More articles in category: Personal Development

Back to the Drawing Board

This is an excerpt from my book about coaching kids. It’s from the chapter, “I Know More Than They Do; This’ll Be Easy.” (Yes, I did learn very quickly just how naive that thought was.) I am humble enough to point out that not all of my coaching techniques are gems. Some of them fall flat on their proverbial faces. This is one of those.

I once had a basketball team...

Stuck in a rut going nowhere.

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I was going down the rut route,” Elena told me. “For eleven years I’d get up at the same time every day, look in the same mirror, drive the same route, see the same faces, park in the same spot. One day it dawned on me I’m better than this.” Elena packed in her well-paid IT job and followed her dream. She sold her house, bought a small fa...


Not getting enough sleep has become an epidemic, with many of us sleeping significantly less than the 7h – 9h recommended by the National Sleep Foundation. Unfortunately, in our western society, sleep is often treated as a commodity that can be traded for other activities. Chronic short sleep ​is linked to lower productivity and higher mortality risk. The …

Right on time for your glorious life

Did you have high hopes for a fresh new year, but January rolled right over you? For me, January skipped right over February into March, but I’m here to report that it’s not too late to get yourself gathered and begin again. Join me. Starting now.

Full disclosure: I haven’t made New Year’s resolutions in more than 20 years, so I don’t have any advice about them. To...

Silencing Your Inner Bully

Does that inner bully of negativity, self-doubt, and criticism hold you prisoner?

That inner bully in our minds can cause so much misery in our lives. The negative self-talk can be so overpowering that it blocks out everything else. The judgement and doubt permeate all of our thoughts, and we don’t notice anything that could be positive a…

Are You Bringing It?

I’m purposely self(ish).

‘ISH’ means just a little, right?

I’m sure there are people that think I’m fully selfish, and others that think I’m selfless – in reality, I think most of us fall somewhere in between.

I love people so much, however, I cherish my alone time, self-care, exercise and writing time even more and for me to be the best me, that typic…

What I learned down the Rabbit Hole

I am 100% committed to personal growth and spiritual expansion.

When you have a committment this big..the Universe shows up for you in spades! As I step deeper and deeper into my gifts and my own divine power my asks of the Universe (my order) get more clear and purposeful.

This year I asked to be aligned to “My Soul clients”, “My Soul friends” and “My Sou…

Be the Very Best You Can Be

“There is real magic in enthusiasm. It spells the difference between mediocrity and accomplishment.” – Norman Vincent Peale

One thing I have always feared is being mediocre. Few people understand what that really means. They think being mediocre is being average. But being average means you are somewhere in the middle in comparison to...

To Be Great, You Must START!

Do you ever find yourself sitting with a great idea (or what you consider to be great, at least!) but you just can’t get started, for whatever reason? Do you ever feel like you go over in your head a million times all of the scenarios of what could happen that you never actually rise up and try? The graveyard is full of ideas and concepts and inventions that could h…

Dads Challenge Accepted!

We all have particular things we like to write about, but what if one day you were asked to co-author a book in an area that you know next to nothing about? Would you say no because I don’t know how to write about that stuff? Or would you say okay? That is exactly what my dad did to me a few months ago. Since I cannot tell him no, my answer was the latter.

Now mi…

Today, I Prioritize Understanding Myself

When you step out onto your own path, you will inevitably be met with people who will doubt you, misunderstand your choices or sometimes even ridicule you.

These are painful moments.

They can also be astoundingly beautiful opportunities to RISE + meet yourself…in all of your messiness and self-doubt and shame for choosing something so aligned with your highe…

The will to make it through

You’ve got spunk, girl. I wouldn’t be surprised if if you made it to Savor city in one piece on pure spunk alone. Captain Mapstone, The green rider.

Many times one can be overwhelmed with disease, injury or debt. And when one looks at the situation, there often seems to be no light, no hope aund no way out. A feeling of giving up or depression slow…

The Knight, the Dragon and… the Child

In Do the Work, after the “Foreword” by Seth Godin, Steven Pressfield writes the following sentences:

“On the Field of the Self stand a knight and a dragon.

You are the knight. Resistance is the dragon.”

This scenario certainly evokes an epic battle, such as those of medieval romances and fantasy novels and movies. We are to engage in…

A Teacher has to Learn

Golf professionals are required to be many things at a golf course; manager, organizer, buyer, salesman, player and teacher. Growing up I thought all you had to know to be a golf pro was how to play golf!

That in itself is a difficult task, as in any expertise it takes about 10K+ hours of practice to reach an expert level. Along that journey I learned a lot abou…

If you don’t own your future, who will?

Let’s begin with the realization that you can’t choose who you are. Yep, that’s right your gene pool was already established and you get what you get. Those are called generational skills. Oh by the way, when surnaming began if you were the one that everybody came to get their clothes cleaned, you might have the surname of “Washman.” Other surnames appeared such as painter, …

Want to be happy and lucky?

In 2004, Professor Richard Wiseman, at the University of Hertfordshire in England, studied the beliefs and experiences of 4,500 lucky and unlucky people. He concluded that good fortune is not due to talent, hard work, good looks or intelligence – it’s a state of mind.

In studying the thought and action patterns of people who live productive, contented and apparently l…

Sunflowers Smile At You
…realize that each obstacle is a stepping stone to your goals; each distraction is a springboard to your future; each detour a sign you are headed in the right direction; and each disappointment is proof that your dream is still before you. ~ Uncle Joe Dunagan

I’ve taken the lonely road so many times in life because it ...

Let The Race Begin
The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat. ~ Lily Tomlin

Each of us is built with the incredible capacity to run the race of life. It’s a marathon designed to fulfil our special destiny if we avoid the shortcuts. ~ Vaughn Berkeley

So this month is a very special month. The challeng...

Soul-iloquy…Get VIP notice and FREE meditation!

What if you could have a conversation with your soul?

Could it help you with your career or your love life?

We all have times in our lives when we need to make critical decisions. Making these decisions in alignment with the soul, makes everything easier and more harmonious. Do ever you wonder what a soul-connected life would…

Push Notifications

I crave human connection, at our core, as humans; we all do. Yet in a world where being connected has never been easier, why is it so difficult to truly connect?

This isn’t about the ‘push notifications’ you think; the automated messages that you receive from various companies , apps and organizations. This is about what we humans do to one another…

I ha...

Are You Emotionally Expensive?

Physical and emotional exhaustion, reduced interest in others, decreased sense of personal accomplishment or responsibility, apathetic, the feeling of being “used up,” inefficient, drained, high’s/low’s, and inefficiency.  

When our emotions become the control center of how we think and how we operate from day to day, logic and truth disappear from how we live life a…


Contrary to what some people think, there are a lot of anglophones in Montreal. I am one of them, born and raised. Of course, I’ve watched many people leave in the last thirty or forty years due to Quebec’s language war, but there is still a significant amount of us left. Many of whom can not speak any French.

There are some, like me, who can speak enough to get ...

Are you committed to your excuses?

In my work as a fitness trainer and coach, I encounter people every day who want to improve their lives some way. They want to lose weight, they want to be stronger, they want to feel better, they want to get into a  routine of healthy habits that works for them and feels authentic and real. Who wouldn’t want that?

It seems pretty logical that if you wa…

How to Use Social Media the Right Way

As millennials, social media has had a strong presence in our lives for the past decade. It helps us stay in touch with friends, organize events, meet people that share our hobbies, and network. It shares content that makes us laugh, distracts us from life, and inspires us. It connects us with people from around the world and the latest news, keeping us aware and informed…

Beliefs and Guiding Principles in Life

To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him.

 ~ Buddha

1) Money is more important than health (False be…

Get Your Bounce Back Part 1

“One thing about championship teams is that they’re resilient. No matter what is thrown at them, no matter how deep the hole, they find a way to bounce back and overcome adversity.” Nick Saban

Do you remember that as a kid we always “bounced back?” You know, we may have skinned our knee, bloodied our nose, and knocked out a tooth, but we didn’t let that stop us – we “…

Are You Hard On Yourself?

Are you? Are you your own best/worst critic? Do you set the bar high and get angry or upset when you don’t reach it? Can you hear those little voices that my teachers call ‘the itty bitty shitty committee’ babbling on and on about everything you didn’t do right or at all?

What pressure!

I get that this is exhausting. It’s a part of bein…

Creating your own piece of history

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The book in the picture “The Elements of Style” is 100 years old this year. Yes 100 years old! If you are writing or have written a book, you are creating your own piece of history that could well be still being read in 100 years time. This arti…

7 Reasons to Grow in Self-Discipline

Kevin J. Hughes 3/4/2018

Paul Washer was preaching a sermon once in which he noted that most people in the West are not thinking about fasting. We do not tend to be people of fasting for several reasons, one of which is the simple fact that there are steakhouses everywhere, pizza places on every corner, and there are lots and lots of yummy burger joints where yo…

Writing is Therapy

Reflecting back to the past. 

I’m sixteen years old in history class. I’m sitting at my desk bored out of mind. My classmates are all talking about Shindler’s List. It’s some type of class discussion. I’m not paying attention. I’m off in my own world day-dreaming. I open my notebook. It’s a blank page. I act like I’m jotting down notes from today’s lessons. I sta…

Narcissist? Here R 6 Things U Should Ask Yourself

Do you have a healthy dose of high self-esteem— or an actual personality disorder?

You’re generous. You’re highly sociable. And when you meet new people, you make a damn good first impression, if you say so yourself. But underneath all of that external charm and hearty dose of self-esteem, you might actually be a narcissist.

Named after the Greek hero Narc…

The Cure to Procrastination

The Cure to Procrastination


Have you ever started a project and not finished it? Have you ever told yourself you’re going to do something but it never got done? I know I have. Many times. You start off with a grand vision, an amazing idea, you put your ideas down on paper and you start with high energy and enthusiasm. Then after a couple days or weeks or…

How to Rise Above Grief Once a Loved One Passes On

Jeremy transitioned from this lifetime on June 20, 2016 and he channels information to his mother, Rhonda Crockett Logue, to guide and assist us in living a Joyous Life on Earth! Rhonda Crockett Logue is a gifted Healer. Learn more about Rhonda at http://sprinklingsun…


I engaged in a discussion with a co-worker about being a late bloomer. It was a conversation that included the aspects of realizing career changes and finding what one really wants to do that will make one happy at certain critical times in one’s life. I told her that I have always known what I wanted to do in life, mostly due to the fact that the only thing that bloomed ear…

Five Quick Fixes for Negative Emotions

Many people believe that their emotional state is caused by events, circumstances, or the actions of other people.

  • ‘Buying new clothes makes me happy.’ 
  • ‘Failing that exam made me angry.’ 
  • ‘My boss said I was not performing, and it upset me for days.’ 

Our mental state however, results from our own self talk….

Happy Anniversary!!!

Happy GoRead anniversary to me!! Ha ha! This month marks one year that I have been publishing articles and sharing my scribbles with you.

It has been a fun, exciting, and scary year. I’ve met so many people virtually, and some in person, from all around North America; I’ve learned so much from reading author articles on all subjects and experiences; and I’ve pus...

Do This One Thing to Make Yourself Heard

In my last articles I have talked about the need to care for your voice and have begun talking about the three pillars of vocal greatness. The first two are breathing …

Do This One Thing to Make Yourself Heard

In my last articles I have talked about the need to care for your voice and have begun talking about the three pillars of vocal greatness. The first two are breathing …

If He Can Do It!

Let’s talk about dreams and aspirations. Fun subject, right?!? Easy discussion that gets the energy flowing. Lift your eyes a little and you will see dreams and aspirations at their finest. My son, Jake, is now the youngest person to become a certified member of the John Maxwell Team. He is trained and certified in the John Maxwell Method of Speaking, Coaching and Trai…

Your Turn To Stop Making Excuses

In my last article, Excuses That Hold You Captive, I shared how I have allowed my excuses to hold me back from launching a program I had been creating for your years. Even as a successful coach and amazon best selling author, I allowed my own excuses to g…

Why Do You Feel Unsuccessful?

Let’s face it- life happens! And, in a moment you may think you haven’t accomplished enough. You didn’t get that promotion. You don’t own your home. You haven’t settled down in a relationship while everyone around you has, and the list goes on. You look around and compare then think you’re not good or successful enough. Now, ask yourself this: What is my definition of su…

A Vision of Your Relationships

This article is shared with permission from

Relationships are an integral part of life. No matter which way you turn; you find yourself in some kind of a relationship with someone. As humans, we tend to walk in and out of relationships on an almost daily basis. Some ar…

When things come together effortlessly

I love when everything just flows with ease, for the past six months I’ve been pushing so hard for things to fall into place and become rather disappointed when my plan does not go as scheduled. This month I decided to let go of the expectations and add more to my plate without stressing about how I would find the time to accomplish everything without putting m…

Finding the Answers Within

How often do you take the time to listen deeply to the quiet voice within you? To find the answers waiting for you? Ever wonder what secrets or wisdom are hidden beneath the surface? What difference would it make for you to know those hidden answers?

We are often told to listen to your soul and find the answers within. But how do we do t…


 In life every time I leave a place to find healing. It seems like my closest friends in the place feel abandoned by my departure. They act like they lost somebody precious. They act like I’m the reason for their conflict and that’s why I left. They just want power over me. They just want to control me. They will manipulate me and do vindictive things to me until I play th…

7 Years of Blessings & Lessons My Son Taught Me

My father once told me that the older we get, the faster time flies by. Boy, he wasn’t kidding. After a stressful but fun weekend full of birthday celebration for my son’s 7th birthday, I sit here at my desk, full of gratitude and pride as I reflect upon the last 7 years that Lucas has graced us with his presence….

Year 1 – Me: Wtf am I doing? Him: W…

How To Take Inspired Action When You’re Terrified

“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.”-Mark Twain

You’ve got a vision for something important in your life and you know it will require you to step out in a new way. Whether it’s a heart-to-heart conversation with a loved one, committing to a new practice or getting onstage to …

Committing Within Binging

Good evening! I’m here in mid-Missouri, where I was born and raised, and gave a presentation today in front of 150++ people all on ‘Modern Mindfulness’. What a thrill. I forgot how much I love presenting, out of yoga clothes, off a yoga mat, and into the world.

I was reminded of what I’ve been working towards consciously and subconsciously for years and years — …

Through the Eyes Series…part 2

Through the eyes of Competition 

Some people label me an activity, and some an event. Others may see me as the effort that secures business. Who do you say I am? Am I confident? Do I resemble pride? I can’t be both, so who am I to you?

I grew up in the projects. There were times I would hear my mom on the phone with her friends saying, “I’ve never been home…

Reinvent Yourself!

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Do you ever wish you were something? If only I was … then people would think of me as…. an authority… If I was this successful then people would think……

You get what I am talking about… Read on and I will share a thought with you…………

I recently read a book call…

‘Overrated’ Is Not A Curse Word

If you’re a person with a decent amount of sense, you probably think that the word ‘overrated’ is one of the worst in the human language. Once something passes a certain level of fame and status, and some schmuck labels it that dreaded “O” word, you might sometimes feel like placing that person in a box and throwing it in the river. But is that “O” word really that offensiv…

How Feeling Low May Have a Physical Cause

​If you’re a coach, you probably don’t ask your clients about diet, exercise, or sleep habits. But low affect, or feeling low, can have a physical cause. That’s because the purpose of the brain is not to make us happy, or make rational decisions, but to ensure that…

Are You a Person of EXCELLENCE?



“It has been said that Perfection is unattainable, but my experience has proven that Excellence is within our reach, and I’ll choose and aspire to Excellence every time”

Christoff J. Weihman, I Am the Customer Experience

People often make mistakes, miss the mark and mess up. We forget to call a customer who is waiting fo...

The Code of the Extraordinary Mind

The Code of the Extraordinary Mind by Vishen Lakhiani is by Vishen Lakhiani, a computer engineer and entrepreneur in education technology, he is the founder and CEO of Mindvalley. My deepest gratitu…

Faithful [with the little things]

Part of my journey in becoming my best me included reading a lot of personal development books. I would listen to them on Audible as I drove. I would spend 15 minutes in the morning, digging into a book on how to better myself. What we put IN is a reflection on what comes OUT. I knew I had to do some heavy lifting inside so I was re-wiring my brain as often as I c…

QUIET! Shush The Lies In Your Head

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We are often our own roadblock to getting to where we want to be. Here are the three biggest lies we tell ourselves and how to combat them.

1. I don’t have the right education 

It’s true, there are some things in life that you need a degree or certification to do. However, dig into the backstory of some…

Who You Truly Are – THAT’S Your Game Changer!

Have you ever been in a place in your life that was so perfect for you and you never really realized it?

You thought you would try something different to see if the grass was greener on the other side? 

That was me. 

Once upon a time, I was a professional speaker. I travelled all over the world speaking on a passion, helping people change their …

TowaT #4 – Love

Valentine’s Day has come and gone for another year – what does that mean for “love” now? Do we shelve “love” til next year’s Valentine’s Day or continue to show and embrace love each day of the year? The answer may seem pretty clear. However, in our society, there seems to be so much emphasis on “love” for this one day. “Love” is to be celebrated each and every day …

Inspiration & Hope: Taking Lessons from Nick Foles

After the Philadelphia Eagles won Super Bowl LII against the New England Patriots on February 4, 2018, Nick Foles has given me inspiration to find hope because he is a true exemplar that dreams can come true. Nick Foles is a servant leader and a relentless hero, who exhibited faith, determination, and mustered the strength to win the biggest game of his life. Moreover, he…

Excuses That Hold You Captive

On several occasions I started to launch a program that was my dream program to coach and facilitate. It was as if I had been planning to teach and coach this program for years, years before I even started my own business. I had notebooks and pieces of papers filled with timeless information for me to share. But, every time I went to launch the program, something got in…

A Spoonful of Forgiveness

Breathe in…  ”I’m so fortunate to have opportunity to BEGIN AGAIN.”

This month I’ve been guiding a group through a ‘Reset’ {you can still join here}.  How do you connect with beginnings? Renewal? 

As we work to wipe the slate clean, especially time and time again, I’v...

Let Your Negative Emotions Go

Do you ever have those days where you feel so overwhelmed that you just want to break down? Where it seems like nothing is going right, perhaps someone just really hurt you, and no matter how you try to let it go, you just can’t? This is the point where release becomes so very important to our health. 

It is easy to stay in a place of overwhelm, sadness,fear anxiety…

Do This To Take Your Speaking To The Next Level

Do This One Exercise To Take Your Speaking Voice to the Next Level

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What if there was one thing that you could start doing today that could take your voice to the next level and start you on the journey to a vocal tone and command that you have only dreamed of?

Look no further because right now I want to share with you…

Book Publishing Journey-Part One

Reading Time: 60 Seconds

I’m going to share with you a series of articles relating to my experience of writing a book, this is by no means “teaching granny to suck eggs” as I am writing on a forum with so many published authors and extremely successful ones at that.

Each of our journeys and outlook is unique, I feel honoured to be able to share…

How To Find Happiness With Self-Love

Did you know that judging others negatively is actually a reflection of your own unhappiness?

When we comment about someone’s irresponsibility, deep down we wish we had the same freedom. When we moan about someone’s laziness, secretly we’re just annoyed we have to work so hard.

If you find yourself frequently being negative about others, perhaps it’s time...

Four Tips for Overcoming Writer’s Block

At one point or another, most writers will experience a form of “writer’s block.” Sometimes this is caused by fear, not knowing where to start, how to end, or the inability to stay focused due to outside circumstances.

Here are a few tips for overcoming writer’s block:

1. De-clutter your workspace. When your workspace is cluttered, your m…

A Simple Way to Get Rid of Your Negative Thoughts

We all have negative thoughts and emotions that we don’t like, thoughts that we’re not good enough, that we’re lazy, that there’s something wrong with us (you can add your own here …………). These thoughts can be so intrusive that they affect our day-to-day lives, our self-worth, and our long-term psychological health. And we want them to stop. How do you get rid of your ne…

What is wrong with me?

The key to answering this question is found in understanding whether you are an Introvert or an Extrovert. And let me tell you, the answer can be a game changer!

Most people don’t understand the true meaning of being an Introvert. It doesn’t necessarily mean you are shy, a wall flower or a book worm as the stereotype would have you believe. In actuality; many Introv…

Never Shy Away From Opportunity

At times opportunity may not always be as clear and straightforward as we would like it to be. Often times we find ourselves juggling the pros and cons associated with an opportunity in life. Whether it is the chance to move up at work, or even something a little more personal, we can find ourselves doubting and second-guessing. Experience has taught me that opportunities t...


We are two months into the new year. How are you doing? No pressure. I don’t want to know about the goals you’ve achieved, what’s next on your list, or any adjustments you may have had to make. Sometimes at this point in the year, there is a pressure we feel because we’ve set such high expectations for ourselves. We look at our goals and notice they are the same goals we se...

