More articles in category: Personal Development

Rain = Rainbows. Dark = Stars.

I wrote this a while back when I lost a friend and it reminded me to be grateful for the gift of health and the gift of life every day. Exactly one year ago we had a major health scare with my toddler. Hopefully this article can bring awareness and light to some of you dealing with loss and fear.

This friend of mine left this earth before his parents, 37 years old, l…

Life is a Harvest

Sometimes you work your butt off to get results. You push, you fight, you try again and again; and whatever it is just doesn’t happen. This may be because you are trying to reap what is only now being planted.

Some years ago, I came across a book that has helped me gain insight and perspective regarding the events of my life and the timing of occurrences. In “The …

Invest in You!

So many of us have so many dreams. So many things we want to achieve in our lives. We spend so much time not following our dreams because we get distracted by our responsibilities and what is expected of us. We also think that they are not realistic and that we will never achieve them.

What you want out of life you can achieve. First you must invest in you to make ...

Writing Better Articles

Reading Time: 90 Seconds

This is my 22nd article, I am going to share some observations and tips that I have picked up along the way. Once you read this article you may well take it on board for your own articles. If you don’t you’ve had a look and lost nothing !!

I love to study people, what they do, what they write, what t…

ABCs of Speaking: Chapter B – Bookings

The strategies to get booked shared with you here have allowed me to keep my calendar as full as I would like and more importantly have worked for my clients to go from no speeches to up to as many as eighty-seven speeches in one year.

Here are ten key strategies to getting booked, follow them consistently and you will find many audiences full…

Check Yo’self Before You Wreck Yo’self

This week has been a rough one. One of my co-workers just lost her brother to suicide. An ex-NFL player took his own life in prison and this happens to be the one year anniversary of my cousin’s death, who also took his life. It made me reflect on the dark places that they must have been in to feel that death was the only way out. It’s not someth…

What I Really Want My Kids to Know!

My 9-year-old baby brought me this yesterday morning in bed.

“Happy Easter Mama! This is you first thing in the morning.” She held out an orange plastic Easter egg, with glue eyes and a crooked smile, with pink tentacles.

There are no words…. and what are those pink scraggly things hanging off the bottom of my replicated egg face, I could only assume were…

Releasing Resentments

Releasing Resentments and Initiate Peaceful Resolution While Co-parenting

A damaged relationship is not irreversible when both parties sincerely put in the effort.  As with any other relationship, you will have disagreements and misunderstandings. Set aside your personal feelings and focus solely on resolving the matter for the benefit of your ...

Courage and Change

“Take a risk

Take a chance

Make a change

And breakaway”

Those are familiar lyrics to some of you, I’m sure. Kelly Clarkson’s “Breakaway”.

I’ve belted these same words out many times since the song came out. I’d venture to guess that sometimes when I sang the word…

Mountains Are Conquered With Persistence!

We can do anything we want as long as we stick to it long enough ~~ Helen Keller

Persistence means something different to everyone

What does persistence mean to you? In order for persistence to be beneficial for YOU, it must have a meaning that drives you forward. 

Do you ever think about just giving up and going back t…

Love Yourself

Love yourself??? What does that mean? Isn’t that selfish? Isn’t that egoistic to put yourself first? The answer is no. The problem these days is that we are all giving to everybody in our life. Caring about everybody in our lives. Giving our energy away. So who is giving to us??? 

Our bodies are like cars. They take us everywhere. When the car is full it works very…

Intuitive Liespotting

Not too long ago I had an opportunity to attend a weekend workshop with what was a relevant and timely topic for me. Lots of hype about the person leading the workshop, the agenda and the venue but there was this inexplicable niggly not-good feeling in my gut whispering, “Don’t go. You’ll be wasting your time.” I listened and decided to stay home.

About a week …

With All My Heart – Prologue


 My name is Elizabeth Mary McLennan, but my friends call me Lizzie. I began my journey of writing this book by following my heart and pushing away fear. I have felt compelled to share personal experiences in hopes to give a voice to those who feel they can’t speak. I have always lived my life trying to help others i…

Just a Table.

im highly sensitive. for real. i took the test. 

  this means im extra aware of textures, particular about things in my environment like where my bedspread hits my chin while im sleeping.. and things sit with me for a while. dates, words spoken, times of the year, traditions – it sticks with me long after it might for the average guy. it takes me longer to make a d...

Stop and Smell the Roses

Without a question our lives are filled with the chaos of work, the demands of the household and never stopping to take a breath because there are never enough hours in the day to get everything that needs to be done, done. We are always on the go that taking a minute for ourselves is never an option. We are so consumed in our day to day activities that we forget that there …

To Chose or Not to Chose

 “Be not afraid of greatness. Some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon ’em.” – William Shakespeare, Twelfth Night

What I love most about Shakespeare’s romantic comedy, Twelfth Night, is that even with over four hundred years since the play has been published, the themes of the play still resonate with the…

The ABCs of Speaking:Chapter A – Analysis & Action

You will find that a common theme throughout our book “ABCs of Speaking” is that of making sure you treat your speaking career as a business rather than as a hobby. To that end, the need for you to continually analyze and research your market and your business to make sure you are getting the best results possible for the efforts you’ll be putting in is critical for your lon…

Manifesting…What you didn’t know – Part 1

The topic of Manifesting is pretty trendy. People wanting to MANIFEST various forms of abundance and experiences into their lives by using all kinds of techniques, superstitions, mindsets, processes and ceremonies…..

Want to know the truth about MANIFESTING?



5 Ways to Spring-Clean Your Life

It’s that time of the year. Winter has slowly made an exit, and the time for hibernation is over. Yes, it’s a perfect time to clean those windows, but it’s also a perfect time to clean the body, mind and heart. Re-evaluating our relationships and our work can also be part of the cleansing process. The result is a lightness and renewed sense of al…

The What If’s

Every once in a while I feel like disappearing.

I mean, I want to hop in my car, and never look back. Okay, my life is really not that bad at all – in fact, I’m rather in love with my life right now! But there are times I want to get in my car with my old guitar and a brand new set of strings….. wait that’s a country song.

Okay, so I’ll admit I’m a bit clic…

The Joy Of Being

We ALL have one thing in common.

We’re each given 24 hours in a day. Part of that time is spent sleeping, eating and going to the bathroom. So how much time do we actually have left? Let’s take a minute to contemplate how we manage our time.  

Will We Ever Have Enough …

Everything DOES happen for a reason

My ever-changing life and adventures, I alway wonder if things ever slow down?

It’s hard to move on after so many years of being in life’s routines and comfort of either your family, career or a close relationship with someone. Whatever your personal, religious or other beliefs, you’re being pointed in a new direction by the spirits and you should go with the new p…

That One Vulnerable Post:

i truly dont know how to birth the thoughts and feelings in my gut – but as i recently heard on a podcast, you just gotta write. if something wants to be created — start, create. dont wait til its perfect or polished. just start. so, im starting.

im motivated by creating memories. im on an eternal quest to add more stories to my library. i fi…

Developing a Story

Developing a Story


James E. Harris III


           Hello all, would you like to know how to create a new story for a novel that you are writing? It’s simple, all you should do is use what you know. Do you know heartache? Use it. Do you know pain? Format it. If all you know is success because you are good at everything you do then put togeth...

