero and when I think of a strong woman I think of you! Just wanted you to know that if we were too young to fully get it then, I get it now. None of us are perfect, but we’re a family and we love each other because you taught us the heart of a sacrificing mother.

Thanks mommy, I’ll do my best to make you proud. I have a class now, so I’ll talk to you later. Have a great day!

My response:  

I love you more and appreciate you for who you are – you bring me to tears of happiness – thank you for your kind words – I love you (my child)! 

Conclusion:  The most important and significant sacrifice that a parent can make is the one they make for their children. I believe wholeheartedly in raising a child in the way they should go that when they get older they will not depart from it. Children are like sponge, you pour into them the good stuff and watch them grow to become better men and women of society. 

My reason for sharing this is to give a discouraged mother HOPE. To let you know that giving up is for quitters. You are not a quitter. You can’t be a quitter. Your children are precious and they depend on you. What you do for them now may not seem like much, but it will not only affect their lives; your life; but the world at large!

And when all is said and done; It is always encouraging when your children confirm that your sacrifices were not in vain!

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