Celebrating Love Day in a non-romantic way

Although the history of Valentine’s Day stems from the spirit of love between two, as well as bans on marriage, St. Valentine’s adoration for love and going against establishment to marry people anyways, war, and murder, really all things tragic – a word that often embodies love, and the modern Hallmark “tradition” that Valentine’s Day is only for couples… a lot of …

My Dream Superpower

You know how people always ask you what superpower you want?

Everyone wants to fly, or time travel.

I don’t.

I just want one superpower.

And my superpower is something that I can actually get without having to defy the laws of gravity or jeopardize the space-time continuum.

I just want confidence.


If I had ...

Getting through a bad day!(Being resilient)

Today I feel like this picture of the tree! I am bent over from the strong winds in my life! I have  chosen some of these wind storms, knowing that I will survive because I believe that I am flexible and resilient,but today my bed looks very inviting! I am sure that we have all had these days and maybe weeks, but I hope that your personal resiliency has given you strength. …

Reconnecting with “You”

Have you ever had the feeling as though you’ve lost yourself?

That innate substance and vitality that made you undeniably you?

With the inevitable challenges that life decides to pile on our plates, we seem to put ourselves last on our to do lists. 

With the pressures of society, work, parenting and relationships, its imperative to find an…

6 Ways to Practice Self-Love

What is the source of our world’s problems? Greed, hatred, bigotry, indifference… the list could go on and on. It could be any or all of them.

If you could imagine one thing having the power to transform them all, what would it be? Love! The most powerful force in the world. All you need is love. Love will conq…

A Vision for Your Health in 2018

Please note that this article is shared with permission from

As our world turns health conscious, there are more and more individuals with goals to better their health and live a consciously healthier lifestyle. But with what mindset? We all know how to live healthier and w…

The Peacefulness About Transitioning

OBSERVATION is your greatest asset! Do you ever stop yourself amidst the chaos and just observe what is happening? No judgement, no comments, no opinions – just observe what it is, exactly as it is.

It was the summer of 2016 and my eldest daughter was completing her masters in neuroscience at a university in London, Ontario. I would ofte…

A Connection to INSPIRATION

What is your source of inspiration? Often we think it needs to be something monumental, something of significance or something of great value. As a leader, an entrepreneur, a coach and mentor – you are first a human being who needs to fulfill your own resources and keep yourself fully connected to your source before you can make a connection with others and be an insp…

Life Is But A DANCE

Counselling is a huge part of a hairdressers job and quite often not of their own free will. It IS however a great honour knowing that my clients trust me with their most intimate and secret life. Sometimes clients trust their hairdresser more than they trust their partner, their doctor or even their best friend. Why, you ask? I would vent…

What do you want? It’s complicated.

It fascinates me that I am continually able to find parallels between business and wellness. It really all comes down to defining a life that you want for yourself and going after it.

Seems a lot more straightforward than it really is. Why, after all, wouldn’t you go after the life that you want? But it’s more complicated …

Money-Saving Tips [from someone who is debt free]

I wrote last month about a few money-saving strategies I used to pay off debt, including my mortgage by the time I was 33. This month, I want to dive into a few more concepts and ideas, and hopefully provide some specific ways where you can add more money into your pocket. 

The thing I want to stress the most is before you go to battle, you have to know what you…


 I was a little girl in the fifth grade growing up trying to find myself. My hair was brunette, and always cut into some hideous mush-room cut. I looked like a little boy. It was so uneven. It was humiliating. I embraced it. My mom wasn’t exactly a hair-stylist, but she gave me home-made hair-cuts. It was all we could afford. I appreciated it.

 I never lik…

The Fastest Way to Call in Your Greatest Desires

Throughout my many years of studying and practicing conscious creation, I have learned that there is one thing that calls into your physical reality what you want faster than anything else. And that is to BE in the energy of the one who has it already. And the way to do this is through gratitude.

Gratitude, is one of the highest vibration energy states to be in. B...

The Power of Gratitude

Throughout my many years of studying and practicing conscious creation, I have learned that there is one thing that calls into your physical reality what you want faster than anything else. And that is to BE in the energy of the one who has it already. And the way to do this is through gratitude.

Gratitude, is one of the highest vibration energy states to be in. But …

Three Steps Of Proper Study

Kevin J. Hughes 2/11/2018

Last week I talked about maximizing study time, this week, I want to go a little bit more basic. For someone who says, “I enjoy reading, but I don’t know how to read deeply, how to get the most out of my reading.” Well, there are three steps that I think can not only make you a better reader, but also make your reading wildly practica…

Four Time Management Tips for Writers

As writers, a common challenge we often face is that of time management. While it’s necessary to develop a strong daily writing habit in order to meet deadlines and complete our projects, life often has a way of presenting obstacles. Before long, we resolve that we just don’t have enough time to write, so we put off the project until later…when the timing is right,…

Living Small

“Hello, can you see “me?” Do you know “my” name? Have you seen what “I” can do? No…don’t look over there, LOOK HERE, AT ME…please?!”

Do you ever feel invisible? Are you trying to get noticed? We now live in a society that tells us the only way to be successful is to be known. The saying used to go, “It’s all about who you know, but now it’s turned into, it’s all about…

My Many Faces of Anxiety

Ever since I can remember, people keep saying to me how they admire me for being so brave, strong, and confident. Yeah so about that…the thing is…I feel like that’s a load of donkey crap. It’s a lie. There, I said it. I’m not brave, I’m just bloody too stubborn to know any better and I’m super opinionated, and when I’m really passionate about something then I’ll do e…


There are three words I want you to look at in this statement. REMEMBER, WAS, and YESTERDAY….What is it that you feel the need to “remember”? What “was” but you still feel as if it is? What is “yesterday” holding you captive to? There is such a as a new beginning and yours will begin when you s…

11 Tips For Clearing Negativity

Do you ever feel stuck in a cycle of negativity and you desperately want to get out of it?

Have you ever felt bogged down with heavy energy?

Do you notice that you pick up the energy and emotions of those around you and don’t know how to clear them?

Many of us are empathic and are sensitive to the f…

I Am A Writer

I am a writer. A bit obvious I suppose, but very true, and oh so empowering. This is one of but many epiphanies lately. I am recognizing Self, and surrendering to the highest path of what feels good. Writing feels good. It is free flowing, and pure, a path of least resistance. It is not forced; it simply comes. A form of channeling that comes most natural to me.

I ho…

What’s Wrong with Mr. Perfect?


An editor at Esquire magazine asked me why a certain reader’s profile wasn’t getting the desired results. On the surface this 39-year-old, good-looking guy with a great life/job/future seemed like Mr. Perfect.

I gathered eight women aged 23 to 35 (his desired range) and gave them his profile and two …

The Best Thing I Ever Learned

I’m writing an exam this week.

Another one.

Why on God’s green earth do I do this to myself?

I’ve spent the last 20-years of my life in school which follows the mandatory 12-years of education prior to becoming an adult.

I can never remember a time when I haven’t been registered in a formal “higher” education course for my career, not to mention…


Today is the first day of the rest of your life….sound like cliche right? But what if it wasn’t….

What if today you decided to take a deep look at yourself as you know it, What makes you happy…..what makes you sad……what’s your favourite colour…..what do you enjoy doing….what annoys you the most……what’s your favourite song or songs

Up until recently, I was s…

How to Stop Living for Tomorrow

Last year, I had one of those conversations that just sticks with you. The type you reflect on often and that ends up playing a big role in your life.

One of my entrepreneur friends and I were talking about the lives we felt we were “supposed” to be living. You see, both of us came from corporate jobs where we felt trapped in the routine of just surviving the d…

Re-Do the Renew: BEGIN AGAIN

Time to re-do the renew

Hello and happy February 2018. And may I ask, what just happened?

Was there even a month in there? Yesterday was December, then the U.S. got the flu, I went to Austin, and boom. poof. It’s nearly February.

Are you with me?

BEGIN AGAIN is no new notion. It’s one I literally live by and it gets me th…

You are Being Programmed.

Subliminal messages, hypnotic suggestions, media programming, dreams, scary movies, watching TV and playing video games… it’s all REAL… it’s all PROGRAMMING according to the unconscious mind.

You are being programmed to live in fear, to feel like you aren’t ‘enough’ and that living your life boldly and fully is something that has to be ‘earned’ at some incr…

Tips on How 2 Break and Overcome a Bad Habit

Do you have any bad habits that seem to be harming your career, your family, and yourself? If your answer is ‘Yes’, this article is for you. You need to realize first, though, that each of us have a bad habit. Some of these bad habits are not too harmful, but some, like cigarette smoking, binge drinking, and porn watching, can be outright destructive. The thing about habi…

What Does It Really Mean To Be A Teacher?

What Is Talent Anyway, And What Does It Really Mean To Be A Teacher?

“I am a teacher and the reason I’m a teacher is because I’m learning as hard as I can. I’m not any different from anybody else. I am searching and having some success finding answers.“

-Andy Andrews

Andy Andrews really is a unique …

Through the Eyes Series…part 1

Through the eyes of gratefulness. 

I am a feeling that enters into a person’s heart once they have experienced a second chance. I am a feeling that takes root inside a person’s thoughts after they have overcome heartache that has imprisoned them for an extended period of time. I am a friend to many, but an enemy to most.  

My friends and famil…

The Power of Forgiveness

The Power of Forgiveness

I go see every Super Hero movie. The latest one was Wonder Woman, and I even took my seven year old granddaughter —before I realized it was PG! (Sorry, Maisie, for having to cover your eyes sometimes!)

The reason I wanted her to see it was because Wonder Woman stood for the Power of Love — which is a good message to sha…

From Chaos to Serene!

From Chaos to Serene; this is my tagline. I came up with the business name, Serenity Organizing Solutions, based on how I wanted my clients to feel after working together. My tagline came out of how most clients feel before me entering the picture: chaotic, overwhelmed, don’t know where to start, and def…

Don’t Change Your Sponge, Change How You Use It

You know that old saying, “Out with the old, in with the new?” Well, we’re going to use that metaphor literally today. I’d like you to go to your kitchen or bathroom or wherever you last used a sponge to clean something. Take a really good look at that sponge. Pretty yucky and cruddy I imagine? It’s been through the ringer and back, been through some rough scrapes, proba…

Make a decision and commit to your goals.

Whether it’s finances, health and fitness, family, or success in any area of life, we all can agree at some point, we wanted (or want) to make a change. The question is “How bad do you want it?” Realize that change starts from within. It sounds cliche, but nothing worth having comes easy. You must have a burning desire to make the change, and more importantly, DECIDE …

The Price of Pleasure: What Are You Sacrificing?

You must be the change you wish to see in the world. ~ Mahatma Ghandi

We often choose to do things that are easiest because being at rest is pleasant. It gives our bodies and minds a chance to relax and rejuvenate so it’s easy to choose to lay on the couch to have a nap or watch TV. However, those activities do not bring us the most pleasure…

The Price of Pleasure: What Are You Sacrificing?

You must be the change you wish to see in the world. ~ Mahatma Ghandi

We often choose to do things that are easiest because being at rest is pleasant. It gives our bodies and minds a chance to relax and rejuvenate so it’s easy to choose to lay on the couch to have a nap or watch TV. However, those activities do not bring us the most pleasure, nor do…

Stepping Stones

Picture this;

You’re standing in front of a long path, the sun is setting quickly but the snow falling lightly around you is sparkling from the light posts guiding your way. It’s quiet and everything is covered in a soft white blanket. 

With each step taken a footprint is left behind. You advance with caution so each one is so perfectly placed. The…

Just Breathe

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In my last article, I explain how everything in our life, our relationships, and our businesses, depends on the mastery and care of your voice. I am writing my first book, Your Business is Your Voice, which draws on my 20 plus years as a pe…

Ask for What you Want: the Ripple Effect

I’ve shared a related topic before — being LOUD enough in asking for what you want {check in my articles}.

Review it if you missed it, but I asked you to allow a window of s o a k i n g in what you’re wanting in this moment of this life…

Here we are, _________ {whenever you may be reading this}. If possible, give yourself three minutes of quiet time– close …

Embrace The Process

I think this phrase makes me cringe a little when I hear it. In fact, I think it makes almost all of us cringe. Just hearing the term “the process” has an immediate connotation of negativity. It’s usually not talking about embracing life when everything is awesome, when things are going great, when times are easy, when money is plentiful, or when business is good. We don’t…

Blogging One Word At A Time

A few months ago, I wrote about National Blog Posting Month in my article, Celebrate Blogging. It shared exactly what National Blog Posting is and whether or not I would participate this year. Also know as NaBlo…

A Lapse In Consistency

“Consistency is contrary to nature, contrary to life. The only completely consistent people are the dead.” Aldous Huxley

2017 didn’t end the way I wanted it to; nor did 2018 start off with the BANG that I was looking for. I ended one and started the next with a MAJOR three week lapse in consistency; howbeit, not by choice. Type 2 influenza intruded three days befo...

#5 Powerful People Carry a Real No

Who loves a spoiled kid? They turn into spoiled teenagers. They turn into passive entitled adults, finding purpose in social media, offering close to nothing to society…outside of maybe credit card de…

Liquid courage is no one’s friend

When one consumes alcohol to the point that it interferes with one’s workplace manners, hygiene and attitude. It becomes a problem within one’s own life, even though it makes one feel good, dismiss pain and slows reaction time. Which can impede one’s good judgement, social skills and time management. Even if drinking, partying it up and “Livin’ the High life” may seem like a goo…

Triumphant Wall… The Saga Continued

With each tear a new brick was cemented into my wall of protection…

In my last article I bravely wrote about a painful part of my story for the first time, publicly. Sharing my truth was therapeutic for me and it helped others to realize that they are not alone. Trauma effects each of us differently, so there is not a magic pill or secret, quick fix …


For those who are not familiar with the word “Destash”, it means to remove or declutter. It is a verb used mainly by crafters and can be both extremely stressful and rewarding.

Stressful how?

I craft. Soap, cards, baked goodies, knitting, embroidery, sewing, painting…just to name a few. In my position I have become attached to most of my crafting gear, eve…

The gift of rejection.

Rejection is being moved away from people, places and things that are not good for us. I like to believe it is the universe’s way of saying “Hey you, that person is not a good fit, that job you so badly want isn’t going to cut it..something better is coming! Hold on to your hat!”

Positive? Yeah, you are right! I am because I have learnt that happiness is in leaving …


 2017 kicked me down the flight of stairs called ‘LIFE’ at least 24 times; twice a month, every month, without fail. Some months, I was still laying at the bottom of the stairs when good ole 2017 decided to remind me AGAIN that I was in its world now, and I had to play by its rules. You would think that after finding me there, crumpled, broken and half dead, that SOME compa...

A Vision of Your Spiritual Self for 2018

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It may seem strange to start your vision setting with a vision of your spiritual self. After all, there are so many other aspects of your life that are so much more interesting to explore, like money, health, relationships… We will get to those in due time. For the time being h…

Are Your Beliefs Really Yours….Pt 2

Finding Your Own Path…

Part one of this article talks about our 1st set of influences and how it all began..….I would suggest that you read the 1st article as this is a continuation…..

Some of us in trying to find our own p…

It Really Is Okay To Choose You! Really It Is!

One of the hardest choices we have difficulty in making is choosing ourselves. Why? We never want to appear selfish, self-serving, uncaring, or as if we are putting ourselves on a pedestal. I realized when it came to the love I gave, I never made myself a part of the equation. It was in part because of where I was emotionally, and I had to decide to change that.


Elevating Your Consciousness

“Every day, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly a…

Welcome Home

If you read my last article, Knowing When To Move On And Let Go, you read that not too long ago, I had a very tough decision to make. The decision was to move on and no longer write articles for Go Read. Well it’s been a little over three months and I decide…

Welcome Home

If you read my last article, Knowing When To Move On And Let Go, you read that not too long ago, I had a very tough decision to make. The decision was to move on and no longer write articles for Go Read. Well it’s been a little over three months and I decided to come back home. Home to Go Read.

I had spent over a year writing on the platform. During that time I l…

Are You Overwhelmed by Stress?

Let’s face it- Stress is inevitable. However, we have a tendency to further complicate the problem, which results in added stress. “Stress begets stress. It’s downright combustible. We set ourselves up for higher levels of pressure. We involve ourselves in thoughts and behaviors that escalate it.” There is ample information available on preventing and dealing with stres…

Your Business Is Your Voice

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Your voice. The unique tones, textures, phrasing that you make. There is no other voice like it. Only you can sound exactly like you. It is why voice recognition technology works. You use your voice every day from conference calls, to calling for taxis, to coaching your child’s soccer team. Your voice has the power to create relationships…

Unlock Creativity and Increase Your Writing Speed

Have you ever experienced a time when you’ve been “in the zone” during a writing session, only to go back later to read your writing and find the words are almost unrecognizable to you? Ever wonder why that is? Well, it’s likely you tapped into the flow of creativity!

The goal is to get into that creative flow during each writing session and to do that we must res…

Walk Your Way To The Answers You Need

Are you an entrepreneur, solopreneur, mompreneur, business owner, designer, author, writer, blogger, builder, dreamer, consciously evolving human being or some combination of the above? Then you’re in excellent company. And like most of us in the tribe, your thinking gets muddled from time to time. Too many options, too many obstacles, too many decisions. Not enough time,…

Letting Go of Who You Think You Are

If you check my history of articles, you will notice how the month of December I focused on re-exploring my love of the Yankees and Major League Baseball. I had been so hyper focused on my own spirituality in the recent years, that perhaps I did not see the “point” in my love of the Yankees. However, the heart wants what it wants, and my Yankee love is here to stay. I let…

#4 Powerful People Have Friends They Disagree With

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Do you have any friends that you disagree with?

Our society has these ‘big’ things that are glibly slid under the rug as off limits in public dialogue. To name a few: Religion, politics, and if you are on a college campus almost anything.

Who Made That Rule Up?

This idea that you can’t talk about these ‘…

Why is rejection such a hard pill to swallow?

Rejection is a tough topic for most people, we know deep down that it perhaps just wasn’t meant to be or to keep in mind that something better is coming along so why stress about it? Well the fact is rejection is tough it isn’t easy to have that feeling of not being good enough or to not be chosen. If it is a job, a new client that decides to take another route or a r…


Do you feel a sense of relief when you purge items from your closet, junk drawer, or inbox? I do!

Clearing out clothes, papers, and trinkets makes me feel accomplished and proud, but only temporarily. For some reason no matter how “productive” I am, months later I find myself clearing what feels like the same pile of clutter.

This year, however, I am determi…

I’m Scared to Share This With You

I have spent all week going back and forth as to whether I should write this. I have tried various headlines and played with this topic because I am not sure if you will like what I write.

I have a message to share, and I am unsure where to start.

How do I gain your trust? What if you think I’m silly? What if you don’t like what I have to say?


So You Want To Pay Off Some Debt?

It was Labor Day Weekend and we had just said goodbye to summer. Standing on the shore of the lake, I said to my parents, “I want to pay off my house by the time I’m 33.” I’m not really sure how they responded or reacted – but in my bones, it was terrifying to say those words aloud. But, when I did, something activated in my spirit. It felt a little bit too lofty, bu…

It’s Ok To Say No

As part of my continuous journey of living my truth, I am learning to say no to things that I don’t want to do. 

In the past, I always thought that I was selfish if someone asked me to do something and I said no. I have no idea who put that thought in my head, but I have been living by that rule for all my life. It’s only been in the last couple of years that I…



it is true it is fact I looked and I looked and never settled. Some call it ambition. Some call it ungrateful. I call it lost. Could everything one ever wanted exist right there in plain site. We Look high we look low but why do we forget to look within? Searching outside ourselves is exhausting and fatal. There is the perfect place to keep the perfe…

How are you getting your Dopamine?

Dopamine is the happy chemical your brain releases into your body,when you are really enjoying something. Thank god for Dopamine you may say! And I have to agree, what would life be without happiness and the feel good factor.?But things are a little bit trickier than that, you see not all activities we do that release Dopamine are good for us and if we practise the negative …

Solid Foundation = Solid Life

Let’s pretend for a moment that you are a house. What do you do to build a strong and lasting house? You build a sturdy foundation of course! This foundation represents everything that is and makes up YOU. After that is done, then you can continue to build on that foundation…like the first floor: which represents your relationship with your partner. Again, you have to make …

Reclaim Your Personal Power in 2018

Make a decision that your life will be better with less effort and more satisfaction. You have access to the power you need using the simple start, stop, and continue formula. First, stop taking everything that happens outside of yourself personally. For example, how many times have you been cut off in traffic traveling to where you are sitting this ver…


As I enter into this new year and prepare to Speak, Coach, and write my 4th book, I do it embracing ‘my different”. My different is the uniqueness of who I am. It’s the distinction that God has made between me and everyone else in the world.