Forgiveness …Who is it really for?

YOU that’s who !

In the most common and traditional sense, forgiveness occurs when a persecutor does a ‘bad’ – apologizes to the victim and the victim forgives the persecutor.

But what about the role the victim played in that scenario? Even if the role was that he or she gave away their power……

Here’s a common exampl...

Goodbye Guilt: Getting Over Self-Judgement

Did you all see the Oscars last month? I didn’t watch them (there’s a giraffe in labor, for Pete’s sake!), but I read about them the next day. And boy oh boy!

There were no wardrobe malfunctions, but there WAS a mind-…

How Long Have You Been Doing That?

It’s day 35 of Lent. How do I know? I don’t.

My abs however do. I’ve done 3,500 sit-ups. 100-a-day for the last 35 days. 

To be fair, this is the first time I’ve actually stuck with something through Lent and I wasn’t even raised Catholic (I’m Christian) and you are asking how that draws me closer to God? You can be sure my mommy-flabby-abs and I are desperat…

Who Moved my Cheese

Reading Time: 90 Seconds

I have just finished an amazing book, “Who Moved My Cheese” 

It talks about change, how we deal with change and how we can be resistant, and quite often, afraid of change.

It is a quick rea…


The power to forgive is essential to living a healthy life. Easier said than done, though, right? Forgiveness can be difficult to achieve, and the prospect of letting go of your anger — anger at the pain someone else has caused you or the mistakes you feel you’ve made can be daunting. 

Things happen for a reason: every scrape, every tear, every burst of anger is th…

ADHD – My Gift

ADHD for those who don’t know stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder. A person who has ADHD is someone who struggles with focusing and being too hyper. That is the shortened version of it. Lots of us struggle with undiagnosed ADHD and a lot of our kids do too.

This is my story on ADHD. I grew up always feeling different. Different to my peers! Black shee...

There’s no such thing as shy.


I am consistently asked, “but what if I’m shy by nature?” Here’s the good news.

Nobody was born shy – it’s not a human attribute. So-called shy people were more than likely born “Cautious” or Reserved.” These are excellent human attributes. I want my bank manager, my accountant and the pilot flying the plane I’m on right now w...

Everything is Just Matter!

I moved my two children and me to Montreal about six years ago to go to school for Graphic Design. There was a year leading up to this of working, saving, portfolio creation to get into the program. There was also a bit of downsizing, since I was paying by the pound to get all my belongings over there. My best quote was 69 cents per pound. I calculated that I must have had 4…

The Journey of Writing

The Journey of Writing


James E. Harris III


            Writing has become a pleasure and joy to me. I can’t imagine my life without it. That is why I love the two books that I published so much, “The boy that wanted to fly” and “The Boy that wanted to fly: Paradise Island”. It’s about a boy with a simple goal, flying. The same could...

Letting Excellence Guide Your Habits

In one of his many letters to me during my stay in boarding school, my father once wrote to me,

“If you put your mind to something, do it. Do it well, and more importantly do it for yourself, and nobody else. When you aim for excellence in everything you do, success is right beside you. Excellence is a habit that is built through everyday consistency; the …

Finding time for yourself

Have you ever been so consumed with life, you have no time for yourself? Work, school, and family often leaves very little time to do other things we enjoy. K. Stone has some suggestions on scheduling time for yourself:

1. Evenings with Yourself. Try to save certain weeknights just for you. If others ask you to do things those nights, just tell them…

The Importance of Good Feedback

The best friend a writer can have is someone who gives precise, constructive feedback on your writing so that you can fix what’s wrong before it sees the light of day. The best writers are the ones who make sure they get that kind of brutally but benevolently honest reader.

Here’s a tale of three people who asked for feedback, with very different results: the goo…


Ask and you shall receive!

I have many goals and big dreams to achieve. They have been in the making for many, many years. During the past few months, I have found myself needing to do more self talk, positive affirmations, and working harder to push “Mr. Doubtful” away.

I talk to my Angels, The Universe, and God. Even though deep in my gut, I know that in tim…

Becoming an expat…

To some, expatriation is an unthinkable ordeal, whilst others’ minds dreamily wander away at the idea of becoming explorers. One thing for sure, is that once you’re in, it will be an adventure, and time will tell those who try whether to live and remember it as an abominable or pleasant experience.

My adventure started 18 years ago, when the first opportunity a…

Do You Want to be well?

i have heard many, many sermons and teachings in my day. but there aren’t that many that have stayed with me.

except this one.

it was from my friend josh. he was teaching on a passage from john 5:6 that talks about this guy who had been an invalid for 36 years or something nuts like that. when jesus sees him and realizes how long he had been sick, he asks,…

Do you want to be well?

i have heard many, many sermons and teachings in my day. but there aren’t that many that have stayed with me.

except this one.

it was from my friend josh. he was teaching on a passage from john 5:6 that talks about this guy who had been an invalid for 36 years or something nuts like that. when jesus sees him and realizes how long he had been sick, he asks,…

Row Your Boat

Every night when I put my son to bed, I sing him a few lullabies. I always end off with “Row Your Boat” as he nestles into bed with his stuffed elephant and kangaroo friends. This nursery rhyme is as much for me as it is for him, for it contains wisdom that transcends the everyday humdrum. It brings me back to a place of Truth and melts away any of the day’s tension….

Planning, Creators, & Luck

Could careful planning, especially for creators, actually determine how much “Luck” plays a part in your life? What I mean by that odd question is this:

According to Webster’s New World Dictionary, 1976, one definition of “Luck” is:

“The seemingly chance happening of events which affect one’s fortune.”

Seemingly chance happening? What causes the “ch…

No one else sees the world exactly like you do!

You know I have been writing since I was a kid, or should I say I have enjoyed writing since I was a kid. At some point in school, I thought of myself as a writing person and NOT a math person. Maybe it was Sister Jackie’s creative writing class or maybe I was just realistic at a very young age. I can still remember more than one of her assignments, I guess that tells …

Need a Fresh Start?

It’s Tuesday, the new moon is lingering (I call it the new moon layover), and I honestly feel a freshness in the air. Do you?

I have heard from several folks already that last week was an emotional one. My meditation teacher has it programmed into my brain that emotions are just that– E-MOTION // in-motion.

What you feel now can and wil…

Laws of Attraction: How it worked in my Life

The book The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne completely changed my life. The concept of the Laws of Attraction was a transformational and powerful concept for me. In 2007 I read the book, The Secret. It was the first time I heard about the Laws of Attraction. At that time I was struggling to have more children and wanted desperately to have another child. I was a constant wor…

Failure is Actually Success!

Addicted to Failure: Three Billionaires on How to Win the Game of Life

by CharlesChu

Not alot of people know about Ray Dalio, and he prefers it that way.

Considered one of the “100 most influential people in the world” by Time magazine, Dalio is the founder of Bridgewater Associates, the l…

Fear is a Choice

Fear is an emotion we have all felt at some point in our lives. It’s a horrible, immobilizing feeling that literally cripples some people, while others never seem to be fazed by it. Why do you think that is? Why does fear affect certain people so much differently than others? 

I think it all comes down to the meaning we give it. Just like everything in life, the fear…

Paradise is a Mindset

A few weeks ago, my two year old daughter and I were playing in the backyard.

It was February, but it was February in Texas, which means it was gorgeous. We had the kiddie pool out. (Don’t hate – it’ll be six degrees cooler tha…

5 ways to manage constant complainers

Reading time: 90 Seconds

1.    Interrupt

2.    Investigate

3.    Validate

4.    Motivate

5.    Delegate

It can be really frustrating having to deal with people who are always complaining.

Of course, you have the usual four options for dealing with difficult people: ignore them, dump them, call the cops, or deal wit…

Why We Need To Discover

On a monthly basis I do a segment on a local country western radio station, KQSC Mountain Country, called Motivational Mondays. Motivational Mondays are to inspire the listeners to have a good week and not get down because of the long week ahead but rather look for the good in the week. One Monday I did was on Discovery. In this subject I tried to get the point across that …

Unleash Your Chi

Massage therapy and other forms of bodywork should not be a luxury to experience twice a year. Today, we live in a time where life is moving quickly, there are constant stimuli, we burden too much stress, we have harmful habitual postures, and our bodies are feeling it. Like a car needs to be fueled and oiled in order to run properly, so too do our bodies. …

How to start using your Social Media.

How often are you meeting up with your friends in person? And how much time are you scrolling social media? The reality is scary. The time spent on our phones is only increasing. Instead of trying to resist what is happening in today’s culture, embrace it. Spending the majority of your time passively watching other peoples lives, leads to comparing. Don’t j…

True North

Lately I’ve struggled…

Looking at the many goals across the lines of self-education, business, personal health, personal accomplishments, fulfillment activities, family time, and current sustainability activities.

Of all the things I want to accomplish resulting in struggles with prioritization and time allocation. I have come up with some methods to fi…

Family Strain

Family Strain


James E. Harris III


           Family Strain, it happens everywhere no matter how hard you try to pretend things are ok. One possible cause of those strains is dancing around the elephant in the room no matter what it may be. For me it is sharing my faith, for others it could be marrying a woman everyone in your family disagr…

The B Word – There is a Cure!

I started a silent project several months ago. I made a secret tally of all the BUSY people in my life. Let me explain, my business requires very little of me aside from chatting with old friends, meeting new ones, building relationships and constantly speaking to people, a little ‘thang’ called networking. Sometimes in person, other times on the phone and more recently pre...

Your Thoughts

The slate’s been wiped clean, the past has released its grip, and before you sparkles eternity, yearning for direction. All that lies between you and the life of your dreams is just one teeny, tiny, gentle, little rule. There is only one condition, prerequisite, principle that matters.


It’s not complicated and you don’t need to sacrifice, or plead to i…


“There is the person you were born to be and the person you learned to be.” 

– David Wood 

When I first heard the David Wood quote, it really struck a chord for me. At the time, I felt like I was being slapped in the face with the harsh reality that I was living the life I had learned to cope with, rather than the life I was meant for. I was in a job I…

Reflecting on life as a single working mom

It is the end of a busy day and I can finally sit down to relax and write this. The morning went as usual, breakfast and an hour of activities with the kids (play-doh, colouring) followed by the mad rush to get us ready and out the door in time, drop them off at their dads for the day, go to work, pick them up, go home, dinner, bath and story time before bed. Bedtimes a…

Faking it and Faithing It

Faking as defined : a thing that is not genuine, a sham. 

Here is the thing, can you think of any positive outcomes when it comes to faking it? Friendships, conversations, orgasms, your true identity etc…I cannot for the life of me fathom anywhere in my life where faking got me very far, except for maybe that ONE time I faked sleeping when the toddler woke up, …

dear diary:

i have about 300 million things to tell you, but more on all of that later.

during an SOS text with a dear friend this summer, my friend stated, “don’t be afraid to ask for what you want.”


it wouldn’t leave my head. i heard it on repeat. don’t be afraid to ask for what you want. like a prayer? like a request? like..? …i sort of pushed it all...

Colored Glasses

We’ve heard the saying “Seeing is Believing”; but do we all see the same thing even we are looking at the same incident? The answer is no. How I observe a situation is different than how you do. Each of us has different backgrounds that give us different perspectives. These different perspectives color the way we perceive circumstances.  It is like wearing colored glasses…

Energy: Through the Eyes of an Aviator

As a military aviator I had to learn to manage the “energy” of my aircraft. In the air there are four conditions that affect you:

1) You can be at high altitude with high airspeed. This condition puts you in the optimum energy state. With airspeed and altitude, you can maximize the capabilities of your airplane and maneuver around your opponent with effectiv…

Realizing your true Nature


Who are you? Never mind all your fears and insecurities or all the things you have or would like to have. Forget that you want to be a better person. My question is this: What is your true nature? Do you even know? Do you ever ask yourself? I am not asking who do you believe yourself to be, but rather what you experience in tho…

Why Doing the Things we Love, Raises our Vibe

I have to be honest, I’ve been in a bit of a slump lately. You know those times when you simply aren’t feeling “high vibe.” You are triggered by something and it leaves you feeling low and unhappy, and then you start to attract additional things that make you feel even less happy. It is really the last place anyone wants to be, so the quicker we can get ou…

Teachable moment-There is a way Out

Guides are not exempt. One of the things I have come to appreciate about living as a guide, I often learn as much if not more from getting to Guide others than they will probably ever learn from me. Often trail has become one massive teachable moment for me in the days both before and after that 6 specific days walking through the woods. Often those days being little ra…

Feed Your Mind, Feed Your Soul

Have you fed your soul today?

That may sound a little odd, but think about it. All that we see and hear and feel is absorbed by our mind and the byproducts are deposited into our souls as much as waves lapping the shore leaving bits of sand and pebbles and little living things. Perhaps we work all day—busy, busy—focusing on our work amid much noise and distraction, …

How to Live a Great Business and Personal Life!

When I wrote “Expect the Extraordinary”, I didn’t think this book would apply to business situations and empowering employees/managers. But, it has. Strangely enough, I have had several psychologists interview me on the radio regarding how we can each become more empowered to enhance not only our personal but our business lives as well. …

Your Reasons

We all have reasons for the things we do in our lives. Reasons why we choose the jobs we choose, reasons why we choose the partners or friends we choose, reasons for nearly every action we take in our lives. However, when it comes to a big, lasting change in our own life, a change that may revolutionize and completely change our lives for the better, powerful reasons fo…

Abydos – Summer Writing Instititute

For many teachers, summer ends up being sliced into a hodge-podge variety of necessary evils – dentist, doctor, and eye appointments to catch up on; family vacations that make you wonder if you would have been better off staying in bed watching Netflix; the ever prevalent Professional Development days that manage to come at the most inopportune times. Between all that, of…

Do you fear being judged?

I’ll never forget the day I was teaching a fitness class and one of the students came up to me after with a washed out look on her face, “I think there is something you should see”. I was confused but agreed to give her my email address. I went home that day and received an email with a link. Curious, I clicked the link and instantly started hyper ventilatin…


One of my favorite inspirational pieces (author unknown):

A man was sleeping one night in his cabin when suddenly his room filled with light and God appeared. The Lord told the man he had work for him to do, and showed him a large rock in front of his cabin. The Lord explained that the man was to push against the rock with all his might.