Started my day as I usually do with prayer, reading a scripture, and then going through the to-do list. I logged onto my s…

# 3 Powerful People – Call Poison What It Is

Over consumption of drugs and alcohol carry negative societal stigmas in our culture. And rightly so. They are generally easy to say no to for the masses. Consumers will referred to has  drunks or druggies by the general population. We may have some level of compassion for them, maybe we can relate to them from our own personal experience. Very few people get into drugs …

The Tale of Two Brothers

Many years ago I heard a story about two brothers and it goes like this:

A journalist found a dysfunctional family; a mom and dad and two young boys. The dad was a drunkard and a criminal who was no stranger to the justice system and who would beat the living crap out of his wife and would also take turns on the boys whenever he was home. The journalist decided to…

Setting a Vision for 2018

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Every year in January, after all the Happy New Years are said and done, I start hearing a buzz of new year’s resolutions. While resolutions are a great way to start the new year on a positive note, they are often too vague and lack the…

Hail to the Queen of Procrastination!

Many of us, myself included…just want to throw that in there!… have the tendency to wait until the last second to get things done. Our schedules are so bombarded with so many other important things that sometimes it’s hard to prioritize and we can’t avoid putting off some certain tasks. Like for example, on Sunday I may give myself a personal deadline to complete 5 blo…

Magic & The Butterfly


I proposed the idea of choosing one word for the new year to my online community. Consider this a one word frequency stamp on 2018, I said. Responses flooded in. For some, it would be a year of wonder, of joy, and for others, a year of prosperity and love. As I wrote this post, my own word was yet to be unveiled. I did not intend to force a response or word. I si…

The #1 Way To Grow Yourself in 2018

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What is the #1 way to grow yourself and meet your personal and professional goals in 2018? Self-awareness. 

Understanding why you feel and behave the way you do gives you power to chang…

Finding More in Less

With the new year, many of us have made resolutions to do more–exercise more, eat more veggies, pursue our interests more.  What if I told you that you can accomplish more with less? The minimalist movement is all about living more with less stuff.  No idea how to get started?  Here are a few tips to help you do more with less. 

Think about it. Do you really need 16 p…

Lost and Found – The Path to Self-Discovery

Do you ever feel lost? I don’t mean literally lost on route to a destination where you can stop at the gas station and ask for directions; I’m talking about internally lost. Do you ever feel like your wheels are just spinning but you’re not moving any which way? Do you ever ask yourself questions that resemble “what am I doing here?” “What is my purpose?” This is all part o...

Honor Thy Self

Honor Thy Self – Today I woke up feeling like total complete crap. I had another horrible night’s sleep on the worlds worst mattress, my body is going through food withdrawals as I detox all the years of garbage I have put into it, I’m sitting here alone again in this great big house while the rest of the family is all off living their lives and yup you got it – today …

Morning Glory or Impending doom?

“I have the blues every morning” my client said to me last week. “As soon as I wake up, I feel what can only be described as ‘Impending doom” she laughed, then laughed again and said “That’s quite a contradiction in terms, isn’t it?”

“Laughter and Impending doom,being in the same sentence together.” “But that is how it is.I have fear. I am fearful of the whole …

Stop It!

“Stop it! Just stop it!” was what coach Mike Ditka used to say in his Stop It segment on ESPN’s NFL Primetime show. Every week on this show these clowns on NFL Primetime would show clips of games from the previous weekend and laugh at the antics of players, coaches, or fans as coach Ditka yelled, “Stop it! Just stop it!”

Then, on one particular Sunday m...

Staying Consistent in achieving your goals

We all know setting goals for ourselves is one thing, but being consistent in reaching them is something else entirely. I for one know I struggle very much in being consistent whether it is short term goals or long term goals.

I always tell myself, I’ll do better but that never works. What I’ve come to realize however that without actually putting in the effort, …

Who Do You Give Your Authority To?

“Take Me, Take Me NOW!”

I say this from time to time. And no, not sex-related (although, what isn’t), but more UFO or rapture related.

This usually comes at a time when I feel stuck on making decisions and I just want to say, HERE. Here, someone, anyone, Ryan Reynolds or Jeffrey Dean Morgan, come take the reins cause I’m tired of steering this ol’ Millenium…


I’ll be forty-six years young in the next couple of weeks and I’ve had cause to reflect on the kinds of bad relationships that I’ve had that at the time I thought were good. More to the point, I had to reflect on the people that were my closet friends, business partners and lovers, and what made them my former friends, ex-business partners and ex-lovers.

For my p…

How Unsuccessful People Network

In my opinion, networking truly is an art. If you don’t talk enough, you could be perceived as cold or aloof. If you talk too much, you could be considered unprofessional or self-interested. To do it right, it may help to learn from those who do it exactly wrong.

Here’s what unsuccessful people do when networking.

They talk all about themse…

A New Era Is Coming…

I wasn’t sure what I would write as my first article of the new year. There have been so many ideas going through my head lately, so much I want to share. There was a time were I struggled with the sharing, showing ANY sign of vulnerablity was not my thing. What I am learning, is the more I write, the more I come to the surface. 

So to start the new year off, I’…

Who Do You Trust?

Clients tell me all the time that they have ‘trust issues’. They don’t TRUST that their significant other will show up for them. They don’t TRUST that their boss will be fair. They don’t TRUST that their child will obey or comply with the family rules. They don’t TRUST that their parent will be respectful or…

Avoiding the Trap of Materialism

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or objects”. ~ Albert Einstein

The fascination and obsession with material things in modern societies is very evident. What is not so evident to many people are the tremendous impacts that materialism has on many different things in the world. One doesn’t have t…

I’m Done Waking Up to the Wrong One

Waking up to the wrong one has everything to do with me—and also nothing to do with me. Let me walk you through a little of my journey to becoming more selfless every day, yet becoming more my true, God-ordained self at the same time.

It’s 6:30am and the alarm jolts me out of slumber. With my eyes barely open, I sit up, reach down for my cell phone, and think to my…

Mastering Your Ultimate Morning Ritual

What time do you wake up in the morning? 

Are you one of those who wears out the snooze button on your alarm clock and plays the “How CLOSE can I cut it?” game, desperately hoping the traffic lights are on your side that morning? 

OR, are you one of the those early birds who set your alarm two hours ahead of time, so you are able to sit and relax with your …

Why I decided to write a book.

I’ve been asked this question since the day I decided to write my book, I can understand people’s confusion as I was never a writer nor expressed any interest in writing. Writing was never a passion of mine and had someone asked me 5 years ago if I would ever write a book the answer would have been a definite NO. So what changed in me that all of the sudden I had…

I’m A Solivagant, Are You?

Louisa May Alcott, author of Little Women, said, “I like good strong words that mean something.”

Those particular good strong words of hers are one of my favorite quotes. I’m a lover of words and one good strong word I’ve recently learned and fallen head over heels in love with is: solivagant. I fell in love with solivagant when I realiz…

Setting Writing Goals for the New Year

I just love the new year…

A blank canvas filled with endless possibilities, a time to start a new project, or set a few goals for the months ahead.

Often, we start out strong, filled with excitement and full of intentions, but how many of those goals do we actually meet?

How many resolutions do we stick to? How many dreams do we let …


In case you were wondering…a stigma is a negative attitude toward a substance (like alcohol / drugs), or against a type of person for their appearance/beliefs/sexual orientation/behaviour/race & culture, and also often with mental health issues such as depression and anxiety disorders. There can even be a stigma from the simple act of asking for help, but daring not to,...

Is that all there is?

“Is that all there is…

Then let’s keep dancing..”

These are lines of a chorus of a song sung by Peggy Lee in 1969.The song title is “Is that all there is”, I have added a link at the end of this article.

When I was young in 1969 and first heard this song, I questioned its meaning and quite honestly did not understand the song at all. It just mad…

Three Ways to Build a Library that Makes You Grow

I was watching a movie once, and the main villain talked about how everyone, “Piles up books that they have not read.” This was one of his complaints about humanity in general, and even himself. However, is this a bad thing? Moreover, as we build our personal libraries, how can we make them as fruitful as possible? In other words, how can our personal libraries work for us…

Be Authentically You

If you’ve been following me and reading my articles, you may have noticed that I talk a lot about being bold and being authentic. When I was younger, I always had a little rebel inside of me. I was a good girl yes, but following rules that I didn’t understand has always been a bit of a problem. As I got older and slipped to a world of responsibility, that rebel voice…

Another Wild Story

 This is anoher book of mine. I began with science fiction, but I wanted to expand. I’ll always do fiction. There are just many typoe. This one is a medical fiction story. The beauty of this story is you go on a ride the entire span of the story.

This story is a monster. Even edited, it’s 775 pages. I know it sounds War & Peace long, but the story is entertain...

It Can Happen to You – If you Just Start

There seems to be a general theme to the conversation as we move into the New Year. Some people are making New Year’s resolutions while others gave up that tradition long ago.

When I think of the New Year, I think of what’s to come. I think about what I can accomplish, where I can go and who I can help. Each year I make a mental note to focus on one unpopular t…

One Man To Beat

“Past and Present I know well; each is a friend and sometimes an enemy to me. But it is the quiet, beckoning Future, an absolute stranger, with whom I have fallen madly in love.” Richelle E. Goodrich, Slaying Dragons

Welcome to 2018, but have you fallen in love with your future? With all the “New Year’s resolutions” and goal setting that goes on at this time of ye…

5 steps in healing Abandonment Issues

At 3 months of age, I was abandoned. I had a life-threatening illness that needed immediate treatment and so I was taken away from my mother and put in hospital. I stayed there for a month and during that time had a life-saving operation and survived, but I came away with more emotional scars than the angry red one that stretched across my stomach.

Now I say ab…

Escape to your DREAMS!!!

 ”Reflections,” by Christina Aguilera is on top volume blaring through my headphones. I know I’m always listening to old classics every time I sit down to write. It helps me connect with my inner-self, my emotions, and the deepest part of my soul. It’s a song about change. It’s a song abou…

A New Year, A New Start

As we begin the new year, people all over are, no doubt, also getting started on their new resolutions. From weight loss to battling addictions to simply spending more time with their families, millions of people are resolving to make THIS the year they change their lives. I even have one or two of my own. But as we embark on these journeys, it is important that we re…

When the White Space becomes the Goal

Ahh, who else took note the New Year started on a Monday, and that we also had the first Full Super Moon of the year the same day? Did you breathe into that energy? I know I sure did. I wrote down the things I was letting go of in 2017- limiting thoughts, beliefs, and yes, even some people were on that list #sorrynotsorry; and I burnt that piece of paper like a boss a…

Strutting Into 2018

This is how I’ve planned to STRUT 2018.

I started with my commitments.

I wrote out several pages of what I am committed to for 2018.

I mean, what outcomes am I really committed to? Love, Body, Mind, Spirit, Relationships, Business, Money.

It helped me cut out all the crap, set boundaries, and create a schedule of exactly how I want my daily lif…

There’s A Strategy To This

I wanted to take a moment to encourage you as you enter into this new year. You have declared that this year will be your best year yet, and you’re ready to tackle a host of ideas, plans and goals to make that declaration come true, and I say “GO FOR IT!” As you implement your plans and goals know that there will be challenges, “STAY STRONG AND KEEP GOING!” Your perc…

Let Your Greatness Shine in 2018

Let Your Greatness Shine in 2018!


The fireworks are over, the ball has been dropped, the countdown has struck midnight, now what? You’ve raised a glass, you greeted your friends and loved ones and cheered, “Happy New Year!” So, what will be different for you 12 months from today? What will be different for me? 

For some people, they meet the New Year…

Let Your Greatness Shine in 2018

Let Your Greatness Shine in 2018!


The fireworks are over, the ball has been dropped, the countdown has struck midnight, now what? You’ve raised a glass, you greeted your friends and loved ones and cheered, “Happy New Year!” So, what will be different for you 12 months from today? What will be different for me? 

For some people, they meet the New...


For the past 2 years I have a joy jar in my office. I got this idea from my daughter Amanda. Today Jan 3rd 2018, I read through all the notes I left myself & it was amazing as well as fulfilling to see the meaningful bits I accomplished last year.



 – Create your own JOY JAR today with an empty...

Move Beyond Resolutions To Results

It’s a NEW YEAR! Let the resolutions rip! The new gym membership, vegan diet, cutting up the credit cards, saving money by packing your lunch, the year you stop smoking, and commit to going to church more than just on Easter, Christmas, a funeral or a wedding.  STOP! Being gently truthful, you’ve been here before, and more than likely by the end of the…

In the Stillness

I wish you less

  • Less perfecting and pleasing and putting on airs
  • Less blaming and shaming to make room for more loving and wondering
  • Less anger, anxiousness, less apathy
  • Less mindlessness about the preciousness of how you use your time
  • Less time-wasting and more time adventuring
  • ...
How To Read A Book A Day (Even If You Read Slow)

So, you love to read, you know you need to read in order to acquire wisdom quickly and you want to read as many books as possible…

But you’re SLOW.

I get it.

We’re in the same boat.

It sucks.

Maybe you’ve even tried audiobooks.

But, for some reason the information just doesn’t stick as well as reading the words on a page.


How to Make a Difference (in a Big Way!) This Year

Happy New Year! The new year is upon us and for many that brings a time of reflection and goal setting. What are our resolutions for the year? And what do we hope to accomplish? How can we boost our impact? And how do we make it stick? Today’s post shares some ideas on how to make a difference in 2018 and beyond.



So What’ll it Be?

Hello! January ONE, TWO, and nearly THREE! What?!

I’m taking each day, day. by. day.

A friend reminded me recently that depression occurs when we hang in the past; anxiety happens as we anticipate the future; so why not stick with the present?

I’ve been thinking a lot on that lately. When I catch my thoughts/feelings {see previous emails for more} in t…

#2 Being Powerful Requires Trained Emotions

Emotions are Bizarre

Stand back and watch a situation where people  are emotnially engaged. You will see things that defy logic. You will find feelings, intuition and passion moving on high alert and depending on the personality of the people in the situation you can have incredibly hurtful moments that are rarely pre meditated…

Create a Foundation of Rocks

January can be a month of “oxymoron thinking”. On one hand you promise yourself to start the year off strong with lots of things on your bucket list for the year. On the other hand – reality of your material wealth is very top of mind and charity is no longer a willing act. Now you are focusing on paying the debts created from the holiday season. The gifts bought, the partie…

2018: My Wish For You This New Year

The new year is upon us and we’ve resolved to change, to create new life-altering habits, to reach hitherto unattained goals. This is all well and good and is one of our most beloved traditions–to turn a new leaf with the turn of the year, thus we make New Year’s resolutions in the most sincere, well-meaning way possible.

I truly hope you achieve each and every o…

Welcome 2018

Dear Year 2018,

You will be arriving shortly, in about less than five hours to be exact. I sit here in a cozy cabin in the Smokey Mountains, sipping one of my favourite teas, away from family who are watching football in the background, and wished to write you this welcome letter.

I spent the last couple of hours with 2017 walking in solitude through the...

Positive Thinking

It may sound so simple that changing your thoughts could affect your entire life, but in actuality, what you think about can manifest in your relationships, health, career, finances, and other areas of your life- positively or negatively.

Much of how we feel about ourselves, others, and even life is the consequence of our thoughts. Life is choice-driven; therefore, yo…

Have you achieved true happiness?

“Earth provides enough to satisfy every man’s needs, but not every man’s greed” ~ Mahatma Gandhi


Life is amazing because of the moments you experience, not the materials you possess. Happiness that is dependent on material possessions is not true happiness because that means you will only be happy if you can gain and maintain materials. True happiness comes…

2017 – A Year of Change

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Only a few days remain to 2017. Looking back on the year that is soon to come to a close, my heart swells with gratitude. At the end of 2016, I made a life altering choice. I made the decision that in 2017, I would make myself a priority. Little did I know that decision would serve as the catalyst th…

New Trend for a New Year

The only thing I want to do for this new year is help people to stop thinking they have to be someone or something else to be happy. It is not a “new year, new you.” It should simply always be just an “improved” you, and that has nothing to do with a date on a calendar. This should always be our progression in life; towards the best version of you but we act as if a new yea…

Abundance and What It Means For You

This past December my destination on planet earth was the country of Panama. For several years now it’s our annual family time together. Each time I visit someplace different, some times in a country I’ve visited before; but in another region. For the first time I was deep into the surroundings of a rain forest. One thing is for sure, the creator of this earthly planet…

Keeping Your Promises to Yourself in 2018

We all know the classic story. You start the New Year off with a bang, determined to slay all of your goals this year – no matter what! But then a few weeks go by (or sometimes just a few days) and you start to slip. You forget all of the promises you made to yourself – or you choose to ignore them. And the same old habits come back in, only to find yourself a year late…



As the final minutes of the year 2017 tick away, many people take the time to reflect on the past year and create resolutions for the year to come. I am no different. As I look back on the year that was on Go Read, I realize that I have written 14 articles since May! That’s quite the accomplishment for me, since I am known to be an av…

Just Keep Swimming

Hello my name is Katherine Goodsell and I make my life with a wonderful husband, Scott, in a rural small town Colorado. Together we have five children. He has two grown children; I have one grown son; and we have two littles ages eight and nine. Our littles were diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder at age three.

I feel that since this is one of my f…

Foregoing the Goals & Festivities

As the new year vastly approaches, I tried to think to myself a list of all the things i’d like the upcoming to look like. Will I promise myself to get into shape and adhere to a new and strict diet and exercise regimen?

Will I set a spending limit each month in order to hinder myself from living beyond my means? 

There are many goals I could set for myself on …

5 Tips to Sticking to Your New Year’s Resolutions

It’s that time again! This time of year, we start planning our resolutions for the upcoming year. After all, it is a clean slate. January 1 has a magic all its own. Whether it’s losing weight, getting a grip on our finances, or writing that best-selling novel, resolutions are often made and quickly cast aside as the end of January approaches. Here are 5 tips to help yo…

Year of the Cocoon

I’ve always been privy to side with the anti-new-years-resolutions team. So much pressure for massive, earth-shattering change, so much stress to strive for unrealistic perfection. I remember reading a stat that said only 8% of people stick to their resolutions, 8%! Wait, what?! Why do we think this is? My guess is there is already so much societal pressure to be “Pint…

Begin with the “BE”

A New Year and another opportunity to really be intentional about what we are ‘resolving’ to experience in 2018.

The good ole’ New Years Resolution.

And….you’ll probably fall off the wagon by February.

The reason I know this to be truth is because of the “DO, HAVE, BE” model.

You decide that if you DO this… y…

No More Resolutions!

It’s almost the new year and time for those resolutions no one ever sticks to. Why not do something different this year and get a better result?

If you really want a better life in 2018, then begin by setting goals to help you build better habits.

Goals give us a sense of purpose and direction. What is it you really want this year in your relationships, work…


Most internal discomfort people experience comes from surrendering their power to outside things and circumstances. The feeling that something is missing comes from what is described as “race memory” in some of my teachings from Science of the Mind. It is the accumulated knowledge and customs handed down from generation to generation of human over the ages. Within its con…

Teamwork makes the Dreamwork

Creating Your Perfect Life

Whether you’re hiking, eating, sleeping or setting goals, we must plan and work as a team to make it all work out in the end.

You can’t climb a mountain on your own. (Well, you can, but it works out better if you work as a team).

In determining where to begin, you must first get a clear picture of what you want the end to loo…

What You Need To Know For 2018

Let’s go to Portugal.

Family Christmas Conversations 2017.

Let’s plan it for 2018. You know, while we are all young, healthy & without walkers.

But then it always comes back to the same thing, year after year, over and over.


Like we are our own dream crushers. A bad habit, worse than smoking.

And 99% of the time when we …

Introduction – Living a Powerful Life

I have been on a kick the last 6 months or so about the concept of powerful people. I remember in my younger years reading and learning different aspects of History – reading biography’s/autobiography’s about people that had in impact on History – and I always separated myself from those people as un-attaianable.

There was a natural assumption that I w…

Overcoming Adversity In 5 Moves

Every one of us has had to overcome some kind of adversity in our life. Whether we had to overcome it in our childhood, teenage years, or as an adult.

I looked up the synonyms of adversity I found the following words: affliction, bad fortune, bad luck, calamity, catastrophe, disaster, distress, hardship, misfortune, poor luck, setback, tribulation, trouble…

Please don’t be a guilt trip!

My husband and I both come from very large and close-knit families. To give you some perspective he has 28 first-cousins and I’ve got 42. We love our families, and enjoy spending as much quality time as possible. What we don’t love is that we live 5,756 miles away and rarely get to see them.

So this year, when our first niece was born, we decided to ignore the pri...

4 Ways 2 Reinvent Your Professional Life in 2018

Before kicking yourself into high gear again in 2018, it’s worth taking the time to think about what you need to do to be the best version of yourself in the coming months.

Here are four ways to reinvent yourself professionally in the new year.

Apply for positions that actually spark your creativity


Thank You 2017

Dear Year 2017,

Thank you for your many blessings this past year. As you near your end, and I reflect back to your beginning, I see so much growth within me. You have been a very memorable year.