So, the man did, ...


One of my favorite inspirational pieces (author unknown):

A man was sleeping one night in his cabin when suddenly his room filled with light and God appeared. The Lord told the man he had work for him to do, and showed him a large rock in front of his cabin. The Lord explained that the man was to push against the rock with all his might.

So, the man did, ...

Healing Starts From The Inside Out, Part 2

Life throws us many curve balls. It’s up to us to decide what we’ll do with them all. 

   The many twists and turns after my mother’s passing could fill a book. In the aftermath of my mom’s sudden exit, my family’s world turned upside down. Each of my three siblings and my father did our best to cope. Unfortunately, dad’s overwhelming sense of guilt, remorse and grie…

How to Get Killer Confidence

Yesterday, I was on a coaching call with my life coach, who I’ve been working with for almost 5 years when I realized my problem with confidence.

(Quick Massive Side Note: Any coincidence that my life has literally BLOSSOMED over the last 5 years?!? Maybe it’s time to find someone you trust, like a life coach, to work through all the stuff in your life (health, relat…

What if Your Next Words Were Your Last?

Write your first sentence as if it were your last.

Imagine that the next sentence you write is the final one you ever commit to paper, or pixels. It’s the set of words by which you want people to remember you. OK, maybe not as an epitaph on your tombstone, but you know what I mean. If you wanted people to hear a sentence and think of you even if the sent…

Mental Toughness

Life can be difficult and extremely challenging but being mentally tough can make you undeniable!

As a member of the United States Armed Forces I’m all too familiar with the struggles our men and women face on a daily basis. From the moment you arrive at boot camp a mental and physical battle ensues. It’s that epic battle between your desire to overcome and succe…

Who Gets Your Toys When You’re Gone

“He who dies with the most toys wins.” 

This comment was made by my brother one hot July day when we were drinking beer and talking about the game of life. At the time, we were sitting on one of his “toys” – a 35 foot cabin cruiser — in the middle of Lake McConaughy near Ogallala, Nebraska. My reply was, “OK, but what happens t…

Enough is Enough

Is it?

Have you had that feeling, that inner voice, yelp, from any layer of you–

“Enough is enough! Enough is a-freaking ’nuff”

If you’re reading this ready to flail your hands in the air, then right away, get out a piece of paper or shoot me a quick email or even text or call an accountability buddy and tell me what are you so ready to be DONE with!?…

The Desires of Your Heart

you know the little girls who dream of being a mommy when they grow up? they tote baby dolls around, sush them as they sway back and forth to get them to stop their pretend crying? or the little girls who dream of their big wedding day?

i honestly don’t remember dreaming of any of those things. i spent time in trees, hanging out with my bunny (not jj. at one po…

Don’t drink and Danielle LaPorte at the same time

Last week I got the greatest email EVER!! 

“Dear, Christa- You’re on the winning team. OF COURSE. Welcome to the White Hot Truth Launch Team.”

Swoon! Want to know how to get this chic jumping up and down rump shaking like nobody’s busine…

How I Left Corporate America & Took Control

As of March 7th, 2017, I am no longer an employee of “white collar corporate America.”

I had known what I wanted to do professionally from roughly the age of 14, the beginning of high school. I knew I wanted to do something in media, advertising, marketing, or journalism. I narrowed it down throughout the years. I graduated high school with all the honors and scho…

What Are You Waiting For?

After turning 30, I started to feel like someone had hit a big red start button and that I had to race against the clock of life! Suddenly, one day I had this urgency and almost fear wash over me as I sat in my living room. I asked myself what am I doing with myself? Why am I not in the place I want to be in life, yet? Is this what a mid-life crisis is?

Years of …

Calm through Chaos
Find your centre. Find your strength and calm. In the most trying of times, courage never roars, instead it speaks softly from the heart and lets you know that this too shall pass; you will stumble from time to time, but it’s alright, pick yourself up and try again. Until you have mastered yourself, and in turn your life. Find your warrior and…
Burn The Bridge

So why are some people successful in ending a tough addiction, while others aren’t? Why is it that some people take all the right steps yet still fail somehow? What makes some people more successful than others? I believe the reason is that most of the successful people made quitting a must in their lives. For them and myself, failure was no longer an option.


Day 1 – 30 Days to Clearly Defining My Purpose

The question of what I really want has been brewing in my mind for the last several months and every time I start to considered it, I got anxious. It’s no wonder I didn’t want to spend time thinking about it. It finally dawned on me that I haven’t been thinking about what I want, rather I have been thinking about what I don’t want. Well, I don’t like what I don’t w…

The Oak Tree

A mighty wind blew night and day. It stole the oak tree’s leaves away, then snapped its boughs and pulled its bark until the oak was tired and stark. But still the oak tree held its ground while other trees fell all around. The weary wind gave up and spoke, “How can you still be standing,Oak?” The oak tree said, “I know that you can break each branch of mine in two, carry …

Haters Gonna Hate, How To Not Care

While I was building myself up, I was knocked down – a lot. It hurt and there are a few scars. It is going to happen again but I am strong and I am prepared. How does one keep going against the odds?

The want and need has to be bigger than the fear.

When you put yourself out there, you really do not know what you are going to get back. Praise, ridicule, ...

New Ground

New Ground


James E. Harris III



         How long has it been since your last big achievement? A month, two weeks, or maybe even a year ago? Do you feel like you have plateaued and don’t know what to do? Well then you feel like Jason Abrams Jr. the protagonist from my new book “The boy that wanted to Fly: Paradise Island”. Jason is...

“I Miss The Camaraderie!”

“I Miss The Camaraderie!” It’s the number one phrase I hear from other vets. But what does that even mean? Do you miss having friends? Do you miss having fun at work? Do you miss BBQ’s and beer on the weekends? That’s not completely it, is it? You can find those things anywhere. Civilians have those things too. But I’ve never heard a civilian say they miss the camarad…

It’s All a Part of the Process

Yesterday morning the sensation of tabasco sauce in my eyes rudely awakened me. You see, I just had PRK eye surgery so this is to be expected. My superhero eye shields were securely taped to my face, and the excessive watering soaked the paper tape. Never have I shot out of bed so quickly! I gently ripped the shields off and inserted multiple eye drops. Today, I pen th…

Discovering The Shack

I believe everything in life is a relationship; social, intimate, community, career, family, God (creator/universe) and self… yes, self! The ‘selfie’ relationship – I’ll save that for another day and time. Here’s a story about my relationship with God …and death. As a mom who buried my first born child, my relationship with God and death has known bitterness.