We started our relationship a little rocky. In your beginning, I knew I was to rest and recuperate from surgery that 2016 ended with, a blessing in disguise, and yet,…


Understanding The Relationship Between Our Talents, Expectations, And Joy 

“Unhappiness is best defined as the difference between our talents and our expectations.”

-Edward de Bono

What lies in the space that is the difference between our talents and our expectations? What is it that could instill a …

Using the Habit Loop to Control Your Life

Why are habits so powerful. How could we tap into that power to create the life we want? Well, think about it like this. bYour life is essentially the sum of your habits. You spend about 40% of your day performing habitual behaviors, meaning these aren’t actions you consciously think about, they’re hardwired into the biological computer, your br…

Finding Your Purpose

Have you ever felt unfulfilled, or as if something was missing in your life? So many times, we live our lives without purpose because let’s face it- we haven’t figured out exactly what that purpose is. I felt that way for quite some time and became frustrated and desperate for a deeper understanding. 

Here’s what I found out- Purpose isn’t necessarily something tha…

#1 Building Powerful Life Requires Relational Skil

In our early childhood we all learn how to relate to people. Your parents, authorities, peers, all influence and help frame out your understanding of human interactions. Your early years are critical for your brain – its firing away at an incredible rate, neural pathways are getting built and established quickly and in force. The patterns of our way of thinking…

Live For Today

Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi


All of life is beautiful. Both the positive and negative aspects. Adversity and challenges in our lives are what force us to gain strength, build character, develop personalities, and solve problems. Where or who would we be if we never faced adversity or c…

Can criticism really be good for you?

 Recently I was putting together an opt-in page for a free giveaway. I was excited as I had not done one in awhile, and I thought it looked pretty darn good. But then, I received some pretty painful criticism. 

 I showed it to a business coach I highly respect and they showed EVERYTHING, they saw wrong with it. I was wondering, did I get any of it right. Granted, the…

Giving Birth to the Creation Process

Perhaps one of the most difficult things to do when becoming the deliberate creator of your life is to wait for the manifestation of what you want to appear. But when you can truly understand that if you desire something, it already exists on some level, you can then trust that it has to appear in your physical reality. But there are some important things you need to …


I wrote this article almost a year ago and as the year comes to a close, I find myself that much more excited. The title of the article is “YOU ARE WORTHY”, and it expresses my joy in what I have achieved and overcome. Embracing the value of who you are and what you have been created to bring to the world can be “interesting” to ponder and fulfill. However, once you do, …

My Favorite Walk

I am an avid outdoors woman. Outdoors is where I feel my truest Self, my most authentic Me. I was born in Tennessee, went to college in Utah, traveled and lived in several western states and then lived in Minnesota for 25 years. Despite the brutal temperatures, I spent many hours of my Minnesota winters cross-country skiing, snow shoeing, skating, slipping on ice, swearing a…

Resolutions or Visions?

New Year’s Day is approaching. Are you ready with your resolutions?

How did you do with the ones you made for 2017?

Over the years, I’ve written intentions on index cards, or in a notebook, or on post-a-notes that I put in various rooms of my home. But about a month and a half later, the notes get thrown away, the index card is filed, the notebook is fille…

Slowing Down and Learning to Say No

I’ve always been one of those people who has had to work on setting clear boundaries. This is true with regards to my relationships with others, as well as my relationship with myself. The problem is that I’ve always wanted everyone to be happy.

I have also always prioritized my financial stability- perhaps to the detriment of other parts of my life. Despite wo…

A Letter To Mr….

I teach that process is a tool that God uses to help us walk out and to our purposed. I am purposed and driven by my own process to help those who have been sexually violated as children to get through their process of healing. I was violated as a child and facing it was difficult and necessary. I wrote a letter to my abuser with the hopes of giving voice to the pain that h…

Real Purpose, Power, Real Freedom, Real Choice

What Is The Real Definition Of Purpose And How Does It Relate To Power?

“The first principle of ethical power is Purpose. By purpose, I don’t mean your objective or intention-something toward which you are always striving. Purpose is something bigger. It is the picture you have of yourself-the kind of person you want to be or the k…

A Love Letter to Myself

With the new year just around the corner, I thought this would be a perfect time to give myself a boost to invite positivity to 2018. Loving myself is an emotion that I, and many others, often struggle with. I am hoping this letter will serve as a reminder for all those who neglect themselves that we are a priority. I’ve heard all the clichés about the importance of self …

I Am Who My Actions Say I Am

One of the key errors of reasoning people experience is the notion of duality. There appears to be more than one side of my personality, good and bad. The good side of me takes time to volunteer and donate to worthy causes. It explains why I spend time with friends, go out of my way to be kind to strangers in public, and make conscious efforts every day to give something to …

Kickstart 2018 Right Now

Everyone is talking about the holiday season. Many of the articles you read will focus on some aspect of the season. Doing that makes perfect marketing sense. In fact, if you want to get a head start on a present to put under your…

Nah, I’m kidding. I don’t roll that way. But even people who don’t celebrate Christmas will use it as a marketing strategy because …

Opportunities Ignite from your Curiosity

I have never known somebody who is able to leave the house and come home with a new opportunity like my wife. 

I’ve always admired that entrepreneurial spirit about her.

Just the other day she left our home to do a 30 second radio ad to represent ONE company and ended up impressing the producer so much, he asked her if she would stay to voice over and recor…

True Release

If you saw this page right now, thoughts scattered this morning. Even my coffee is scattered, spilled.

Writing about release is very hard. Mostly because it’s handed me my ASSets this month.

I mean some serious releasing stuff. Things I’ve held on to so tight for the last 17 years. (okay, I lied, 18 years – I usually refer back to when I was 20 – it’s a t...

Do you give up to easy?

When things don’t work out the way you expected do you quit or do you push through? Many times over the course of our lives we have plans, goals and expectations of how we want our life to work out, but lets face it most of the time things don’t turn out exactly as planned. There are bumps in the road and things happen that throw us off track. What do you do in those situat...

Say NO to FOMO!

Do you scroll through your social media threads and begin to sink at the sight that EVERYONE in the world seems to be having a better life than you? 

You need to remember that what most people put on social media is their ‘highlight‘ reel while you are looking at your own life through the lens of reality…

BUT! this very real scena…

Build + Preserve Loving Boundaries

What’s the best gift for us all this holiday season?

“Self-care is giving the world the best of you instead of what’s left of you.”-Katie Reed

The gift of your joyful presence, ready to enjoy your loved ones, is truly the best gift you can give this holiday season.

But, does setting limits on your time and energy bring you a…

6 harmless mind tricks that make people like U

When you’re working hard and doing all you can to achieve your goals, anything that can give you an edge is powerful and will streamline your path to success.

Mind tricks won’t make you a Jedi, but using the brain’s natural quirks to your advantage can have a positive impact on everyone you encounter.

As soon as you become aware of these 10 tricks, they start p…

For the Love of the Yankees

As I sat thinking about what to write for my first article this month, I thought how the best writing comes from a place of passion, drive, and a true love of whatever I am expressing. Okay, easy, I thought. Why not just write about the Yankees? But this is so far removed from what I normally discuss in my online presence. People know me as the spiritual nutritionist,…


Reading Time:30 Seconds

My book “Whist 2 Trust” is with the guys at Next Century Publishing, I have had a few chats back and to with the production team this week and can’t tell you how excited I am about seeing a book in print that I have actually written!! 

If you are writin...

Unconventional Thinking About Poverty & Gratitude

A Completely Different, Unconventional Way Of Thinking About Poverty & Gratitude

“None is more impoverished than the one who has no gratitude. Gratitude is a currency that we can mint for ourselves, and spend without fear of bankruptcy.”

-Fred De Witt Van Amburgh

Gratitude has been and continues to…

Unconventional Thinking & Gratitude

A Completely Different, Unconventional Way Of Thinking About Poverty & Gratitude

“None is more impoverished than the one who has no gratitude. Gratitude is a currency that we can mint for ourselves, and spend without fear of bankruptcy.”

-Fred De Witt Van Amburgh

Gratitude has been and continu…

New Actions Get New Results

How long would it take for you to get the lifestyle you want? School teaches us to think in terms of years. You need to get a 4-year degree to be considered educated. You need to study seven years to become a doctor. Even the gangster movies teach that the gangsters have to put in the time and make their bones before they advance in the criminal underworld. How much tim…

Misused Words That Confuse People

We’re all tempted to use words that we’re not too familiar with.

If this were the only problem, I wouldn’t have much to write about. That’s because we’re cautious with words we’re unsure of, and, thus, they don’t create much of an issue for us.

It’s the words that we think we’re using correctly that wreak the most havoc.

We throw them around in m...


She was born. She wasn’t born good or born bad. She was just born. Another miracle of life.

She was a baby. She was wanted, she was loved, she was taken care of. In exchange for being taught right from wrong she obeyed. She learned the rules of behaviour quickly. With the swift swish of the heavy belt across her buttocks.

It wasn’t abuse. It was discipl…

The World Needs You

This week 3 of my favorite places closed down: a restaurant close by, a coffee shop and a clothing shop I loved.

I’m heartbroken.

I really loved what these places had to offer: my favorite Arugula & Prosciutto Pizza, the best Spanish Latte ever, and clothes that were 100% me, my style – in other words – black.

Seriously, I totally root for the succes…


1.   #YourDreamsMatter


What would you do if you could do whatever you wanted to do? If resources, time, age, health, race or money were not barriers to you exploring, experimenting, experiencing and enjoying life, what would you be doing right now? Many people don’t even dare to think or dream along these lines, because they have convinced themselves that i…

Does Self Care Feel Selfish?

Life’s a journey. You’re the head steerer. As you tap into the natural current of life, yes, there’s an element of going with the flow. However, you are STILL able to direct the rudder to move in the direction you desire.

Here’s the deal. 

Without a healthy, grounded, content, inspired… steerer {YOU}, the rudder, boat, and ultimately the whole course of ...


The answers you are looking for is already within. Heard this one before? Yes, most motivational speakers have come to this realization – whether it’s Lisa Nichols, Neale Donald Walsh or Anthony Robins, or any number of other well-known speakers  – they all know the master creator is within!

Externally you demonstrate what you think the world need to see and hear. …

8 Ways to Create Momentum in Your Life (5-8)

5. Commit to improving yourself.

You’re never too busy for 10 minutes, which is all it takes to improve yourself just a little each day. You can de-stress using meditation, yoga or reading. Track your unhealthy spending habits. Learn a new language. The po...

It’s Okay! Throw Yourself A Pity Party

It’s Okay! Throw Yourself A Pity Party

It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to.

Furthermore, I won’t judge myself, and neither should you, because sometimes we all need a good cry.

And you know what? That’s completely okay. It doesn’t make you crazy, or foolish, or pathetic. It makes you human.

People feel. Some of us feel “more …

We Must Accept Our Lot Calmly, But…

We Must Accept Our Lot Calmly, But We Must Not Accept It Alone…

“Anyone who proposes to do good must not expect people to roll stones out of his way, but must accept his lot calmly, even if they roll a few stones upon it.”

-Albert Schweitzer

And just as Dr. Schwei…

Embracing Your Stages

Lets get sentimental for a moment. 

So I’ve always lived my life up until my 25th year as a woman with the assumption that I would only live this life for me. I would look at my life and the things that I liked and what I had at that stage and would truly believe that everything that was already around me, was enough for me. Then came along somebody who ad…

What is your Purpose?

“True happiness… is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.” ~ Helen Keller

What is your purpose? Why are you doing anything? Why do you want to continue doing what you are doing? Why is your future important?

A list of such questions can go on and on.

Your purpose—the reason you want to do something—…

Impossible = I’m Possible

I am a great lover of quotes and I recently came across this quote from Bette Davis, “Attempt the impossible in order to improve your work.” I like this quote very much. However, the word impossible strikes me as somewhat aggravating–I find myself chafing against impossible. And I do not like chafing. Chafing implies unpleasantness–ill fitting or perha…

When Your Calling Finds You

Some people are really lucky, they just know from the moment they could walk and talk what they’ve always wanted to do. I wasn’t one of those people. Like my father, I seem to have inherited a whole slew of artistic and creative skills. Which is great except…I had no clue what I was truly good at. I mean a master at something, an expert per say you know? For my Dad it w…

Are you LOUD enough?

{Marco . . . }

. . . are you getting a response? From friends, strangers, family, a higher power be it a religious figure, angel team, or the Universe . . .?

{ Polo . . . }

We live a life of needs, wants, and desires, so who do you ask when you need, want, or desire somet…

Stop Saying Sorry

Wait, what? Don’t say, “I’m sorry?” Isn’t that what we’re supposed to say when we’ve done something wrong to someone? Isn’t that what we grow up learning?

“Tell your sister you’re sorry…say you’re sorry…you hurt her, buddy, say you’re sorry.”

We hear it and say it all the time in many contexts – “I’m sorry for your loss…Oh I didn’t see you there; I’m so…


My previous article discussed TIPS TO DEVELOP MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS. To find success in developing meaningful relationships, you must get rid of your “poisonous friends”. Your life becomes lighter and happier when it’s not being dominated with them. A “poisonous friend” is never really a true friend to begin with. I had a realization, an awakening almost, while watching ...

Preparing for a New Reality

I was 36 when my first son was born so I know I had “a life” before I had children. Thirty-six years of it, to be exact. If I could just remember it!

I have been a mother now for 23 years, and it has gotten to be a habit. If all goes well, in four years my nest will be empty. I am intimidated and scared by the prospect, even though I know about those other 36 year…

The Future begins to the StorySpeakers #2

In Business…

When things get competitive it’s all about the story.

Today’s corporate leaders like stories because they bring their company’s heritage to life in the imagination. They share their stories with their customers, their staff, their new hires. They live them. Corporate leaders StorySpeak their visions and goals.


The future belongs to the StorySpeakers

In Education…

Ask any high school student who his or her favorite teacher is and then ask why. Chances are the answer will be, “Because she makes things more interesting” or “Because he tells stories.”

When educators StorySpeak they keep their students engaged and interested by transforming learning into lively experiences.

These teache…

Become More of Yourself-Let’s Get Started!

“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.” -Brene’ Brown 

Don’t you love those people and places where you can relax and be yourself?

What is it about those experiences that feels so good? And how do we allow more of that feeling of acceptance within ourselves whether...

How To Live A Relax Life

Life can be full of stress, obstacles, and very fast pace. Sometimes with our busy schedules that we have, we forget to relax. What are ways that you you can think of that help you to relax? I believe that it is very important that we take time out of our busy schedules to take a moment, and to quit whatever we are doing and to find ways to relax. When we are able to re…

Identity Vs. Perception

Nowadays there is so much importance to how you are viewed. With social media being as popular as it is, there seems to always be a set of eyes on what you are doing, or how people think you are living. Your accomplishments, rewards, and lifestyle are all a part of a news feed for a wide audience. This tends to add to the pressures you already deal with on a day to day basis…

Identity Vs. Perception

Nowadays there is so much importance to how you are viewed. With social media being as popular as it is, there seems to always be a set of eyes on what you are doing, or how people think you are living. Your accomplishments, rewards, and lifestyle are all a part of a news feed for a wide audience. This tends to add to the pressures you already deal with on a day to day basi...

8 Ways to Create Momentum in Your Life (1-4)

1. Set powerful goals.

The most important benefit of setting goals isn’t achieving your goal; it’s what you do and the person you become in order to achieve your goal that’s the real benefit.

Goal setting is powerful because it provides focus. It shapes our …

Why it’s Important to be Open to Receiving

What you give you get back is a well-known concept. However, there are a few things you need to know and put into practice before you are able to receive the things that you desire most. It is the universal Law of Compensation that must be activated, especially if you want to increase your wealth and abundance.

The Law of Compensation says that you must give in ord…

Dealing With Difficult People

How many times over the course of an average day do we come across people who seem to be out and out malcontents? Does it seem like these folks appear frequently at the worst possible time in the places we least expect to deal with difficulty? I find that these people appear in direct proportion to the level of expectancy I have for the day.

In other words, I attrac…

Gratitude: The Best Brain Hack Ever!

Gratitude is the best brain hack ever! Feeling grateful creates powerful, positive changes in your brain chemistry like nothing else. Here’s what happens in your brain when you feel grateful: you raise your oxytocin and lower your cortisol while raising dopamine and serotonin. Plus you increase blood flow and activity in your hypothalamus, the “master gland” that controls …

Where do you want to be in a year from now?

If in one year from now your life is exactly the same would you be happy with that or would you want to change? 

Every time I hear this question it gets me thinking about how far I’ve come but also how much farther I want to go. In my opinion the best part of living is being able to shift, learn and grow with each day. I’m not a person who waits for the ne…

Where do you want to be in a year?

If in one year from now your life is exactly the same would you be happy with that or would you want to change? 

Every time I hear this question it gets me thinking about how far I’ve come but also how much farther I want to go. In my opinion the best part of living is being able to shift, learn and grow with each day. I’m not a person who waits for the new year t...

Self Love.

“Your capacity to love others is limited only by your capacity to love yourself.”

I never really understood the concept of self love. I was taught and understood that in order to be a good person, I must always think of myself last. And I believe there is a place for service, yes, of course. But think about this with me. How can you ‘love your neighbor as yourself’…


Over the past few weeks, I have been in a period of experiencing intense, heightened emotions. I am increasingly energetically sensitive and have been experiencing sadness, pain, anxiety, but also joy, bliss, INTENSE gratitude, love, and more. In my heightened energetic state, it is truly the highs with the lows, the perceived “good” with the “bad,” but is this so? Is …

The Blue Shovel

The Blue Shovel.

Damn Blue Shovel.

This is my story.

I love LOVE to run outside. FREE.

But, I live in snow and ice for 6 months of the year.

Last week on my walk, I decided I would take my shovel to clear a 1km path on my favorite place to run.

I seriously thought it would be easy.

For anyone who has ever shoveled snow, ...

Your 360 Can Improve Your 20/20

“Successful people believe in a simple notion: you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with,” Travis Bradberry, contributor to Forbes Magazine. This must be true because it sounds all too familiar. From the ancient pen of the apostle Paul, he wrote, “Bad company corrupts good character.”

This is some wonderful advice for us men in today’s mode…

As We Prepare….

 How do you prepare for winter? Most of us do not think about it at all. Others do something the day the cold weather hits their skin. At least, animals have natural instincts to prepare for dormant weather.

It’s that time in the year to prepare for severe cold weather. I live far enough northeast to where the temperature changes each season dramatically. It’s late…

It All Begins In Your Mind

Preparing for the Climb:

Mindset Matters

I have a bit of a hiking boot addiction. Actually, it’s probably more of an obsession. You know how most girls have a closet full of shoes with spiked heels and wedges? Well, not me! I have a garage full of muddy hiking boots and trail shoes that would probably put most heel collections to shame. In my defense,…

Why Writers Need to Walk

Henry David Thoreau wrote, “It requires a direct dispensation from heaven to become a walker.” What beautiful words, fitting for a man who spent two years, two months, and two days in his singular “experiment in simplicity” at Walden Pond. Thoreau’s time at Walden included daily walks in the Walden Woods–long rambles that could last for hours.

Jane Austen stated her d…

People Pleaser Rehab

Are you a People Pleaser?

I don’t mean.. “Are you nice”….

I mean do you find yourself constantly doing things for other people and coming up short in your own life because of it? constantly seeking love, friendship, and validation from others?

Possibly even thinking “If I do this for them…they’ll really like me, approve of me, validat…

Tips to manage stress levels

Keeping stress to a minimum can be difficult at times especially with the holiday season coming up. An important aspect to staying healthy especially during the holidays is keeping stress levels to a minimum which yes can be tricky at times because we all have so much going on. Such as budgeting, family events, balancing it all. It is extremely important to…

What Yoga Shakes Reminded Me About Judgement

How’s your November going? I pulled out my monkey hat yesterday because I think fall has officially hit Texas. 

A couple weekends ago I went to yoga with my friend Heather (who’s getting her yoga instructor certification – woot woot!). Do you do yoga? I don’t do it as often as I’d like, but when I do, I love it and I feel so much better after.

But during...

When Transformation Is The Only Option

“Each person’s task in life is to become an increasingly better person.”-Leo Tolstoy

When we can no longer reside in the status quo, and what you’ve done in the past to succeed

no longer produces results, we need a paradigm shift within. We are here for growth, to fail, to

overcome, to succeed, to learn, and becom…

Happiness is not Pleasure BUT Victory!

Happiness is not pleasure but victory. That means you have the tenacity, the drive and the conviction to stay on your path. When the external world seems to lose faith in your abilities – your internal commitment gets stronger. It doesn’t matter how descriptive you are when you describe your destiny to someone; ONLY YOU can experience the inner stirring and the vision which …

Men, do you know your enemies?

Every man is in a war, but does he know his enemies? If not, how can he expect to defeat them?  