Time Management

Time is the most important asset we have. Everything can be fixed with time.  Age can be fixed with time. Fortunes can be earned with time. Problems can be solved with time. Skills can be developed with time…but, unfortunately, time flows continuously in one direction and cannot be reversed or stored for later use. We receive an allocation of 86,400 seconds every day…whic…

Never Surrender: Why Corey Hart Was Wrong

If you grew up in the 80’s like me, you remember Corey Hart and his Boy in the Box album, which for me came in the form of a cassette. I played it so much that the tape practically dissolved. Ok, fine, I admit it; I had a crush on Corey and yes, one or two posters of him adorned my wall. His Boy in the Box tour was my first concert ever, and although I was seated so far a…

Dead Ends or U-Turns

I finished a chunk of my book this week. It felt like this huge victory. Yes! Done. And then I stared at the cursor blinking and stared….and stared, and my fingers hovered over the keys and there was nothing else. I’d finished this section that I’d been planning and working on, and I hadn’t put much thought into what came next. 

The same day, I had a conversatio…

Don’t Worry Be Happy

I have spent most of my life worrying. Every time I had to make a decision in the past I would think of the worst case scenario. I was brought up with generations of worriers. I didn’t take risks in my life because I was scared things would go wrong so I stayed in my comfort zone.

When I came to move from Dubai to Canada, I had a list of all the worst-case scenarios…

Life Lessons Learned Facing the Wall

“Go Face the Wall and Be Quiet” was a terrible punishment; or so I thought at the time. As a child, facing the corner of the wall and not being able to say or do anything except live in your head seems harsh. Now that I’ve learned the value of “quite time”; I almost want to say please give me punishment and send me to face the wall! The constant noise in our day-to-day…

Law 13 – Live With Purpose

This chapter in T.J. Hoisington’s “If You Think You Can” is both summation of the previous principals and the most crucial of them all, without which no progress can be begun, much less be made. It’s thanks to this principle that I started blogging, pushing…

Habits……Like Carbon Monoxide

HABITS……everyone talks about them! The good, the bad and the ugly. Creating positive and effective habits is critical to success in your personal and professional life. This is not news to you. We hear about habits almost every day. Some of the greatest thought leaders and motivational speakers regularly reinforce the importance of creating good habits. One of my f…

Infectious Energies

Our attitudes through our day-to-day life will play a major role in how successful we are. Whether we realize it or not, everyone constantly puts out certain energies into the world, good or bad these energies are infectious to the people we interact with daily. Whether we are communicating face-to-face, over-the-phone, via chat or texting we can effect other people wit…

What I Swallowed Today

Today I swallowed ________.

Wouldn’t you like to know!

Just kidding. It starts here: as a yoga instructor, I’ve always loved the theming around a yoga class. Creating the invitation for my students to think outside the box, or yoga mat, ultimately looking to inspire them to live more engaged off of that yoga mat.

A nugget of wisdom I lov...

Motivation Nation

Life is tough and occasionally throws inevitable curve balls that often make us stop and wonder “Why in the world am I even doing this?!” Life is full of highs and lows and oftentimes throwing in the towel seems like the easiest option. The secret to pulling through the hard times is simple, stay motivated! Losing motivation becomes very tempting when you feel like you are …

Why Having More Fun is the Secret to Success

It was time to put the peddle to the metal as they say. My contracts with some of my coaching clients were coming to an end and I needed to find more people to help so I could pay my bills. So what do you do? You work harder right? So I did. I put more energy into my businesses reaching out trying to find that next person I could help to create the life they want…

In The Future

So often our imagination wants to predict the future. Our tendency is to state what is going to happen as a fact, when in reality nobody knows what lies ahead. Instead of forecasting what is coming up we are better served to tackle what is at hand. Thomas Carlyle, a Scottish philosopher, once said, “Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do…

What’s Weighing You Down?

My bookclub, lovingly named The Dead Tree Society, recently read Cheryl Strayed’s memoir, Wild. The discussion following was like girls at camp playing truth or dare, but only truths were an option! In Strayed’s book, she hikes the Pacific Crest Trail to find herself again after feeling lost and spiralling from a series of bad choices following her mother’s …

Money Flows Easy To Veterans Who Can Execute

I didn’t know if I was good enough to get into flight school. Becoming a Blackhawk pilot in the Army wasn’t automatic. It was a big goal I had but not many people get in. 

I was enlisted in the Army prior to being accepted into flight school and becoming a Warrant Officer. I remember wondering if I could ever make it into flight school. I questioned if I wa…

The Power of Influence


Influence, according to my good friend, The Dictionary, is “The capacity or power of persons or things to be a compelling force on or produce effects on the actions, behavior, opinions, etc., of others.” A compelling force. Sit back and think with me for a moment. Are you and I a compelling force of influence for the good or bad?

Ephesians 5:15 states,…

Therapy versus Recovery Part Two

Last week’s article ended with the statement that therapy and recovery have different belief systems regarding how change happens. These different belief systems impact each one’s effectiveness in healing toxic shame.                                              

One of the underlying beliefs in therapy is that the client has the power within to heal self. The role o…

Who am I?

Who am I?

Here I am, sitting down, trying to write my ‘About Me’ for my website. I have been avoiding writing this for so long. I have written six other articles and achieved a lot of other things, but when writing my ‘bio’ I find myself stuck. ‘Why?’ I ask myself. This should be easy. 

I realized that writing ‘who I am’ is the most difficult job of all. W…

Enjoying Your Life


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Five Things to Bring You Closer to Enjoying Your Life


Darrell V. Freeman  

1.   Find Things to Smile and Lau...

Never Give Up

In this chapter of T.J. Hoisington’s “If you think you can” starts with some recognizable examples of persistent people. The stories of Thomas Edison and Colonel Saunders are ones anyone whose reads about motivation or business would know. The one that really…

Challenge – The Spice of Life

Have you ever wondered why missions that appeared to be impossible succeeded despite incredible odds? Have you ever wondered why some teams and companies always seem to come out on top? Have you ever wondered how one leader consistently gets results while others struggle?  

Think about President Kennedy’s 1961 promise to put a man on the moon by the end of the de…

Awakening Our Best Selves via Inner-gentleness

February brings attention to many aspects of love and devotion to others, specifically to our significant other.

It’s also a time for deep reflection for me because my birthday falls in February. A wave of deep gratitude visits me quite often these days because of a new devotion to myself…an inner-gentleness.


Hacking Time

In the age of infinite distractions, focus is the ultimate commodity.

A technique I have been experimenting with is known as the Pomodoro technique otherwise known as “Timeboxing” found here:…

Nudge Nudge

It really is interesting how things work out.

There have been a number of things on my “list” for what seems like forever. The biggest one is my office. For months I have had “clean my office” on my list of things to do. It’s not that I never did it, it just never got finished! There were many times that I would start the process. I would work away for a bit, ge…

WHEN MORE IS LESS; and less is a whole lot more

The other day a client casually mentioned she was going back to school for a second PHd. The next day a friend dropped in for tea and to say he felt something missing in his life, despite being highly successful, in a great relationship and having many close friends. He wondered what more he could do, what was left to achieve.

We live in a culture where success is …

A More Confident Person???

Look at yourself. Who do you see? Superhero, muscles bulging, cape flying—ready to conquer the world? No? If you don’t believe you can conquer the world, then there’s no way you ever will.