Though men seem to face many enemies the truth is there is only three. The ancient writer, the apostle John, named them lust, greed, and pride. From the very beginning man’s greatest battles have been fought from within himself.

Nearly seventy percent of men today…

Loving Another More Than Yourself

Is it okay to love another more than yourself? I fell into this discussion with a loved one, which got me thinking, pondering about the nature of loving another more than yourself. Is this okay? And what is “okay” really? Ultimately, we are talking about health. Is it healthy to love another more than yourself? Are there times when it is healthy and times when it is unhealth…

Harness the Power of the Universe

If you are like me; you believe in a higher power of some kind. Most people refer to this higher power as “The Universe”.

Conversations about it often sound like this: “The Universe is really testing me right now…”

“I just put it out to the Universe…” or “I don’t know how this happened but thank you Universe!”

Wouldn’t it be amazing if you actually …

Life Goal: To Become a Millionaire.

The joy is in the journey, isn’t it? That’s what they say. I believe it to be true, as well. While it is so easy to want to just get to the final destination of what is on your goal list, the process of working toward the goal and the person you become in the pursuit of it is what I am after. And, sure, a million dollars would be great, too. When I was asked in kinder…

Love > Fear

the answer may shock you

love > fear?

or the flip?

I’m guessing that you initially said in your head, ‘love, of course, love’. And I challenge you on that. I have no doubt that you are living a life in love to so many degrees — for your family, the sunshine, friends you adore, your critters, maybe your job, oth...

The Art of a Well-Lived Life

How do we honor our time? 

“Someone who tries to do everything becomes nothing.”

-Robin Sharma, legendary leadership icon

We all want to feel more fulfilled, vibrant and alive yet we very often give our time and energy away without much thought.

You can begin to create a more meaningful life with a few simple yet powerful shifts.


Relationships 101 – For kids

I am in the fortunate position, as a parent, to have a “Do-Over”. Yes, same Mom but different kid. There is a significant age spread between my first two children and my youngest. If you have read some of my previous articles, you will understand part of the reason for the gap. If you have not read my previous articles entitled “A Labor of Love and Loss” Part 1 and 2, I…

10 Ways to Build Your Self-Confidence

1. Talk it out.

If you struggle showing your best face during an interview, enlist a friend to conduct a mock interview. Prepare for any off-the-wall questions and build your confidence in the process.

2. Think again.

The next time someone cuts you off or rides your bumper during rush hour, give that driver the benefit of the doubt. After all, we n…

Speaking Truth in an Upside Down World

What happens when the world you work in feels backwards, upside down? It leads me to wonder the best ways to speak your truth without having to give up your career.

Recently, I’ve been struggling with how best to be authentic, and vocal in my beliefs without scaring people off. I want to engage with others, not frighten them, but most people do not appreciate being t…

How to Create Change

You know those times when things happen to you that simply don’t feel good and you wonder why? Well instead of pointing fingers and blaming others start to look inside and consider how you’ve been feeling and what you’ve been thinking. It is what is inside of us that creates our outer reality.

Your Outer World is a Reflection of Your Inne…

another month down

I have had a lot to think about this month on the #metoo campaign, about cryptocurrency as I am an investor, about my work and projects as we had our first 6 figure month in business development, about house stuff – as I bought my first house this month and am leaving the city (I have lived in a city for the last 15 years of my life…), and on the concept of tim…

The Illusion of Failure

Everyone, at one point, is guilty of worrying about something that did not exist. Sometimes our imaginations and negative thoughts convince us to become overly concerned with what has not happened yet and may never even happen at all. The most common is the illusion of failure. This illusion creates the perception that the risks greatly outweigh the benefits and therefore, ...

The Illusion of Failure

Everyone, at one point, is guilty of worrying about something that did not exist. Sometimes our imaginations and negative thoughts convince us to become overly concerned with what has not happened yet and may never even happen at all. The most common is the illusion of failure. This illusion creates the perception that the risks greatly outweigh the benefits and ther…

Adapting for Success

 In life we meet many people. In life we have relationships with many people. Some joyful. Some hateful. Some of these relationships we have may include romance. Some of these relationships we have may include those we come into contact with on a career path. We need to be vigilant. We need to protect ourselves. We need to be aware. We need to set boundaries. These boun…

Too Late

I have arrived before, to a class, to a store or to an event and been, Too late. There was no amount of pleading that could be done to reverse this happenstance. The only recourse of mine, was to miss the day’s lesson, bargain or festivities. 

Now each instance was a result of my doing. Me, just being me. Not taking time, seriously. S…

Paradox of Love

After being hurt in love, many people find themselves seeking something they term as “love.” In truth, they have lost understanding of the concept. To prevent hurt, we tend to dictate the do’s and don’ts of our affection in relations with our partners. Stemming from the void of pain, with good reason, we try, desperately, to protect our vulnerability by giving orders…


For MOTIVATION, I follow these mantras daily:

1. The starting point of all achievement is DESIRE. Keep this constantly in mind. Weak desires brings weak results just as a small fire makes a small amount of heat – Quote by Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich

2. Create the highest, grandest vision for your life because you becom...


For MOTIVATION, I follow these mantras daily:

1. The starting point of all achievement is DESIRE. Keep this constantly in mind. Weak desires brings weak results just as a small fire makes a small amount of heat – Quote by Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich

2. Set your mind in a definite goal & observe how quickly the worl...


I skidded in my doubt about my published writing career. Would I crash, or would I ride through the black ice?

No dramatic crash and burn. I sputtered and spat. I wrote in spurts and then quit for weeks. I drove with the little pump lit. I lost the map in the mess of my front seat. Like now, as I try to settle and write this piece, I find focusing hard. I ne…

NO is a Positive Word

Everybody says that we should say YES more in life, that YES is the dominant word, we DESERVE to say YES more often so we are able to take on more experiences to enjoy this life!

I tend to disagree with that, and the reason why I say that is because its all about perspective, and it is all about the situation. For example, Is saying YES really adding to the qualit...

The Little Moments

Right now I’m typing this from the bench in my driveway, while my daughter gardens. Or more accurately, covers the concrete, rug, and herself with mud. (Yes, I’m the enabler who’s repeatedly filling up the water bucket.)

There was a time in my life where I wouldn’t have thought this would be very interesting. But since becoming a mom, I’ve started to appreciate lit…

Bringing Dreams Into Reality

Some crazy random dreams & facts about me (I mean this stuff isn’t even in my book!):

  • I wrote and recorded a rap song. It was hilarious. It flowed out of me in 1 hour and recorded it in another hour. I still pee my pants how funny that is. I want to write, play and record a record one day.
  • I decided long ago to be Jane Bond – so I got my boa...
Understanding the Unmanaged Mind

The awareness of the mind is composed of three main parts; the conscious, subconscious, and unconscious mind. On average, the mind may manage 50,000 – 70,000 thoughts a day and remains active, even when the body is in rest mode. The information discussed here is just the tip of the iceberg, but will be useful for creating life-balance and better mind management. …

Celebrating Blogging!

 There are so many different ways I could have categorized this article. I considered Social and Cultural, Human Connections and even Arts and Entertainment. In the end I chose Personal Development. Why? Through blogging we grow. Not just the reader one shares content with, but the writer who captures and shares his or her voice in a prose connecting with someone som…

Everything You need to Know About Telling Stories

Excerpted from The Irresistible Power of StorySpeak

READING TIME: 90 Seconds

1. Hook them from the start

If you’re going to tell a con…

Teen Advice Week Two

Teen Advice

If I knew then what I know now… but would I have listened? Teen Advice is a plentiful as leaves on a tree, but here is a bit of a twist.

I asked many people this question:

If you could go back in time, what advice would you give your 15-year-old self, knowing what you know now?

I’ve been compiling and publishing what you said. It see...

Take care of yourself

Do you take the time for self care?

I am a huge lover of self care and feeding my body everything it needs. However I wasn’t always this way, I wouldn’t spend money on doing things like getting a massage, seeing a naturopath, chiropractor, getting my hair done or nails done. I didn’t really take care of my health until about 5 years ago, when I didn’t r…

How to Stop Being Lazy and Get More Done

Ever had to do a task that had a long deadline, but you couldn’t muster the will to complete it until 0.2 seconds before it was due?

Of course you did. At least once. You wouldn’t be human otherwise.

However, you might have noticed that even if the deadline was shorter, you still would have been able to complete it on time. Why’s that?

At first glan…

Signs: Part 1

Today it got real.

And it’s not the first time.

But I should also say that ‘it’s’ been several instances

over the past few days that caused me to get irked this way.

A couple days ago, on our slow, side street, an older lady passed me [there is no passing lane nor the need to pa…

The Good Samaritan

At some point in our lives, we may have heard the story of The Good Samaritan. For those who have not, in essence, would you stop to help someone who needed help, without any prejudice? An internet search will lead you to more details. A brief synopsis may be found he…

Turning Failure to a Positive

As humans we are designed to fail first, we are going to fail at things during ones life. When failure does occur you should not let it defeat you. Turn that failure into a positive by thinking of what caused the failure, then re-evaluate the stituation and adjust your actions from previous actions. 

People who start businesses, and people who run for public office…

3 Ways to Manage Stress by Letting Go of Anger

Anger and Ulcers and Stress, Oh My!

A couple weekends ago, I spoke at the Fo Guang Shan Xian Yun Buddhist Temple about 3 Ways to Manage Stress by Letting Go of Anger. It was fun! Here’s me teaching tapping. 🙂

Stress management is a supe...

The soundtrack

Walking into the cool breeze, feeling the crisp air, and watching the leaves change colors always reminds me how grateful I am to experience all four seasons in New England. Autumn has always held a special place in my soul down to the core of who I am. It probably has something to do with the fact that I was born in the Fall and chose to get married in the Fall. …

Using the Law of Polarity to find peace

If you’ve followed my work long enough you know I’m all about using the Universal Laws to deliberately create your life. I get so many people asking me how they can find peace, happiness, stop worrying and let go of their fear. Well out of all of the Universal Laws, The Law of Polarity is the one to reach for when this is what you seek.

What is ...

Using the Law of Polarity to Find Peace

If you’ve followed my work long enough you know I’m all about using the Universal Laws to deliberately create your life. I get so many people asking me how they can find peace, happiness, stop worrying and let go of their fear. Well out of all of the Universal Laws, The Law of Polarity is the one to reach for when this is what you seek.

What is the…

Are You Just Coasting Through Life?

It has taken me a lot of time to be able to get SOMETHING on paper (so to speak). 

I’ve spent hour after hour just mulling over what my next article topic was going to be about. I’ve basically overshared tiny portions of my personal life in these articles, what else is there to really say? 

I am in a creative slump. Writers block as the excuse is m…




Mollie Lyon

The publishing career took off like gang busters. Still, I always felt I should have written the next novel last year. I felt behind. I self-published four novels in four years. I soothed myself. I planned to have a novel to publish by the time I was sixty. I was eight years ahead of schedule. And the next three years continued that …


Did you ever know you had one? It’s part of your brain that heightens your awareness of certain things. It stays on alert. Its job is to make you aware of certain things and makes you ignore other things that are less important. For example, do you remember the time when you last bought a new car? All of a sudden, you start seeing cars just like yours all over the roa…

The Four Faces of Fear

Fear truly is at the root of almost all of the worlds problems. In my line of business I come across various ‘flavors’ of fear all the time. People stuck in all manner of ways in their lives, some even paralyzed by fear.

Getting clear on what the fear actually is; calling it out of the darkness into the light and then moving through it is the only way out….

The Magic Question

What did you eat for breakfast today?

Chances are this simple question derailed you completely. No matter what else you had in mind when you read it, you immediately began thinking of cereal, eggs and toast, or something else you should have… or shouldn’t have eaten.

That’s because your brain loves a question. Any question.

Remember sitting in your grade...

No Superstitions, No Fear

Today is Friday the 13th. Most people have superstitions about when the 13th is on a Friday. Superstitions are usually powered by fear. We as believers are told not to fear. We are also told That Jesus Yahshua left us His peace. Because of this peace we are free from superstition and fear. Today I want to speak peace. I want to let everyone know they don’t have to live…

Giving Thanks

With the Thanksgiving celebrations behind us; I have to say that something struck a cord this past Thanksgiving weekend. I was wished a Happy Thanksgiving and then asked if I even celebrate Thanksgiving. My answer: “Every day of my life!”

Thanksgiving is a holiday with a special connotation and I wouldn’t want to take anything away from that. Gratitude and giving tha…

Giving Thanks

With the Thanksgiving celebrations behind us; I have to say that something struck a cord this past Thanksgiving weekend. I was wished a Happy Thanksgiving and then asked if I even celebrate Thanksgiving. My answer: “Every day of my life!”

Thanksgiving is a holiday with a special connotation and I wouldn’t want to take anything away from that. Gratitude and giving tha…

Finding your passion

Don’t ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

– Howard Thurman

We all have passions, hopes and dreams. Sometimes they are difficult to pinpoint after all, we imagine so many things, and it can be hard to tell if what you’re daydreaming about…

5 Easy Ways to Practice Gratitude Every Day

If you’re a fellow Canadian, Happy Thanksgiving! It’s Thanksgiving Monday and one of my favourite times of the year. The leaves are changing, the crisp feeling of Fall is in the air, and long weekends like these are perfect for bringing family together. Regardless of whether you celebrate Thanksgiving, it reminds us to practice gratitude and both feeling and showing a…

Teen Advice Week One

If I knew then what I know now… but would I have listened? Teen Advice is a plentiful as leaves on a tree, but I’m offering some advice… with a bit of a twist.

I polled a huge variety of people, asking them this one question:

“If you could go back in time, what advice would you give your 15-year-old self, knowing wh…

Vocal Fry: What Is It & How To Stop It

The first time I ever heard of the term “Vocal Fry” was from an employer I had a few years back. To my knowledge no one had ever complained or mentioned to me that I ever did this annoying thing with my voice. One minute I’m in his office going over the morning’s tasks, “Okay, soooo we do have a meeting with that guyyy in New York, a…

Who has inspired you?

Reading time:45 Seconds

  • Do you have someone who has been inspirational in your life?

  • Can you recall something that or someone who was an absolute life changer for you in your formative years?

I can relate to Mr Mohammed, he was my boss when I worked at…

Finding Myself

Is excessive navel gazing needed to find my audience? For a quiet person who wants to tell stories in an intricate word dance, this is hard. Another part of me wants to explain myself. Will defining myself grow my audience?

I told stories on paper before I knew my letters. Primitive pictures on the margins of my mother’s Betty Crocker cookbook accompanied m…

The Importance Of Choices

In life we many choices. Most times what happens to us is by our choosing.So today I want to highlight a poem from our book “Words From The Heart Of The Father.” This poem is called “Because We Choose To Be.” Let’s remember that our choices affect us and those around us.

Because We Choose to Be

We are alone

Because we choose to be


“I’ll Always Be Good To Myself”

“The reason we’re often not there for others is that we’re not there for ourselves.” -Pema Chodron

We’re running around on empty.

We try everything to improve our natural energy yet we’re still drained.

Most days, there’s little joy.

We can create a gorgeous new relationship with ourselves with a few powerful shift…

Why Writing Matters: 4 Tips to Write Better

Over the years that I have been teaching writing, I’ve discovered that the biggest obstacle to writing well is attitude. Negative attitudes about writing start when we are young. But luckily, it is never too late change our attitudes.

Writing is more than letters of the alphabet or words on a page. It is the second most important means by which hum…

Over Independence…Is that a thing?

Is there actually such a thing as ‘Over Independence’?

I mean we are taught through our formative years to ‘do it ourselves’, to ‘learn’… in fact most of our life’s journey is about becoming the ultimate in achievement – INDEPENDENT!

Those of us who have raised,  or are raising children do so in hopes that one day they will be INDEPENDENT. Able to sustain th…



This is my view as I am writing this article, I am in Spain until tomorrow evening spending some lovely time with my beloved and some special friends.

Today we have spent our time on the beach and been approached countless times by people selling their wares, each trying to make a living and feed their families. Many are known as “l...

Footprints of a Jedi Teacher

To fully engage and convey the message in the undercurrent to your student, you must never forget where you were and how you were thinking in the beginning. Unless you can reach the student in their current state of mind you will not be able to impart any wisdom.

Everything you do has a terminal velocity point. A point where you have connected to your true self, …

Get out of that Corner!

I have a friend who is wrestling with some real tough life issues. Although she has been living rather comfortably for a while, she is still feeling restless, wondering how to find more joy in her life, more spark, more love. Unfortunately, she is pretty sure that she is trapped in her current life and cannot make any changes to improve things.

She is…

trusting the process

I am in the early stages of working on a new manuscript and have been lost in the writing zone for the past few weeks. I have several chapters each partially finished. Every time I think I finished a chapter another thought pops into my head and I go back and rework it. In addition, I keep changing the order of the chapters.

 One lesson I have learned over the y…

Knowing When To Move On And Let Go

 As we find ourselves at the end of the month, I find myself having to make a decision. A decision that is not easy to make but you will understand as you read through this article.

 When I started on Go Read last summer, it because my mother made me. She made me do it so I could learn a few things about life. To write better, to be more creative, to adhere to deadl…

30 Tips to Take Control of Your Life (Part 3)

15. Become a student of your chosen career.

 Don’t be afraid or too proud to make short-term sacrifices to achieve your goals.

 16. Commit to your dreams. Don’t be afraid or too proud to make short-term sacrifices to achieve your goals…

On Becoming a Pound Pro:

A few years ago, I was feeling exceptionally lonely, particularly on the weekends. It seemed that no matter how busy the weekdays were, once the weekend hit, plans seemed to come to a screeching halt. It felt like I didn’t quite make the cut to take up someone’s weekend time. And I get it. Friends want to be with their spouse and kids. And I since I have neither of those, I…

Playing to Win

This week I had a serious EPIPHANY and I’m telling you it’s transforming my life and blowing my mind at the same time.

And yet, it’s so simple, and something probably every guy who’s ever watched sports has known for years, and yet, here I am, literally hearing and understanding this for the first time. (Yes, I’m aware I’m sometimes a few grapes short of a Cab Sav…

Find Renewal Like the Sun

I feel so in love with life right now. Ask me last week, and I would have said otherwise. To be able to connect with the shifts inside of your heart and soul and BE OK with them is key to living fully.

I tend to have words land on me: literally they show up in my periphery and in my brain. I use them, read them, see them, hear them in conversation… Just like when…

“Not Enough Time”

Let me guess. You don’t have enough time in your days to do all the things you need to do.

Please, spare the details. I’ll spare you mine, too. But pretty sure we can agree that LIFE. IS. FULL. and you’d like to figure out a way to either slow it down, add more in, or a combo of both.

This topic comes very *timely* this week because it has come up not…


How many times have you said that you are going to do something & procrastinate. You put it off for tomorrow. Tomorrow turns into next week, next week turns into next month and the end of the year arrives & you did nothing.

I’m telling you now it’s time to commit…commit to exercising. You see, for the last 10 yrs I’ve been trying to loose 5 lbs. Instead I…

3 Ways to Get Inspired

Have you ever had one of those days when you have a ton of things you want to get done, but just feel blah, unmotivated, and uninspired?

I used to have them a lot. 

But these days, time isn’t a resource that I can squander! There’s work, family, trying to keep my home from looking like a war zone, and everything else that creeps on int...

30 Tips to Take Control of Your Life (Part 1)

1. Identify where you are stuck in your life. Take steps toward getting unstuck, even if it means pushing well beyond your comfort zone. Action is the only remedy for fear.

2. Develop your obs…

Personal Wealth Is More Than Getting Rich

The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattles

I recently finished my first reading of this mindset shifting book.

It was recommended to me by an author friend and I had very different expectations for its sub…


I texted my dear friend asking if she had any ideas of what I could write about as I headed out to the local coffee shop to write said article. 

She said, “tell me why you haven’t moved to Chicago and why.” And then I cried most of the drive in to the shop. Yeah. Why haven’t I moved to Chicago? 

Every answer I came up with in my head still rang true. I don’t cu…

Be True to Yourself

Throughout your life, everyone you cross paths with will have an opinion or comment, idea or suggestion that has the potential to completely alter your life. Sometimes, this can be a push in the right direction. Other times, it can be a complete derailment of this train we call life. The good news is that we are all born with an amazing gift: Our inner voice. Call it you…

Are You Listenning? No Really Listenning!!!

Are You Listening, No Really Listening?

You know the feeling, when you are on Instagram and a picture pops up as you are scrolling, perfect figure, perfect make, perfect skin, just pretty perfect, you get it. You think it is just not fair, I have tried ever…


It takes courage, determination & focus to take that first step. This is my journey of taking that 1st step to move from the corporate world to become an entrepreneur

 In 2000, I left my job as Asst Manager of Scotiabank, Kirkland to devote more time with my then newborn- Amanda. It was the 2nd most difficult decision in m…

Choices, Forgiveness, and Consequences

I’ve been planning on sharing more things on being happier, more productive and more fulfilled in your career. But today that doesn’t fit. Instead, I’d rather we talk about letting go of what’s not serving us.

This week my father passed away. 

We haven’t had a relationship for many years, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t struggling right now.

Pristine and Perfect Atop Murky Waters

How many of you have seen a lotus flower? This is the question one of my mentors asked, only a few hands went up. Everyone knew what a lotus flower looked like but only a few had witnessed it in its natural habitat.

Pristine, white, perfect and gently floating atop murky waters is the natural habitat for his highly recognized flower. A flower, which signifies peace an…

ThIs Is YoUr BrAiN oN cHaNgE

Are most of us like the fearful copier salespeople who dread disruption to their routines? Neuroscience, a field that has exploded with insight, has a lot more to say about changing people’s behavior — and its findings are guardedly optimistic. Scientists used to believe that the brain became “hardwired” early in life and couldn’t change later on. Now researchers suc…

Let’s Get Wet & Feely

First, get your head out of the gutter.

Second, I got caught in the rain this morning.

Third, ‘the rain’ can metaphorically go many many ways.

Let me explain. 

“Some people feel the rain, others just get wet.”

– Bob Marley

I love this quote, have you heard it before? If you’ve heard it, have you ...

Your Own Kind of Happy.

It just happened. Mindlessly scrolling Facebook when all of a sudden BOOM (!) 

Another “WE ARE ENGAGED!” photo stops my scroll. You know the one. Big ol diamond glistening in the sun with the happy couple grinning from ear to ear, mascara and remnants of other facial excretions from the heightened emotion smeared all over the faces. But somehow they look both more...

The Power of Faith

I had a lesson in Faith over the past few weeks. While we get these lessons all the time, this was a big one. One that tested me in a really big way. One of the people I love the most in this world (who’s name, for the sake of privacy I won’t divulge) received a diagnosis that could be described as down right terrifying. She was told she had to have surgery and it did no…


Do you really want to change the world? Make a difference?

I sure do.

I’ve pondered this up, down and sideways.

How does one do it?

And the answer I could come up with is one word:


Which I’m sure could come off as being/looking/acting/appearing “selfish” however, there is a positive & negative …

Where do your Memories go?

So If you read my last article on memory loss (which you can read here if you missed it), perhaps you are wondering WHERE DO THE MEMORIES GO?

If your Ego didn’t attach an emotion to it and it was deemed as a ‘non-necessary’ even…

Loving yourself is the greatest gift to the world!

“Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.” 

– M. Scott Peck 

Loving yourself is probably one of the most important aspects of health and wellness. If you don’t love yourself, your body can’t love you and people can’t love you. I don’t know why self-love is so difficult for so many, but I …

Give What You Need.

Every time I hit one of my major breakdowns in life, one of the first people I connect with is my Aunt Pat. Even though she is not technically my aunt, she has become more like a mother to me. She is who I want to connect with because I know I won’t be judged or looked down upon when life kicks me to the curb. I can be honest, be myself, and ask questions and hear her answe…

My Story: A Life Upside Down

I used to love to work. I loved new challenges and there wasn’t anything that I felt I couldn’t do. I was upfront and in charge, and life was good. And then I had a chemical exposure and life as I knew it was over. As my body fought the chemicals, it began fighting everything: chemicals, food, people, air… You name it, I became allergic to it. One of the doctors labeled me ...

5 Positive Ways to Build Your Belief in Yourself

We all start out as kids with big dreams; we want to be movie stars, astronauts and sports superstars. We want to be somebody. But then we get out into the real world and it starts beating us down, and then we start beating ourselves down. We get to the point where we have little or no belief in ourselves.

To achieve what you want in life, you ha…

Watching Television: Friend or Foe?

I definitely have to say that watching television is my friend. I hear many people sound appalled at the thought of watching a good show. I am always curious as to why. People usually say that they are too busy, or that it’s a waste of time.

My theory is, that it is a time for me and my family to sit back together and relax. We often end of discussing a sho…

Want To Complete Your Goals Before The End of 2017

In my last article I spoke about how I absolutely hated poverty. I view poverty as a weapon of mass destruction used against the middle classes, the working poor, and the poor. There is something that th…

Confidence – how can I get more of it?

This is a common question I hear. I also often hear “I don’t have any confidence”. So many are very confident in the fact that they don’t have any confidence!

The mere thought of not having any confidence is in itself an old habit or belief. Babies are not born with the immediate thought, ‘I do not have any confidence’, this is …

Your Stage Performance

All of God’s world is a stage.  

We are but mere actors playing our role in this thing called life.

Some play bit parts and feel insignificant.

Others take the lead and impact many.

Those behind the scenes may fe…

Don’t Be Afraid To Ask for What It Is You Want!!!

Late in 2016, I listened to a course about affirmations. While at first it seemed odd, I decided to give it a try. I set some reminders on my iPhone to go off each day at certain times to repeatedly be in my head about the things I wanted to cultivate in my life. Things like, “I have so many cool things to do” and “I am worthy of the things I desire” will ding all throughou...

Principles For Success

I recently had an opportunity to sit and reflect on some ideas that have helped me and continue to help me and now I share them with you.

  1. Everything has a season -there is a right time and place for all things. Make sure you operate in your season.
  2. Pursue Purpose and ideas -people with a poor mindset talk about others, they talk about nonsense. ...
The Good Side of Gossip

Your Words Have Power!

This is not news to you, I am sure. We create our world through our words, especially when we speak those words aloud.

I want to share a particularly poignant story around just how powerful your choice of words can be.

I was co-facilitating in a ten-week coaching class designed to teach all the participants new methods of th...

Vibe Up Your Space

More and more people are learning the power of keeping your vibration high so you can attract into your life the things you want And there’s many ways to do this, with the most important one being feeling good. However, no matter what you do to keep your vibration high, you are bound to attract or experience negative energy every now and then. It’s the Law of Rhythm. Whethe...

Daily Habits to Build Your Mental Strength

One of the determinants for success and leadership is mental strength. To be a peak performer and attain excellence in any field, you need desire, effort and discipline. This goes beyond acting tough; you have to be willing to work hard and persist even in the face of struggles….

The Ride or The Destination

Is it the Ride or the Destination?

Who are you when you’re behind the wheel?

A.    Destination driver OR –

B.    Enjoy-the-ride driver

There’s a pretty good chance you fit into one of those two descriptions. If you’re the type who needs to “just get there already” the reasons for this are more complex than it being a matter of time or tardines...

Always think forward

I wanted to reflect on something we probably all go through, sometimes you have so much ambition and so many things you want to get in life but it seems impossible to make it so you let those feelings and fear push you and your dreams/goals down. You loose the hope but there will come a day that motivation will come back even stronger and more energy to fight for what you w…

Seeing What Sticks

A mentor of mine once said, “business is like a pot of cooked spaghetti, you’ve got to throw it against the wall and see what sticks”! To the closed minded individual, this statement may seem mildly juvenile or slightly comical but it STUCK with me (pardon the pun).

I feel like my entire life is a pot of spaghetti lately. Parenting, business, relationships, heck …


Do you remember the last time you felt fully present? Where the phone was tucked away (and dead, in this case) and all you needed to do was TAKE IT ALL IN.. Instead of composing the perfect photo, capturing video or acting like a newscaster, sharing the play by play, you were JUST THERE?

Don’t get me wrong – I’m all about sharing life and documenting the incredibl...

Stop Worrying!

The saying is true, “Worrying doesn’t fix tomorrow it only steals today’s Joy” and I know you already know that. So I ask, why does so much time, effort and emotion get spent on worrying?

The human condition is such that we like things to be predictable, we are creatures of habit and relish in being in control. Most people dislike change and put great…

A new sofa? True happiness?

As I was walking though Manchester, in the UK recently, I walked past an exclusive furniture shop. In the window I saw a sofa. It was basic looking, something to sit on while watching TV, or entertaining visitors. I noticed the price tag as I walked past. A whopping £7250. Yes, all that money, for something merely to sit on. Now I like sitting down and relax…

Unleash the Power of Your Foundational Story (3)

In the first two articles of this series, I wrote about the importance of operating from your true, Foundational Story and how knowing and embracing that story connects you to your…

Life Lesson. From a Bug.

Not long ago we saw a caterpillar climbing the side of the house. Slowly, ever so slowly feeling its way ahead, suctioning foot after foot upward across the hard siding. Up, up, up, little by little, giving my sons and I plenty of time to watch, examine, be fascinated by the intricacy of the insect’s long pudgy body, tiny head and row after row of stumpy legs. Such a s…

Are You Indispensable to Your Boss?

In early 2014 Elon Musk was approached by his executive assistant, Mary Beth Brown, for a significant pay increase. Elon Musk’s executive assistant had worked for him for 12 years and Elon Musk thought about the pay increase and then told Mary Beth Brown that wanted to think about it for two weeks so he told her to take two weeks off. During this time Elon Musk assume…

What To Do When You Feel Stuck.

What do you do when you feel stuck? How do you get yourself out of a rut? What do you do when you know what you should be doing, you just haven’t found the motivation to actually do it?

You’re not alone. That was me, for many years. Feeling stuck – wanting to change my life but not knowing how or where to start.  While I was waiting for the stars to align, for myself …

Summer Fever

For all you summer lovers out there starting to panic because it’s already halfway done, I’m here to tell you how you can make the most of the last couple months of the hottest season. Even if you’re dreaming of the warm weather resigning for the year, this article will surely give you good ideas to help pass the time quickly until you’re picking pumpkins and hitting the …


Looking past the dollar signs and recognizing the bigger picture

Recently I was participating in a vendor event and although I didn’t sell as much as I would have hoped for, I left feeling like a millionaire. Sometimes we need to be reminded that money isn’t everything, we often get wrapped up in the excitement of WHAT IF and don’t appreciate the relationships we ...

When You Get the Nudge….

Things for me have been beautifully busy. I’ve spent the last three weeks driving up to Ft. Hood for some good old Army Reserves fun. I’ve actually been doing paperwork and phone calls, so I use the term “fun” loosely. 🙂 Actually, I like the folks I work with, so it’s really been good.

So this morning I was talking to the hubby over breakfast about my business, a…

Make “Deep Down” Your Home…

We live a very over stimulated, over achieving, over judged life don’t you think?

Always striving to achieve what we perceive is going to make us happy or bring us joy. Comparing ourselves to others. Judging ourselves against what we think is the societal ‘norm’. 

Social media, magazines, TV ads and even the news are constantly telling us that we aren’t en…

The Morning Habit that Can Change Your Whole Day

Like most people my age, I’m pretty attached to my phone. It’s my source of information, keeps me on track, and connects me to the outside world. Being the sole operator of a few small businesses, I used to check my phone first thing each morning to see if any new Etsy orders needed to be packed, check my eBook sales, respond to any comments on social media or Etsy custome…

Running For the Fence!

My daughter has always been crazy about horses. One day she asked if she could take riding lessons, and would I take them with her. So began our riding adventures together. At one barn, you had to go get your horse and groom him and tack him up before the lesson started. It never failed but that my horse would be in the farthest pasture, or running to the …


The universe. What a powerful concept, and one that is difficult to explain. Spirituality, having faith, trusting our gut feelings, knowing that things will work out in life: this is us believing in the universe. Even when we are absolutely miserable and feel there is no hope, we tend to lean on the universe and trust in its guidance.

I’ve always loved the thought...

Changing Your Point of Attraction

Yesterday, I had my best wake surf ever!

I even did a little dance on the surf board.

Dancing & Surfing.


I’m so proud of myself for always being willing & open minded to try new things and push myself to do the uncomfortable – knowing full well that wiping out (literally) is a REAL possibility.

There is no better feeling...


According to an article by Travis Bradberry in Entrepreneur, there are six (6) things we do that sabotage (my wording) our success. By doing the following and more than likely not being aware of it, we would be more successful if we…

That’s Child’s Play.

Years ago, I worked as a massage therapist in a chiropractor’s office. It feels like a LIFETIME ago and like it didn’t really happen (blocked it out of my mind?!) – but two things have stuck with me in the 12 years that have so quickly passed by. One, hearing that he ate his child’s placenta will forever scar me and keep me from eating lasagne until the end of times. Second…

Conflict is Good…But Not Always

We have all probably seen it, two or more people in the organization with differing opinions or viewpoints on a subject. While this is not necessarily a bad thing, if left unmanaged the conflict can erode the morale, esprit de corps and cohesion of the organization. So how can you facilitate a resolution before the conflict gets out of hand? Consider employing the foll…

The Truth About Soul Mates

Most people have an overly romanticized view of who their Soul Mate is. They embark on a romantic relationship with ‘the one’ and refer to them as a Soul Mate. The truth is you have many of them in your lifetime.

If you believe, as I do that you are a soul having a human experience, that you signed up to be here in human form so you could learn, explore and experie...

The Truth about Soul Mates

Most people have an overly romanticized view of what a Soul Mate is. They embark on a romantic relationship with a partner and refer to them as their ‘Soul Mate’. When with all likelihood that person is really only one of many they have in their life at any given moment.

If you believe, as I do that we are all souls having a human experience; here on earth incarnat…



For years I’ve tried journaling in different formats: A small notebook with no character, a beautiful notebook that felt wonderful in my hands & have even downloaded various formats. However, I’ve never stayed with any of them. I had no attachment to any versions.

I would forget in the morning or be too rushed for a meeting or be too tire...

The 12th Step on The Ladder of Awareness

Recap & Realizations since last week:

Aha moment: Awareness shines a light on our limiting behaviors and The Ladder takes it several steps further, it reveals self-understanding and our purest truth. Awareness is only the beginning. Truth is the key to all of our personal successes.

Question: …

How to Avoid Self Sabotage

While I generally eat quite healthy and try my best to exercise daily and get outside, there are some days where I just don’t hit the mark. For whatever reason, they start off poorly and the entire day feels blown.

I used to often find myself sabotaging the rest of the day. After eating an unhealthy lunch, for example, I’d think “well there goes that!” and would e…

How one word changed my life

My story

I was fortunate enough to tell folks about myself on a Facebook live video this week where I talk about surviving an abusive marriage and how one word completely changed the direction of my life. This was such a catalyst for me in what was a very difficult and challenging time of my life. But it allowed me to change things for the better …

Recurring Dream

I just couldn’t figure out what was going on with me. I know my life was chaotic, but I couldn’t understand my dreams, particularly the dream I kept having over and over.

In my late twenties, I wanted a complete make-over of my love life. I also wanted to finally cut the umbilical cord with my Dad. I was married to someone that I wasn’t in love with. I cared fo…

Finding Happiness

Steps to finding happiness, daily.

1.) Let go of negativity.

  • Learn to forgive and forget.
  • See every challenge as an opportunity for further growth.
  • Express gratitude for what you have.
  • Be more optimistic about the future and your ability to accomplish life goals.
  • Open yourself up to success and em...
The Psychology of People

So I met up with a friend the other day and they began talking about some people on their job. As they were talking, they mentioned the topic of the psychology of people. I then began to realize the importance of this topic, not only personally, but in business. Years ago I remember someone saying that it is important to know how people see you. You may ask “Why?”. Why shou...

The Ticket to Your First Class Life

What is passion? For some it contains a sexual or intimate connotation and for others it means to have an intense feeling or excitement about something or someone. It’s an energy and a excitement that spurs action and movement. I consider myself a multi-passionate person which is why I jokingly say I suffer from ADSO – Attention Deficit Shiny Object. I want to do every…

What’s your happy place?

What’s your happy place?

In the fast pace life we all tend to lead, it may be difficult to take a minute and find your happy place. I have to say, for me it’s easier said than done. I’m constantly being pulled in different directions and often loose myself. However, today I managed to finally experience that moment of total happiness and zen. I am blesse…

Release Resistance to get What You Want

The only thing that holds us back from getting what we want is resistance. I know what you are saying now. “What are you talking about? Why on Earth would I resist getting what I want?” Well the truth is, more than 95% of what we create in our outer world comes from our subconscious mind, our old memories, old programs, beliefs…call it what you want but it’s all the same …


Do our stories define us or do WE define our stories?

Each day, we’re given a gift — “the present.” So, how do we choose to use those 24 hours? Most of the time, we’re making judgements, aren’t we? Each day, our inner voice is talking to us, a mile a minute, saying positive or negative words that actually subconsciously affect our body.


The Power Of Saying No.

I recently had the chance to be featured as a guest blogger on my publisher’s blog! Check out their blog for inspiring, yet thought provoking content each week brought to you by our amazing tribe of authors every week.

I must say, this was a really fun experience. I was nervous at first, and wondere…

Lessons in Grief

“Death is a reminder to turn up the volume on life.” ~Oprah with Nate Berkus on Super Soul Sunday.

After years without experiencing the loss of anyone in my close circle of family and friends, I walked through the loss of my husband’s mom and brother within four months of each other.

Not only was death and grieving unfamiliar to me, it was rarely spoken…

How to Talk so the Universe Will Listen

The truth is, you don’t need to talk anymore. Actually, I really wanted to call this article “The Universe is Talking. Will You Listen?” but I wasn’t sure if you would read it.

The Universe is always listening. It knows what you want and how you can get it and it is eagerly telling you all about it.

We are the ones who fail to listen. Sometimes we are pus…

The 11th Step on The Ladder of Awareness

The Ladder of Awareness – Part 11


from our sessions on July 5, 2017 (Part 11)


After the success derived from a focus on celebrating a victory yet to come as if it were occurring now, we decided to work backward from...

You Are Supported

You know, life is sometimes such a beautiful paradox.

Right now, I’m celebrating with my fellow co-authors as our book, Dear Limits, Get Out of My Way is on multiple Amazon bestsellers lists (including #58 OVERALL in Canada) – WHILE typing up resumes.

Yep. This girl is going back to the workforce. 

With the help of my hubby, I’m writing the very…

It’s All Falling Into Place As It Should Be.

Last October my sister was diagnosed with breast cancer. It came as a complete shock to me, especially since I had really distanced myself from my family after a falling out the year before. I had not idea she had found something she found concerning in her breast and I had no idea cancer had been in question. And instead of hearing that, I heard, “I have breast cancer.”…

The Benefits of Journalling

Our most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves; and yet it is the one that we almost never invest in. It takes a back seat to our commitments and responsibilities with others which often leaves us feeling empty and disconnected.

Journalling is an amazing way to regain connection and stay connected to oneself.

Here are...

Boosting Your Confidence

Many psychologists will point to experiencing failure as a valuable step in the journey to success. It’s a critical learning tool, because it forces you to dig into your own reservoir of grit. It tests your perseverance and ultimately can make you stronger. “Fa…

Authenticity vs. Being an A**hole

The Authentic Movement. The latest trend in movement– and it’s a good!.It’s frequented by life couches, spiritual gurus, and Millennials. It is meant for the betterment of personal truth and expression, devoid of judgment of self.  True self-directedness, can only come from the heart; judgment comes from the mind. It’s a movement allowing the removal of the perceived soc…


Students often don’t know what educators mean by “critical thinking.”

One of my favorite observations from teaching undergraduate critical thinking is that even though students claim to, they often don’t know what educators mean by “critical thinking.” Even so, there is a tendency for students to nod their heads in agreement with whatever educators say, becaus…

What 2 Do with Closed Minded People

Closed-minded people are everywhere in your life. They will present themselves in various ways which may come off as ignorant or simply stupid.

Most of the time when we deal with them, they are either giving us unnecessary advice about our lives that they know nothing about, they will criticize you on the way you do things, and they will judge you for being who y...

How to Make The Law of Attraction Work for You

With a name like The Secret how could you not jump on the bandwagon so you too could learn the secret to unlock your potential and attract to you everything you could possibly want to be, do or have? God knows I did. And I worked it…and worked it…and worked it some more. I’d have small successes. I’d manifest the occasional parking spot, got really good at manifesting a…

The Law of Reverse Effect

The Law of Reverse Effect is a unique and very powerful law. If not correctly understood, utilizing the Law of Attraction may be next to impossible. This law simply states that sometimes the harder you try to do something or attain a certain goal the less likely you are to succeed. 

The best example of this law is compared to being trapped in quicksand. Not that I…

What Was I Supposed To Be Doing?

 Lately it seems as though I keep forgetting little things. Where I put my glasses, my keys, the charger for my cell phone, you get the idea. I know it’s a normal part of aging to become a little forgetful but I am too young for that! There was a time when people believed there was nothing you could do to help slow down the process.  If you find yourself in the same …

What is the Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction can be understood by understanding that ‘like attracts like’. What this means is that whether we realize it or not, we are responsible for bringing both positive and negative influences into our lives. A key part of the Law of Attraction is understanding that where you place your focus can have an intense impact on what happens to you. If you spend …

Being Human- Unedited


I am only human, I make mistakes. But I also make sure that I take responsibility for my mistakes. I try and fix what I have done wrong, by not only acknowledging them, by also providing realistic solutions on how to correct them. I am my worst critic, I think with my heart and when I’ve done something wrong, …

The 10th Step on The Ladder of Awareness


Last week we dove into the imagualization process and found a focal point from which my truth can be accessed. I use that point in meditations now. It connects me to the universe. Here are a few of the things we learned during the process.