Here are their suggestions for a boost:

1. Strengthen your min…

The words of a stranger

As solo entrepreneur, I surround myself with like-minded people to help me navigate through this business thing (oh! did I mention to you that I’m not a businessperson but just a simple photographer?). I have a great team : awesome assistants, make-up artists, graphic designer etc. However, at the end of the day I make the decisions, I sign the paychecks, I lead the troo…

You Dance

There is nothing like the feeling in the pit of your stomach when you discover someone you trusted is profoundly unworthy of it. You survey the wreckage of your dreams and do a quick body count: over 2-1/2 years of unpaid labor and tens of thousands of dollars from your retirement account gone. Your credibility is shot. You no longer feel any more zest for a caree…

3 Things You Must Focus On To Reach Any Goal.

Reaching success of any kind takes work. It may require you to change certain habits, and it will almost inevitably be challenging and uncomfortable. But here’s the thing—when you focus on the big picture—your dream life, the vision you have for your life—the work becomes almost effortless.

Once you have that vision in mind, these are the 3 things I want you to fo…


Webster’s dictionary defines healing as to make sound or whole; to restore to health; to cause an undesirable condition to be overcome; to patch up; to restore to original purity or integrity. The common denominator in these definitions is to make whole. Getting to the place of feeling whole is the key to healing. What do I mean by whole? Most times whatever we are struggl…

Keep Going

Keep Going


James E. Harris III


           So, you’ve had a break through? Finally you are flying and finally you are at the pinnacle of what you think is the greatest thing in the world. What could possibly bring you down? Then all of a sudden trouble comes to ruin your high! What do you do when you find that trouble is there even when you…

Saying I’m sorry

Two simple words, yet so powerful. They can pave the way for healing, comfort, forgiveness , and provide closure. So why then is it so difficult to say I’m sorry? I, myself, struggle with this occasionally, and really try to understand why this is such a challenging endeavor. There are numerous reasons why someone may not necessarily feel the need to say I’m sorry. No o…

Therapy versus Recovery

It is beyond question that therapy and recovery are each worthwhile and beneficial, and that both have helped countless numbers of people. Both have certainly helped me. It is my belief that most, if not all, of the problems for which people seek therapy and/or enter recovery have their roots in toxic shame. In order for true and lasting change to take place, therefore, tha...

Mountain Meadow Morning

Eyes, open, alert. Warm breath leaves a little wisp in the cool crisp predawn air. Stillness, hardly a sound.

The crystalline frost decorates the blades of long brown sleepy grasses. Little pools of water swirl under thin sheens of autumn ice glass. The small burble of the alpine spring musically provides the sound of the moment. The night draws a sl…

You give, give, give, but can you truly receive?

Yes, giving is a BEAUTIFUL thing that the world needs more of.

On the flip side however, there is still a need for balance around giving and the opposite act of receiving.

This made me think of you because I’ve met so many amazing, selfless givers in my years of personal training, yoga, and coaching. From parents to teachers, and from the…

Are You Getting Weak After The Military??

“PEACE OUT!!!” I said the day I signed out of the military. No more formations. No more uniform inspections. No more 0500 PT. No more applying for travel passes to go out for the weekend. It was finally time to enjoy the freedoms I had fought for. So I thought.

Having nobody to report to can be a great thing. But it can also be a bad thing. The structure was gone. I …


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Creating a Vision of What You Want

Are you happy with where you are at right now or do you want to create something different? Do you know what you want your life to look like? If not, using vision boards and/or vision books is a powerful way to get really clear on what you want. They’re a great way of immersing yourself in your passions. hopes and dreams. The idea being that living within an environment …

It Depends…

I have accepted the fact that there is no “right approach” or a “this is how it’s supposed to be done” when attempting to solve a problem. I’ve learned that solutions are as unique as the individual creating them….and, as they say – there is more than one way to skin a cat! 

As much as I strive to avoid absolutes, I will say that there IS one “right answer.” That …


The primary goal of process is to get you to your purpose. It is a tool that God uses to help you walk out and walk through your purpose. How you view process is critical, because if your perception is skewed you risk missing its value and importance. 

The first step in surviving your process is submitting to it. Most times when we resist anything that calls for us to…

Seeds of Greatness

Trees are an amazing life force in nature. There are many unique types of trees in the world that find a way to grow from virtually nothing into the strongest and most beautiful things around. Some find a way to grow in the most impossible of conditions. While others need to be watered and nurtured constantly for years before they even begin to break through the dirt. No ma...




James E. Harris III


           So this week you may have had it rough. You may be thinking to yourself “why don’t I just give up?”. You sound a lot like Jason the protagonist in my book “The boy that wanted to fly” who had his whole world come down on him as his parents forbad him from doing parkour and he was expelle…


Reading Time: 45 Seconds

Are you writing a book? Do you have a plan or are you struggling with getting the words out? I have just read Nicholas Boothmans book “How to ...

Are you a dream killer?

We all have dreams, thoughts on things we want to do or have in life. Most of us reflect on them often, imagining and wishing they could become reality. More often than not, people sit in their cubicle or on their couch in their pajamas daydreaming and then formulating reasons to keep those dreams just that: dreams.

Here are some of the thoughts that have run through …

An inner battle

Most of my best writing comes from those quiet moments I allow thoughts to connect with my pen and paper. I never know what is going to trickle down and it is sometimes better that way. In the spring of 2016, I was struggling with matters of scarcity and adopting abundance as my mantra. It has been an inner battle I have had for most of my adult life. Here is an exert from …

healing shame

Last week’s article ended with the statement that it is possible to transform toxic shame into healthy shame, and with the invitation to tune in next week to learn how to heal toxic shame. Well, it’s now next week.

 The first point that needs to be made is that the transformation of toxic shame into healthy shame involves time and work. It does not occur overnight a…

100 Ways to Guarantee You’ll Stay Single Forever

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner here are 100 great ways to guarantee you’ll stay single.

All in good fun. Nevertheless all true and submitted by readers of my book How to Make Someone Fall in Love with You in 90 Minutes or Less available on GoRea…

The Power of Focus

“Too many of us never realize our greatness because we get sidetracked by secondary activity” – Og Mandino

Do you think we are talking about what I like to call The “Oh, look a squirrel” Syndrome? Yes, and no. Yes, we are referring to distractions, but not the fleeting kind. T.J. Hoisington elaborates on several points in Chapter…

Organized Chaos

I hope this day finds you exceeding blessed! Why? Recalling the first article I wrote sharing a central theme for my life “letting go of fear.” For that very reason of letting go I can be blessed and so can you! The next question may be, “you have no idea of what I’ve been through.” Or maybe your just having a bad day. My friend, we all have bad days! I have even had…

BREAKING THROUGH: Developing Personal Resilience

Have you ever wondered why some people rise in life, evolve and climb to ever higher heights, even in the face of countless hardships, while others are crushed, stop short of achieving their goals, or simply give up and quit?

Life is filled with challenges, and if you haven’t yet learned the tools for how to keep going, how to test your limits and go beyond,…

the cat in the hat sat.

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Saying the wrong thing to your child.

Saying the wrong thing to your child.

Friday I left work a little later in the afternoon. This resulted in my son being home on his own for about 45 min. My friend dropped him off after school, he then called me to confirm what she had just texted me “I’m home” !

 We made a plan for me to come get him and go to a play-date. When came the time to leave to go…

Revel in the Unexpected

On Wednesday morning, my sweet coworker bought us breakfast burritos from Qdoba. The brown paper bag sitting on the table stuck out to me. Why? Because one of the sayings, written in Orange, stated, “Revel in the unexpected.” I paused, took out my phone to snap a photo, and thanked God for this timely reminder.

The unexpected. Not something I tend to welcome in my ...

Hell yay! or Hell no!: Freedom in Life Boundaries

When asked to do or be a part of something, “If it’s not a ‘hell yay’! Then it’s a ‘hell no!“ 

When it comes to choices regarding when, where, and who will be getting our time and energies there are lots of factors that can become baseline considerations. If you’re anything like me, there has been a plethora of people and places who  have not hesitated to inf…

Dream Killer

Dream Killer


James E. Harris III


           So dreams come and dreams go right? But have you ever had a dream that you thought dear and near to your hear that was aborted before it began. What a shame? Do you mind me asking who killed it or who told you that you couldn’t perform the feet that sounded so radical? Was ...

How Do You Use Your 24?

Have you ever paused at the end of the day and felt like you had a very busy day, and yet you still feel like you didn’t get everything done that you wanted to? I know I have. I was cleaning my desk recently, and I uncovered a stack of trade magazines I’d been meaning to read for some time, but for whatever reason, I hadn’t read a single one. It got me thinking, about bei…

Vulnerability is Key

A book that changed my life is “The Gift of Imperfection” by Brene Brown. My social worker at the CLSC at the time gave me this book when I was going through my separation and she said “Read it, it will help you.” She told me there is a section in it about vulnerability. I read it and at first could not understand it. I had always thought of vulnerability as such a weakness…

To The Dreamer:

Dreams are the things that make us feel the most alive, they give us the drive to achieve the things that would otherwise seem impossible. For through that dream the impossible becomes possible. So what are some of your dreams? Do they seem unrealistic? If so then that’s good, for all great dreams may feel unrealistic at first. But if you believe in it enough, if you …

Just. Let. Go.

Remember, Just. Let. Go!… when you force your way through a move you can injure yourself… seriously just let go.” 

I met his gaze and felt the tickle of an ironic laugh bubbling up inside. Simultaneously I squelched the rise of emotion threatening to surface.  That comment settled into my bones like lead. They left and I turned to face the wall. I stood befo…

Just Like Cholesterol

Our bodies need cholesterol in order to be healthy and fully functional. Cholesterol produces cell membranes and some hormones. When cholesterol is present in excess, however, it puts our bodies at risk to experience serious, debilitating, fatal conditions such as heart attacks and strokes. LDL (bad cholesterol) builds up in the walls of the arteries and forms plaque, a thi...

Navigating the Negative News

Over the past few months, watching the news in North America has become scarier and scarier. Regardless of which side you may be on with respect to political leadership, it’s hard to argue that there is a tremendous amount of conflict, anger, fear, and unrest. While I live in Canada, our neighbours to the south are almost an extension of us and the spillover effect h…

Shifting From Desire To Deeds

In his book “Intentional Living”, John Maxwell wrote the following statement about living with intention.

“Wishing for things to change wouldn’t make them change.

Hoping for improvements…

Your Soft Skills Will Earn You That Promotion!

Do you agree? Would you also say that soft skills are more important today than, say, one generation ago, or even 100 years ago? From a purely rational point of view, I would say there is a pretty good case to be made for the increased importance of skills such as listening, convincing through inspiring company presentations, and making an impact on pe…


As we end this first month of the year 2017, I find it remarkable how much unpacking I have done already this year. Now I’m not unpacking from a move or some sort of transition. In fact the unpacking itself is the transition.

Let me explain.  We all have unresolved matters deep down inside of us. Some of these things are a result of recent relationships w…

The Secret To Peak Performance After The Military

Somebody in our battalion lost a pistol when I was at FOB Speicher in Tikrit, Iraq. They were on a maintenance test flight on a Blackhawk. They only flew traffic patterns around the airfield and never left base. After their flight is when they noticed they were missing the weapon. It had surely fallen out somewhere during the flight. They knew it had to be around the bas…


There is such an excitement and joy I feel right now, there really are no words to explain it. I can tell you that I have decided to no longer allow my experiences to “muddy” my story. I’ve had some very challenging times, but because of my journey through “process” I have been strengthened, able to put my pain in perspective and worked my way back to worthy.


FLS: Failure to Launch Syndrome

Have you not heard? FLS is a dangerous, widely spreading syndrome and it’s highly likely that you may be a victim.

What is this epidemic that I speak of? 

Failure to Launch Syndrome, or FLS.

Yes, I may not have coined this whole concept myself, but let me clarify: 

What have you been s...

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Transform Your Thinking

It may sound so simple that changing your thoughts could affect your entire life, but in actuality, what you think about can manifest in your relationships, health, career, finances, and other areas of your life- positively or negatively.

Much of how we feel about ourselves, others, and even life is the consequence of our thoughts. Life is choice-driven; therefo…

The Quick Brown Fox: Finding Your Writers Voice

This video of a quick brown fox jumping over a possibly lazy (though definitely mellow) dog reminded me of the exercise I’ve led to help students understand the concept of “writer’s voice.”

You’ve probably heard the sentence “the quick brown fox jumped over the lazy dog” as a...

Resiliency – Active Constructive Response

Active Constructive Responding

Life Skills for Resiliency


Last week we discussed how to use active listening skills which will now move us to how to have an Active Constructive Response. Active Constructive Responding builds relationships when someone shares good news.

There are four main ways we can respond when someone shares a positive exp...

Relationship with the Screen

Connections. The moments that happen when our eyes aren’t glued to our phones. Wednesday, before meeting a friend at the coffee shop, a 3-year-old, blonde hair, blue-eyed girl climbed up on the chair at my table. She made herself right at home, pushed her tiny plate toward my orange-chocolate scone, and pointed. I asked her mom if I could give the girl a piece, and she di…

Meeting the Six Human Needs

Everything we do, we do to meet one or more of the six human needs.

According to Human Needs Psychology, developed by world-renowned psychotherapist Chloe Madanes and Anthony Robbins, there are 6 needs that are universal. They apply to you, me, and everyone we know. Although we all have these needs, we have them in varying degrees of importance and we all use diff…


Making sure grade 7 students stay alert and engaged is a daunting task. Luckily, I picked up a skill when I worked on cruise ships: remembering students names! I warned them. ‘If I remember your name, it is not a good thing :). It means I can call on you anytime. This is a great way to keep a group of teens hooked! I promised T tips. Here are the last three plus a little …

Go to Grow

Go to Grow!



Quill Cloud

James E. Harris III

           So many times in life we reach a point where we cannot go on without help from another. Simply put, iron sharpens iron. There are just some thi...