How Did You Get To Be The Way You Are?

Did you ever wonder how you got to be the way you are?

Why do many of us share similar values? Why do others operate on a totally different wavelength? My friends share common traits: having faith, belief and perseverance. Living with a high degree of integrity. Doing what they promise. They’re loving, kind and generous.  


Facing the unknown


This is the second blog in the series taken from my recently published book ‘Get Happy!’ Each blog consists of the page from the book and then a bit more explanation and background to the thinking behind it. Enjoy! 

When I wrote this I was about to go and speak at a conference, on a Q&A panel.

“I have literally no idea what to expect. I can’t …

How to Shine Like a Lighthouse

Stop identifying with your past.


You weren’t who you were yesterday or at least you don’t have to be!

Stop bringing your past into your today.

Stop bringing your past into this moment, because when you do, you are just putting your past into your future. (And then you expect your future to be different, but it won’t be – it will be the ...

How to create the life you want

Have you heard about how we can manifest what we want into our lives? 

So why aren’t things happening as quickly as you’d like? Or what aren’t you living the life you’d like right now, or that you had envisaged? 

Have you also heard that our thoughts create our reality? So what we think, actually creates our life. How you ar…

Humanity’s Achilles

Life is as difficult as it is joyous and sometimes it’s more of one than other other. Why does it always seem like ‘hard’ wins out over joy so much more often?

Our Human Achilles…. that’s why.

We live in suffering due to these three main reasons:

  1. Ignorance. We live in our external world WAY more often than our internal on…
A Vacancy in Time – Live in the NOW.

I found a vacancy in time.

Too many people are living in the Past while others are too focused on the Future.

It is the Now that hardly anyone is living in or thinking about.

Now is when you reflect on the Past and learn from all failures and successes. Those experiences are meant to open your eyes and mind and to propel you towards your hopes an...

Never Judge a Book By Its Cover

It is amazing to me how little, people pay attention to their surroundings these days. I am at the airport waiting in the security line, and the throngs of individuals walking past are looking down at mobile phones, headphones in their ears and off in la la land. I guess that bodes well for me anyhow to avoid epic level embarrassment as I pass through security…

Book Intro!!

Reading Time: 60 Seconds

This week, I thought I’d share the beginning of my book, it is off for editing now but I want to share with you, my friends the beginning!!! Here goes!!

Did you know that Politicians are amongst the least tru...

Avoiding the Dreaded Writer’s Block!

The first time I encountered writer’s block I was stumped. Up to this point, the words had been flowing and my fingers had been flying over the keyboard trying to keep up. So what was this? How could my mind betray me like this? The first few times this happened, I got so frustrated with trying to force the words to come that I got up and walked away. I f…

Finding Inspiration In Strange Places

Browsing Facebook one day, I came across a viral video about a mom’s negative experience at a park with her autistic son. Her son had inadvertently kicked another little girl which pushed her down the slide, but she was completely fine and the act was a simple accident.

Unfortunately, the little girl’s father was enraged and berated the mother for what her son did...

Keep going and you will get there.

This is the first in a series of blogs that feature a range of the content I wrote for my book, Get Happy! Each blog consists of the page from the book and then a bit more explanation and background to the thinking behind it. Enjoy!       

“Greetings one and all. Today I am writing this page to you all from Bristol. I am running a resilience workshop at a school …

Laughter is the Best Medicine

I have been thinking lately that all I have been doing is working, looking after kids, and dealing with life’s responsibilities. I have not taken the time to laugh, be silly and enjoy life. I miss that. It is so important. I was listening to a facebook vlog the other day and the guy was saying that the best way to deal with your anxiety is to reconnect with you and go back t…

Unleash the Power of Your Foundational Story (2)

In my last article, I explained how knowing and embracing your Foundational Story makes it easier to connect with others. It does this by giving us an avenue for tapping into our own powerful and personal Compelling Why….

Time Out! How To Renew Your Inner Self

Pleasetake a time out!  We all need it more than you know. 

From past conditioning, the words, “Time Out” always represented something bad to me. I still remember a gradeschool classmate who was given a “time out.” The teacher put him in the corner with a dunce hat, and his chair had to face the wall. How humil…

Numb and Neutral are NOT the same!

Vices……we all have ‘something’ that we do that takes the edge off. To help us get a reprieve, a breather, a momentary vacation from our crazy, stressed, over stimulated, over judged lives. 

For some people it’s smoking, for some it’s drinking, or eating. Some people escape into sleep, their phone, video games or even exercise. Yes the ‘vices’ that people use go…

Why is it so hard to change?

So why is it so hard to change and whats this got to do with the way we think? 

Why do we put our mind to something with a certainty with a strong intention to make a change then fail to put that plan into action? 

“Yes I am going to join the gym today and keep going several times a week for the rest of the year without fail and bec…

Walking In Wisdom

What is wisdom? We hear this term a lot. In simple terms, wisdom is knowledge applied. So, there’s a lot of people that “know stuff,” but don’t know how to apply what they know an appropriate manner. Wisdom is powerful! Love is the most powerful force on earth but wisdom, faith and hope are pretty close behind it. In James chapter 15, it says “if any of you lack wisdom let...

What Lifts You Up When You Are Feeling Down?

Have you ever met a person that seemed to have everything going for them, and when you compare your life with theirs, you come out looking like you definitely drew the short stick? I used to feel that way often. But when I look back at all I have gone through in my life, I have to stop and think about it. What was it that kept me going when I could so easily have given …

Beliefs Reflect Behaviour in Co-parenting

There are parents who are willing to co-parent amicably and there are those that still carry feelings of unresolved resentment and revenge inside a heart that’s filled with hate. We are taught to judge, lay blame, accuse, play victim and seek retribution. 

I always believed in avoiding ongoing conflicts because of the duress, stress and anxiety that it places on the …

iDentity: Who Are You?

You know them well! Your iPad, iPhone, iEverything… But how well do you know yourself?

In this age of instantaneous access to the world, we may feel closer to people and things which in the past would have seemed totally out of reach, yet we may be losing touch with our own identity. “So what?” you may ask. Well, imagine our solar system without the sun. Pla…

Reflections on Freedom

Today those of us who live in the United States celebrate our political freedom. It is ours simply because we are Americans. We don’t have to do anything to get it. Political freedom was obtained for us by individuals who paid very high prices to obtain it, such as:

Cost of the American Revolution:

·        Total American military casualties were approxi...

Unleash the Power of Your Foundational Story (1)

Does your story help you connect to others?

Human beings are wired to enjoy a good story, and we all have a story that we tell ourselves, and others, about who we are and what we are doing in the world.  How powerfully your story serves you depends on how clearly you know, and use aspects of your own authentic, Foundational Story.

Why does Y…

Hump Day

“Hump day” – Isn’t that what folks endearingly refer to as Wednesday? Of course, in the traditional sense of the expression, the term has to do with being past the halfway point in the work week. From there it is a downhill slide to the coming weekend. Of course, Wednesday is also seen as the toughest day in the work week.

I’ve known folks who lived for …

I Didn’t Always Have Green Hair….

“There once was a woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on her head. “Well,” she said, “I think I’ll braid my hair today”. So she did and she had a wonderful day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head. “Hmm, ” she said, “I think I’ll part my h…

Join Camp NaNoWriMo!

Have you heard of NaNoWriMo? It’s an abbreviation standing for “National Novel Writing Month” and it takes place every November. The goal of the month is to create online and physical communities of writers that are coming together to write 50,000, which is enough words to create an actual novel. Some writers are experienced, and already published, and others are newbies,…

Taking the Leap

Taking the leap with new resolutions


While many people begin to look at the new year in January, my world revolves around academia. July is my January. For the past two months, a friend of mine and I have joked that come July 1st, we have a new beginning. New outlook on the upcoming year, new positivity, new possibilities for what the next year will brin…

Laws Govern The World.

The image you have of yourself determines how and what you will be, do and have! It’s the law, as a matter of fact laws govern everything we do, but to most people that’s a secret. 

Keep in mind-Secrets are things that were once hidden or unknown and you know what else, laws are specific and predictable; In fact those laws are so precise- we as human beings can…

Balanced Life

Balanced Life

There are a lot of “experts” that talk about living a balanced life, which includes a meditation practice.

In my opinion they make a mistake by giving you a one size fits all approach.

 Meditation has played a BIG part in my transformation. I started out doing a 7, then a  21 and 30 day meditations. Then I jumped to a 90 day guided...

How to Keep Yourself Encouraged

Here is a familiar scenario for all of us: You have an exciting goal in mind, you’ve done your homework, you think you’re amply prepared… and things just don’t work out. You’ve probably had times when you thought you were doing what you were supposed to do, but you were misinformed. You thought you had it all laid out, and it just didn’t work. You burned the midnight…

Are stressful thoughts damaging?

Is being in constant stressful states causing long term damage? I would suggest so. Over 70% of hospital admissions in the western world is through stress related illness. 

Did you know we can change our stress response by thought alone?

Most of us whether we realise is or not are living by the hormones of stress. We are literally …

Are stressful thoughts damaging?

Is being in constant stressful states causing long term damage? I would suggest so. Over 70% of hospital admissions in the western world is through stress related illness. 

Did you know we can change our stress response by thought alone?

Most of us whether we realise is or not are living by the hormones of stress. We are literally …


Quill Cloud

Eleanor Roosevelt once said many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends leave footprints in your heart. We will all over the course of our lifetime encounter and interact with various kinds of people; some good, some bad…


Make time to do the things you love, see the people you love, and truly be yourself in a world that is ever so chaotic.


3 Happy Steps To Help You Work on Your Genius!


When have you really got to do it last? I mean really play. You know, the kind where you play so hard you lost track of time? The kind of play which rekindled that familiar feeling of love, excitement, wonder? Life can insidiously mold you into becoming too serious. And before you know it, we see life through a filter of responsibilities. Slowly, w…

Strength In What Remains

A few years ago, someone told me the story of The carrot, the egg, and the coffee bean. If you are unfamiliar with the story it goes like this:

A woman was complaining to her mother about how hard things were for her in life. Her mom took her into the kitchen and put a pot of water on the stove and brought it to a boil. Then she laid carrots, eggs, and coffee…

Summer of SLOW: How Savoring Increases Well-Being

Burned out and stressed out are not our natural ways of being. Nearly everything we’ve been conditioned to believe about attaining happiness is untrue. Busy and more are amongst the greatest robbers of daily joy. Committing to improving your well-being is the first step to feeling better.

Here’s how to transform depleted into joyfulness this summer…

What’s Your Number?

Mine’s 171. Oh, for Pete’s sake…172.

172 unread emails in my personal inbox, that is. (Personal, not business, of course – I read those messages right away!)

Of those, some are things I want to read, but haven’t had time, some are ones I want to action, and most are ones I just didn’t make time to open yet because….ugh… I don’t even …

No Holds Barred

I want to share with you something super personal. And don’t worry, it’s not about my vagina. You may think that’s super personal, but I think that plays second fiddle to this topic.

I want to tell you about this part of me and how I protect mine. I’m very passionate about protecting this part of me too – the most delicate flower, besides the other flower ...

Let your brain unwind

Do you know? Yesterday I was a right grumpy old fart. 

I know, hard to believe huh?! Well believe it or not I do get grumpy. We’ve discussed before that one of my triggers for grumpiness is a lack of food but yesterday was down to a lack of sleep. My hobby is to sing with a 20 piece swing band and we had a gig on Saturday night. Normally when I get home from a gig I …

Finding JOY in Your Journey!

In August 2009, just 1 month after my 50th birthday, I was diagnosed with an aggressive form of breast cancer. Happy Birthday, right? Phhht!!

I decided to begin a blog about my cancer journey, with the first entry being posted on August 20, 2009. I called it “Adventures With Wendy”. You can check it out…

Manifesting Mania

Manifesting is the lasted craze and it seems to be all over the internet. But getting it to work, for most of us, is like using an old wind up watch. If you over wind a watch, it will get stuck. If you forget to wind it, it just doesn’t run! Winding a watch is something this generation never experienced, so I thought I’d give you an analogy of something just as con…

The Ladder of Awareness – Part 6

Day 6 – May 18th, 2017

1 – The reworking of my email signature statement: a draft in progress.

“Success comes from a passion for exploring curiosity and a willful optimism for changing the world. Whenever I meet people who share these traits with me, it fuels my desire to inspire others. I write about the journey of success to...

The Best Communication Ever

“I told him over and over but he just doesn’t get it.”

“It is so simple. Why doesn’t she understand me?”

“It’s like I am talking to a brick wall.”

Doesn’t it drive you crazy sometimes? Why is it so hard for people to understand each other?

Language is a complicated thing. I would argue that it is a miraculous thing, and that it is ama...

Credit Card Debt

I hosted my Money S.M.ART.S. Workshop at the National Conference for College Women Student Leaders (NCCWSL).

I shared ways to save money on things they use everyday, different apps you can use to earn money, and how the Rule of 72 can work for them.

I also covered the danger of credit cards, this is where it got interesting, I spent half my workshop time answe…

My Heart Is At Ease.

“my heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me and that what misses me was never meant for me.” 

– imam al-shafi-i

ive never felt the type of peace like i have in the last month. i have spent so much of my life focusing on where there is lack; specifically in the realm of life, love and the pursuit of happiness. what i have learned …

Connection! Communication! Creation!

Connection! Communication! Creation!

Let me start by telling you a story.  I moved to Canada 4 years ago and when I moved here I didn’t know anybody. I did not have friends and didn’t know much about Montreal and the West Island which is where I live now. I was lonely! I wanted to learn to adapt here, make friends, grow and find my purpose. I star…

There is No Such Thing as Failure!

There is no such thing as failure.

Failure is a figment of your imagination to whatever degree you believe in it. To me, it’s just a word with no substance; no mass. Something to turn away from. Something to ignore.

As people read this, they will each have their own reaction to that statement. I am reasonably sure that I won’t change much in the way peop…

Create Healthy Boundaries NOT Barriers

There is a palpable difference between having healthy BOUNDARIES and creating BARRIERS in our lives. 

Boundaries are like a pre-set contract that you make with yourself and thus with the world around you. An ‘offensive‘ move in the game of life. It’s knowing yourself well; knowing your comfort zone, your triggers and the th…

Facing Our Giants

One day I was visiting with an older lady I had met in the desert. She asked me to do her a favor and write a Christian romance novel for her. She loved to be entertained when reading a good romance but wouldn’t read them anymore because she hated (at this point she whispered) the bad language and sex. I thought a lot about what she said, but wasn’t cert...

4 Ways To Remember The Power of Back To The Basics

Quill Cloud

There is great power in going back to the basics. Everything in life MUST start from the beginning. I mean E-VERY-THING! Setting the foundation and sometimes, going back to reset that foundation is necessary. Keeping things simple,  is like comi…

Become a star

Quill Cloud

Every weekend, my family goes swimming together. We all have a swim in the main pool, and the girls also have swimming lessons. Last weekend my youngest daughter informed me that she can swim now, and then she asked why she still needed to have lesson…

How to calm down and look at life differently

Do you feel like you are often doing things at a million miles an hour and you never have a minute to yourself? Do you often feel like you never have any time to do anything and are always playing catch up? Would you like to feel more calm and relaxed? Would you prefer to take things more in your stride, rather than rushing around on autopilot? D…

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life

Let me tell you a story about a girl.. 

She was full of life. She was the oldest of three children. At the age of 8 she was diagnosed with Still’s disease. 

Still’s disease is an autoimmune disease affecting only 1 in 75,000 Canadians per year. 

It was excruciatingly painful, extremely debilitating. 

If left untreated was crippling. 


How To Forgive You

I’ve recently found myself struggling with a lot of anger, most of it directed inward. I have a hard time forgiving people in general especially when I feel betrayed, but when it comes to forgiving myself, I have a much harder time. I hold myself to extremely high standards. I look at my current circumstances and know that they are a direct result of some bad choi…

Why Your Identity is So Much Bigger Than a Job

A few weeks ago, a meeting with my financial planner took me back to my old office building. Having left my corporate job in January to pursue self-employment full-time, going felt a little uncomfortable and reminded me of the life I walked away from.

One of the hardest things about changing paths was feeling like I had lost my identity. I had grown accustomed to feel…

The Ladder of Awareness – Part 5


Day 5 –May 15th, 2017

Evaluating my signature sentence:

“I believe successful people have a passion for the work they do.

Their passion makes the work great and I get a R…

Are YOU on Your To-Do List?

Can you believe it’s already June? We’re about halfway through 2017 already. In-SANE! How the heck did that happen?

So let’s chat for a second about self-care. Now, if you should know one thing about me, it’s that I’m a big fan on mini-indulgences

They’re those little things you do for yourself throughout the day to make yourself fee...

A Letter from My Future Self

I want to be the best possible human I can be and to do that I need to keep working on myself. The more I learn about myself the happier I am.

This past week I placed personal emotional work on my agenda and the exercise I chose was “The Journey” by the book of the same name, written by Brandon Bays.

The concept is simple and the process is challenging but the …

Play > Worry ?

Play > Worry. 

I read a passage lately on wise words Buddha once said:

{in my translation}

there are three creatures on the planet that can reach enlightenment —whales, dolphins, and humans. But the difference is that human beings fixate too much on meeting the basic survival needs of food , shelter , and in our days, mo…

A Transition Practice to Fuel Your Afternoon

I’m going to challenge a huge fallacy in our society. 

We’ve been taught that sustained well-being and happiness is found through pursuing external gratification. Things like our achievements, relationships, the new house. They do boost our happiness levels, but only temporarily.

In my studies in positive psychology, and in my own experience, it’s the sma...

Showing up as Shari

“You are who you create yourself to be and all that comes into your life is a result of your own creation.”

~ Shari

I am seeing everything in life through a sharper lens than ever before, lifting veils of darkness that have committed me to profound emotional and physical pain. The details of my struggle are not important – though I describe a coupl…

10 Reasons Why Experiences are Better than Stuff

We all know that experiences are more valuable than stuff, but do we actually know why? Read on to discover 10 reasons why enjoying experiences beats stuff, hands-down, every time.

1. Happiness lasts longer when we engage in experiences.

All of us have indulged in retail therapy at sometime or another – heck, a spending…

Live Life Like a Three Day Weekend

here comes the alarm

and your desk



are you ready?

Gah, I’m so sorry to have to bring those things up BUT, here’s the deal…

I watched people last week here in Florida, travel in for a longer than usual weekend.

Somewhere along the way, our Western culture has us working *40+ hours a week, 9am -5pm wit...

Is Money the Root of All Evil?

Are you obsessed with money? Do you think most people are? Is money evil and curses everyone if acquired in large amounts? To be truthful, money actually lessens the evil effects of greed by channeling it away from socially destructive practices, and toward socially productive ones.

Money is an exchange – of trade. And in societies without trade, the most common way …

Motivation vs. Inspiration

Have you ever just NOT felt “motivated” to do something? Perhaps you are procrastinating or waiting for the exact RIGHT conditions to be in place for you to get moving on a project or idea.

Do you sometimes find that you are frustrated with yourself?

Here’s why….

There is a HUGE difference between being MOTIVATED to take action an…

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

The above statement has been the story of my life for the last three years. Before that I lived in my comfort zone. Anything that was uncomfortable I would avoid, brush under the rug, change the subject, basically do everything to avoid it. I was not happy living in my comfort zone but at the time that place was easier and safer than taking risks. I was also conforming to …

Stop Using The Term “My Ex”

For Healthier Co-Parenting, Stop Using The Term “My Ex”

We arrived at the airport, excited knowing that soon we would feel the warm breeze and hot sun on our skin. We got on the shuttle, loaded with people from various countries, for an adult-only week of Zen vacation. The atmosphere of enthusiastic people in good moods added to my own excitement; we…

The Power of Quotes

A few quotes this week that have made a difference in my life, I hope you enjoy!! Share yours with me!!

  • I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work. Thomas A. Edison
  • Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt. Abraham Lincoln
  • I do not think much of a man who is not wiser toda...
The Ladder of Awareness – Part 4



Learning To Live My Actual Life:

My tagline has quickly become “learning to live my actual life” – but what do I really mean by that? Where did that come from? Why has it become my anthem? 

Without giving away too much of what I wrote in the book I’m a contributing author in, learning to live my actual life has been something that has been evolving the last few years. Awakening to the life that i...

The Three-Second Rule

Reading time: 90 Seconds

Did you ever miss out on an opportunity because you were too slow off the mark? Or talk yourself out of doing something and then regret it later? Have you ever sat in a bar nursing a glass of wine or beer all night, watching other people enjoy themselves while you never budge or make a move? “I’ll just order one more drink, then I’ll go for it…

Becoming A Better You without Losing Yourself

Throughout life, I believe that God sometimes specifically places us and keeps us in situations so that it can mold and shape us and allow our character to grow so that as we move into the next platform in our life, we will be fully equipped for it. I am a Christian and as a Christian, I trust God and have faith that He always has my best interest at heart. I…

How do you find the time?!

Do you love to read, but find yourself struggling to find the time and energy? I hear you! It can be so hard to make time, even to do something you really want to do. Here are some tips and tricks that have helped me increase the amount I read.

1.     Let your desire guide you

My “lowest” reading year was a year in which I wanted my reading…

Review: The Devoted Dreamers, by Nicolya Williams

The Devoted Dreamers is Williams’s second book, a follow up to her 2016 title “Quick Tips for Busy Women”. In this book Williams discusses the importance of routine in our lives, specifically creating an evening routine. She uses the acronym D.R.E.A.M.S to help create a memorable and easy to follow routine that can be personalized for each person’s own schedule and ne…

Finding Your Purpose

Have you ever felt unfulfilled, or as if something was missing in your life? So many times, we live our lives without purpose because let’s face it- we haven’t figured out exactly what that purpose is. I felt that way for quite some time and became frustrated and desperate for a deeper understanding. 

Here’s what I found out- Purpose isn’t necessarily something that…

A Competitive Perspective

A Competitive Perspective

by Deborah Ann Davis, Guest Blogger

Originally published on Good Reads with Ro…

Fight the Urge to PRESERVE Your Life & LIVE IT!

Two weeks ago, I bought a Jeep Wrangler; something I had been dreaming of and manifesting for at least 3 years. I often spent time seeing myself behind the wheel, what it would feel like to have my hair blowing in the wind with the top off; I even was intentional about opening the windows on my prior vehicle to “practice” what it would feel like as a Jeep girl, all wind blo...

The Workout to Concur Cancer

I decided this weeks’ blog would be more of a “dear diary” then my typical exercise science based post. May has been one heck of a busy month; family visits, working, moving, renos, family (children), blogging, bills/life, and to top it all off, I joined the “Workout to Concur Cancer” through the BC Cancer foundation. The goal of this challenge was to exercise every da…

A journey in book marketing

Today we launched our first ‘single-author’ project on Golden Brick Road Publishing House imprint. It is not the first single-author project we have worked on, but was the first ready and out the door! For those that don’t know – we started out as a collaborative / coauthor house.

Yes, this book was ready just in time for Book Expo America and BookCon…

Doing the Same Thing, Expecting Different Results

If you’ve read my other articles, or little peeks into my heart and soul, you get it: I want you to move your body, yada yada

or do you?

What’s fascinating me more than anything right now? How fast time flies.

Am I right? It’s literally insane. They weren’t kidding when they told us that the older you get, the quicke...

How 2 Achieve a Positive Mindset

The “power of positive thinking” is a popular notion, and sometimes it can feel a little cliché. But the mental benefits of positive thinking have been demonstrated by many scientific studies. Positive thinking can give you more self-confidence, improve your mood, and even reduce the likelihood of developing conditions such as hypertension and depression.

All this s…

Why You Must Make Yourself a Priority

Ever scroll through your Facebook newsfeed, browsing mindlessly, until you land on another mom’s photo and suddenly, there it is: a kick ass snapshot of her grinning wildly, happy and healthy, as though she’s the model for a magazine cover shoot that’s all about living life to the full.

And then, instead of feeling delighted for her, you feel bad for …

Celebrate Difference

Wisdom Is…The Ability To Recognize Difference.

The difference in Environments, Moments, People.

 Your ability to distinguish the subtle difference in everything around you decides your success or the lack there of. The Law of Difference has never been questioned. Atheists, Hindus, Buddhists, Christians, Protestants, Catholics, Gentiles…no one questions the exis…

Follow the Rules?

Last weekend I had my last training weekend for my professional coaching program certification. Those weekends were lots of fun, and also pretty tiring. And I always get tons of great nuggets along the way. 

One of my favorite discussions this weekend revolved around a game we played.

Honestly, the game was a little mind-boggling. A couple of my fellow coac…


No! What a powerful word. So powerful, many are afraid to use it.

NO – Setting the boundaries:

“No” should not be confused with “I don’t like you” or “ I don’t want to help you”. “No” doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. It simply means, that right now, at this point in time you can’t for what ever reason.

I have a dear friend. She’s a lo…

Free Yourself From Your Past

How would your life be right now if you could live each moment without any baggage from the past? “Baggage” as it is referred to is previous memories and experiences that to this day influences our current perception of our reality. Since baggage is in our past, it is safe to say that our pasts help shape and define us. It becomes the filters through which we perceive reali...


I am sending this out to anyone who is struggling to write an article or a book. I am also writing this as a reminder to myself to trust the process!

 I am spending this week working on manuscript #6 in a hotel room at the beach. I checked in on Sunday and will be checking out on Friday (before the rates skyrocket for Memorial Day weekend).

For those o…

Focus on the end result

Hello there lovely people how are you?

Every Sunday afternoon the Howarths go swimming. The girls have lessons and we spend time swimming all together in the big pool as well.

I never feel like going, ever. There is not one single week where I find myself wanting to go. It’s Sunday, largely we’ve been quite lazy and relaxed for most of the rest ...

Evacuate F.E.A.R.

I remember after my last breakup thinking that I would never be a mother. A major wave of fear, anxiety and resentment for the time I had wasted came over me. How could the universe allow this? How could I have been so naive? This was back in my major pity party days. Society combined with my own self-limiting beliefs had forced me to believe that thirty-five years o…

The Million Dollar Decision Gift

I thought I’d share with you a sincere note from the heart about a book I was honoured to receive. It was from one of our authors in Slovenia. Robert Rolih has written for EternityWatch Magazine in the past and his message has been one of empowerment.

When he sent me a couple copies of his book, I was pleasantly surprised. It was nice to know that he remember me in...

Badmouthing Can Have Lasting Consequences

Badmouthing Your Co-Parent Can Have Lasting Consequences

When I think back to my early years of co-parenting, 30 years ago, my awareness about co-parenting was limited — it was unknown territory. I had to figure out how to manage my emotions through the twists and turns of my new life.

Becoming a co-parent is a life-changing experience. It’…


Decide is a word I have heard many times. What does it really mean? We decide to make dinner, we decide to go for a walk, we decide to call a friend, we decide to watch a movie. The list can go on and on. We can decide to do certain things, but we can also truly decide to make big changes in our lives.

When we want to make big changes, the word DECIDE has such a bi...

Words are Powerful

I have been reflecting on my week! It has not been an easy one! When I think back to why it wasn’t I realise that it is the thoughts that have been in my head and the words that I have been using that have been causing my anxieties and worries. A few times this week I have been told Monica watch the words you use. Funny I did not know I was using them until pe…

Keep Your Eye on the Ball

For as long as I’ve known her, my friend has always wanted to live in the Concrete Jungle. Why she wanted to move there seemed simple – it’s where dreams are made of (at least that’s what Alicia Keys says) – she wanted to live and work in New York City.  

Over the past year she worked so hard to pave a life for herself in New York – she found a place to live, she ne…

Bringing Meaning to our Messes
  • Abusive parents,
  • An act of violence against you,
  • Addiction,
  • Criminal behaviour,
  • Subjugation, a target of racism, job loss,
  • Chronic disease or a fatal diagnosis,
  • Natural disasters…

It doesn’t matter what we face in our lives, no matter how frightening, undesired or tragic the beast, it is always upon ...


Do you ever wish that life had a rewind button?

That you could go back and do something over? Do it differently?

I know I do.

What are some things you’d do different?

I’ll share first.

The first thing I would have done…I would have stuck with my original college major. I was pre-med all my life. I even went to UCLA a ...

Is This Real Life?

2016 was a successful year. I had renewed hope after a SUCKY 2015 that anything would be better. So I showed up. And was SO blessed by the year. When the clock struck midnight to 2017, I was NERVOUS!! What would 2017 ask of me? Who would I become? Could I have another successful year or was that just a one-time thing for 2016? I’m just meant to have crappy years, rig…

For The Love Of Failure

Failure is something that we’ve all experienced in some form, big or small. However, many of us have very different approaches or reactions to our own personal failures and to those of others. No doubt they can sting in various degrees, but they all help us grow more than we give credit for.

To get the clichés out of the way, it’s important to ‘look on the bright...

Give It To Your Mom She’ll Know What To Do

Give It To Your Mother, She’ll Know What To Do.

The clothing tag in this picture is quite humorous. But for most, these words are so true. It is fitting that this subject matter become my article after Mother’s Day and family conversations this past month. I am not discounting fathers or men in this article, as I think they are wonderful and I always…

Expectation to deliver.

Once again I am delving into life’s expectations. There are so many scenarios where one is expected to “deliver”. What do I mean by “deliver”? In this case, I define it as producing or achieving or just living up to the expectations set for us. These expectations are either set by ourselves or by others. It could be a presentation at work, a planned or impromptu d…

Change: A new, easier to swallow, perspective.

“Be the change that you wish to see in the world”

Mahatma Gandhi

Whether you’re hiking 40 miles in a day, climbing a 14r in Colorado or raising a child to become an awesome adult, it all begins in your mind.

One very pivotal exercise that I did while writing my book was to hold a book in my hands, close my eyes and imagine that the bo...

Manifestation & Visualization

Self-help gurus talk all the time about how important it is to “manifest” the things we want in our lives, but I think a lot of people are pretty unclear about what manifestation actually is. We seem to be under the impression that to “manifest” something in our life, we just have to ask for it. I’ve heard and seen so many people spout aphorisms like Ask and you shall recei...

Building Vibrational Wealth

This is my most favorite selfie of all time.

I remember this moment – the moment I declared myself FREE. Free from everything and anything that ever got on my stage.

What stage?

My stage.

Lately, when I find people get in my head, or the ways in which I should live my life get in my head, I have to remember that it’s my stage, my show and that s…

Why ‘Me-Time’ is crucial to living your best life

What a time to be alive – especially for women. These days, when comes our careers and life goals we have more freedom of choice than ever, but when you look at the statistics, all of this ‘having it all’ comes at a price.

More women than ever report feeling overwhelmed by the busyness of their lives. They feel as though they just don’t have the time to pu…

Miracles, Meetups & Great Big Balloons

Do you believe in miracles? Not like in the hypothetical sense, but concrete, honest-to-goodness miracles.

Because I do. And now that I’m making an effort to allow them in, I’m having a Miracle-filled week. 


‘Murica ‘Muricle! 

(Ok, I’ll stop with the sillies. For now….)

See, I’ve been working with one of my mentors lately to bri…

What’s Better? Emotionally Intelligent or Mentally

The Definition of Emotional Intelligence

The definition of emotional intelligence has shifted over the years—the ability to understand the way people feel and react and to use this skill to make good judgments and to avoid or solve problems.

Here are five components of emotional intell…

The Truth of The Matter

The Truth of The Matter is, that most people have some form of self-doubt, or insecurities about themselves.

To be completely vulnerable and open, I have been plagued with body image issues for years, but I thought they had been put to rest. I have worked on myself for many, many years. I learned and understood that my childhood created many issues with …

Practice, Practice, Practice

“It’s supposed to be hard. If it were easy, everyone would do it.” 

– Tom Hanks in A League of Their Own

I’m sure you have all heard the saying “practice makes perfect.” I heard it all the time when I was an elite gymnast and springboard diver. Practice, Practice, Practice…that’s all I did. I practiced every day, five hours a day, for …

Intentional Wishing

Most of us are familiar with the terms, “Wishing on a star”, “The sky is the limit”, or “Be careful what you wish for.” What if you knew you really could wish on a star and it could come true, or that there really is no limit to the sky? What if I were to tell you the problem may be what you don’t wish for? 

Have you ever had a desire or wish that…

Flexible Like Bamboo

It’s been a rough week. The rising water levels of the Rivière des Prairies have affected many of the neighboring cities. Although I am safe in my home and on dry land, high above water levels; I can’t say that I am unaffected by Mother Nature’s mood swings.

Before I dive into what this article is about, I want to mention that my thoughts and prayers are with all thos…

Befriending Yourself: How to Get Started

If you verbalized the thoughts that run through your head each day, would you consider yourself your own best friend, or your own worst enemy? If you answered the latter, here’s how to begin to befriend yourself.

#1 Take the love and devotion that you give out to others and turn it inwards toward yourself first thing in the morning. Doing this befor…

Why It’s Ok Not To Be Happy

Are you happy? How do you know? There is a great deal of stuff out there about happiness; what it is and what it isn’t. But how many people answer an authentic “yes!” when asked if they’re happy?

Maybe so few people can say they are happy because of the unrealistic and far-fetched expectations our society has laid out in front of us via movies, songs, commercials,...

Manifesting Part #3…The UNIVERSE saves your Butt

So you are probably looking to Manifest something in your life: abundance, experiences or people. But the truth is that few people really know HOW.

Check out (part #1) and (part #2) of this series to really get the down low on all things Manifesting.

If you’ve already read Parts 1 and 2 then this is going to clear up any angst you may have about YOUR abilit…

3 Small Daily Habits With a Big Impact

Overhauling, or even just changing your habits can feel overwhelming. Habits are our regular tendencies or practices, and we often do them on autopilot. Adding new ones or changing the ones we have can seem daunting.

But it doesn’t have to be.

Small habits that don’t take much time or energy and are added gradually are much easier to incorporate. And these…


As stated in last week’s article, The 12 Steps were developed by Bill W. and Dr. Bob as a path to recovery when they founded Alcoholics Anonymous in the 1930s. Many people believe that the 12 Steps were divinely inspired and indeed, Bill W. founded Alcoholics Anonymous following a spiritual experience he had in which his desire to drink alcohol was removed. When you read t…

Getting Rid of the “Worry” Gene

My mother was a worrier. If she didn’t have anything to worry about, she would make something up. Really. She used to tell us that there was no getting away from this so get used to it: the worry gene was part of our genetic makeup. My sisters and I followed her example, carrying on the tradition of worrying as if it was the normal thing for us to do. Of course …



“No act of kindness no matter how small is ever wasted.” Aesop. 

Did you know that Darwin believed that kindness and care for others was the result of evolution? He’s often associated “survival of the fittest” but that is an over-simplistic view of his work. He also considered how positive kindness is for humankind.

What We Know ...

A Choice We Actively Made As Mothers

Co-Parenting In Harmony Is A Choice We Actively Made As Mothers

Mother’s Day is to celebrate exactly that – mothers of every kind, whether it’s to celebrate your mom, grandmother, stepmother or anyone else that has played a maternal role in your life. Every type of mom appreciates the recognition for all their love and effort towards their child’s w…

Hey, 2017!!

last year, ringing in the new year alone, i sat on my couch and cried silent, hot tears. 2015, in short, sucked. i was more than eager to have an official goodbye to the year. #byefelicia

i was exhausted. i was overworked. i walked away from some really influential relationships and was figuring out who i actually was after i stripped away the expectations they …

Take Responsibility of You

Take Responsibility of You

Do you value yourself? Do you put yourself on your To Do list? Do you have time for you in your day? Do you blame others for your unhappiness?

I decided to write this article because nearly everyday I see amazing women in my coaching practice who are so sad, lost and don’t know where to turn. From the outside looking in they have …


“Successful and unsuccessful people do not vary greatly in their abilities. They vary in their desires to reach their potential.” – John Maxwell

I was born a Canadian of European decent. My family members were undistinguished foreigners, they barely spoke English, and they were illiterate. We weren’t rich nor did we come from money. I was rooted in traditio…

Part 2 Leaving Corporate America 10 Things Learned

Ten Things I’ve Learned Since Leaving Corporate America

[Part 1 was posted previously and includes (1) through (5) below]:

1.      Healthcare in America is hard. ADVICE: Plan, plan, plan. Make a checklist of “should dos” and “need to dos” and start making appointments while you have coverage, *especially* if you are a female. Start learning what your opt...

Doing the Unthinkable A Beach Vacation with UR EX

Doing the Unthinkable A Beach Vacation with Your EX

Before you dismiss your co-parenting communication style as hopeless, remember why you keep trying to make it work: your children. For the sake of their mental health they need to have a relationship with both of you, and definitely deserve to feel that they are front and centre in both of your...

Happy is an Inside Job

Breath came to me 38 years ago but life began when I found happy. I wanted to be a wife and I was. I wanted to be a mother and I was. I got what I asked for but none of it made me feel happy inside. Let me tell you, the answer to what made me happy was not simple.  I needed to make money, I needed to be home for the kids and I needed to be a wife.

So I thought, “Pe...


When your life is in alignment, you feel good living it, and even if things are scary, they are serving a purpose. Alignment, to me, is so crucial to living a happy healthy life. At times, we follow the crowd because it seems like the easier route, but our bodies have a way of showing us the value of individuality. 

Align yourself with your values and see …

Too Many Choices

Recently someone asked me about what to do when you have so many choices that you end up feeling overwhelmed and don’t know what to do.

We’ve all been there, right? I mean, the cracker isle alone has enough choices to cause brain paralysis. And when it comes to something more important than what to put your cheese on (albeit a worthwhile question in itself), having…

Facing the unknown

Greetings everyone!

This afternoon I am speaking at a conference in Liverpool. Well, actually I’m on a Q&A panel. I have literally no idea what to expect, I can’t prepare anything because I have no idea what questions will be asked. I have no clue as to what the other panelists’ views are on life, the universe and everything and I have no idea who wi…


The 12 Steps were developed by Bill W. and Dr. Bob as a path to recovery when they founded Alcoholics Anonymous in the 1930s. Many people believe that the 12 Steps were divinely inspired and indeed, Bill W. founded Alcoholics Anonymous following a spiritual experience he had in which his desire to drink alcohol was removed. When you read the 12 Steps and real…


Today I’ve literally written about 4 blogs (about 4000 words) to come up with this one.

I’ve had a hard week. Only because I’ve been hard on myself. This is all on me. I have no one else to blame.

I’ve learned some lessons too. I’ve gained some wisdom. And all’s not lost….

I feel sometimes (most times) I get conflicting advice, be it from business b…

Have A Question? Just Ask.

Logic says that if you don’t know the answer, you need to ask someone. For me, asking a question is a problem. I will go into a store and spend anywhere between five to ten minutes looking for something before I ask one of the sales associates for help. I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I have been driving and gotten lost or turned around and still …


I love signs.

I’m not talking about signs like the bulls-eye at Target.

I’m talking about “signs” from a higher power.

Do you all ask for signs? I do. I do a lot actually.

If I’m thinking about something, like considering a new venture or trying to come to a decision about something, I often pray and in my prayers I ask for a sign.

I u...

Manifesting Part #2 – Don’t follow the waitress!

If you are interested in Manifesting some amazing form of ABUNDANCE into your life you’d better know the ‘rules’. Didn’t catch part #1? no worries …here you go (click here)

The very short version is that…

Creativity Can Be Learned

“Genius arrives when you show up enough times to get the average ideas out of the way.” – James Clear

Creativity has little to do with inspiration and everything to do with practice. When you study some of the most successful, creative people who ever lived: Thomas Edison, Nicola Tesla, Albert Einstein, Steve Jobs, Stephen King or J.K. Rowling, at the heart of th…

Do I Have a Problem with PHOTOGRAPHS?

the other week i woke up to a text from Sister asking if i had any photos to include in her annual “make-mom-a-calendar-with-family-photos-for-christmas” venture.

i instantly tensed up, got crabby and replied, “you can just skip me this year..”

woah, someone is crabby.

whats going on? whats the thing behind the thing? im always...

Are you a Maker?

I love working with my hands. 

There is something archaic and intrinsic to laboring over something with nothing but one’s wits and hands to take raw material and transform into a creation of practical use. Its art. Its craft. 

Before our modern times of convenience and technology (both having their merits, I admit) We had more of something which we have sadly …


Too many times in life, we send ourselves into a tailspin of worry over things that always end up working out. My 24 year old daughter, Lauren, is in the beginning of her teaching career. She has all the qualities of an amazing teacher, and has been seeing that through her years of tutoring, her stage, and now her first year of teaching. She is in demand at the school where...

Train 2B Mentally Tough

While many other quarterbacks might have crumbled under pressure, Tom Brady’s mental strength became most apparent in the second half of the 2017 Super Bowl. As many New England Patriots fans lost hope for a win by halftime, Brady led the team to in one of the most stunning comeback victories in the history of the sport.

What’s the secret to Brady’s success? He undou…

Roller Skating & Other Passions

A few weeks ago, I went to Charlotte, NC for a retreat with my coach and mastermind group. It was great to connect with people who I had only met online. And it was great on the business and mindset front too.

So no joke – there was some kind of roller skating club get-together at the hotel. Apparently these roller skating enthusiasts meet up at different places…