All His Own: A short story

A few months ago a good friend of mine encouraged me to try my hand at writing short stories. After spending some time mulling this whole idea over and reminiscing childhood stories that helped spark the imagination,  I left with the  evolving random topic ‘growing up’ rolling around in my head. Pondering childhood wildness, recalling friends’ s…

The Passionate Leap

How many of us today can honestly say we are truly happy most of the time? That we are excited and passionate for Life feeling we are truly living the life God intended for us to live? Do you even think that the two should coexist? If not, then why not? I mean if God created us in his eyes then wouldn’t it make sense that he would give us the most passion for the type of wo…

Maintaining a winning perspective

Chapter 9 of T. J. Hoisintton’s “If You Think You Can” starts with this amazing statement: “In the real world, moments of devastation are likely to come your way… It’s part of the process. Consequently, setbacks drive some to fight harder. For others, it provides a reason to quit. The difference is all in your perspective.” Nowhere, so far…

Make Who You Are the Centerpiece of All You Do

If you want to succeed in creating a successful life or venture of any kind, you will need to make a plan for getting where you want to go. The further you want to go, the more detailed a plan you’ll need! It all starts with a vision that is captured in a mission. The mission is broken down into goals, the further down into objectives and tasks.

Everything starts …

Best Lesson from College

Remembering back to my college days, one psychology teacher gave a pop quiz the first day.

First day of college already a pop quiz, joy I hate test to begin with. She hands out the test. There was about 50 questions front and back.

Everyone drove into the test. Answering all the questions as we went along.

Some people got up and handed in the...

What Motivates You?

What Keeps You Motivated!!!!

What Are Some Of Things You Do To Get Unstuck?


I was writing an article for Go Read and could not seem to finish it.

·     I got out my baking utensils and started baking some scones.

I baked 3 types and over 5 dozen scones. (It took be a little over an hour) I share the delicious goodies with...

Distractions – 2017

This world that we live in is inundated with things vying for our attention.  We have our cell phones constantly chirping and beeping to the point where we would literally have to silence our phones or shut them off to get a break. Some of us even “fast” from social media in an attempt to reconnect with themselves and perhaps others around them in the real world.  W…

Weather Your Weather

What do you do when you’ve had enough?

When people/situations make you go “grrrrr…”

When there’s something constantly on your mind that you can’t shake 

When you notice that you feel untrue to you and your work because of this other “stuff”…


As cheesy as it sounds, you get mad

I hear it a lot–...


STUCK is not a destination, it is a position, a position you can change. It is not an unfamiliar or uncommon position, we all have experienced it from time to time. The only thing standing between you and your desired destination is a DECISION. However, our ability to make the decision to move forward from the place where we are is dependent upon the why. The “why” co…

7 Tips for Instant Cooperation


  1. If you want instant cooperation always use the word “because” (“have you thought about talking to/incorporating this because……”) Automatic response is based on reason, or at least the appearance of reason.
  2. Adjust your attitude to fit the situation before you approach someone, or they …
the cat in the hat persisted…

Quill Cloud

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Dreaded Life Lessons: Glorious Messy Freedom

Dreaded Life Lessons:  Glorious Messy Freedom

Life was messy, terribly messy.  Over the last years I had come to know a brokenness that seemed unnavigable. I used to be a confident, strong, sociable woman and leader.  I had loved living life alongside people.  I had grown in skills and felt comfortable in the realms I navigated. I worked as a nanny…

Decluttering Your Brain

So many of us get up fatigued, stressed, overwhelmed! So many thoughts in our heads, so many things to accomplish, so many people to look after. We get to the stage where we can’t do this anymore and we don’t see the point. We don’t see anything wonderful happening in our lives. We get stuck!

Let me explain why! Our brain is like a bedroom full of so many things. It …

Do You Have What It Takes After The Military?

“With their skills from the military they should be upper management. Instead they are applying for low entry level positions answering phones. They just don’t know what they are capable of.” I hear it time and time again from friends that run businesses.

My friend Bryan has 400 employees and is constantly on the lookout for above-average people to hire. He tells ...

Life Skills of Resiliency – Good Listening

So many times we could avoid problems by just stopping and listening and then responding with respect. Good listening is to make someone feel safe in speaking to you as a confidante. In order to maintain strong alliances, you need that person to feel safe coming to you when something goes wrong, whether it’s your family, friends, or coworkers. When we respond we must respon…

Be Remembered

As someone who has crossed state lines, done time in prison, and is currently in their third year of seventh grade, I feel like I know a few things about doing things a little differently. Lest you jump to conclusions, let me explain.

My work history has taken me from AmeriCorps in Minnesota, to the Department of Corrections in South Dakota, to a middle school in Tex…

Do you have the “If Only” syndrome?

If only I had more money. If only I knew the right people. If only I had more education. If only I wasn’t adopted. If only I was better looking. If only I had a better job. Do you have the “If Only Syndrome”? I did. I hate to share with you but these are excuses. There are tons and I mean tons of people that have no education, grew up on the streets and had horrific situ…


           Have you ever had a fall in your life? Have you ever been knocked down so hard that you didn’t think you would get up and walk again, I mean that literally and figuratively. Then you must feel like the character in my new book Jason Abrams Jr. who fell off a building in his crazy pursuit of learning how to fly. Jason had a goal that seeme…

The River

Change happens. This is a fundamental & bittersweet truth of life. Lately I’ve had a rough time navigating change. Seasons are shifting, old things are fading away, new things are growing. The last six months has been a transitioning for my wife and I, every single realm of our life – family relationships, church & ministry involvement, the friends that we spend time…

Don’t give up on your New Year’s Goal yet!

These days getting and staying “busy” has never been easier. Routines can be toxic, it puts life on replay and continues to give you the same outcome. How different does today look from yesterday or even a year ago? What are you wanting so bad but failing to make changes to get closer to achieving it?

It’s time to get uncomfortable. Know that bei…

What 2 do every day 2 increase your intelligence

If you want to witness the magic of the human brain in action, play the matching game with a 4-year-old — you know, the classic game where the tiles are arranged face down and players take turns flipping them over to find pairs.

You’ll see what I mean as you watch that wonderful little brain doing its thing. It’s amazing, and when you realize you’ve been outdu…

Action, The Winner’s Edge

Quill Cloud

The other day I came across this quote: “Believe and Act as if you cannot fail!” It struck me like a hard slap to the face. It made such a strong impression on me that I took out a black marker, wrote it on a big piece of paper and taped it...

From Despair to Joy

Hi Everybody so happy to share my first article with you.

In numerology 2017 is a Number 1 year, the start of something new. Meanwhile 2016 was a 9 year- ending of a cycle. That is definitely my life!

In line with new beginnings I have created this blog to share inspiring stories, (including my own) ideas and tools that will infuse positivity, jo…

The Highlight Reels of Money

I had a crazy dream last night!

I usually remember vivid details of my crazy dreams. This was no different.

I was hanging out with my teenage group of friends and we stole the Mona Lisa, although, it wasn’t at the Louvre, it was at a church in Canada.

Once the money came around, we all got like a $2,000,000 cut from the proceeds. I didn’t want any par…

Your Golden Handcuffs

I was talking with a buddy of mine the other day. He was complaining about his job. He talked about the frustration that he has with his boss, other employees and the overall environment where he works. 

The last time I spoke with him, he kept telling me how he wanted to start his own business. It’s been over three years since that conversation. So when I a…



It all started with a little mascara…we exchanged pleasantries until she asked me ‘what do you do?’ I answered with zest ‘I am a public speaking coach.’ Can you do a workshop with my grade 8 students?’ In business, they tell you to say YES to anything and figure it out later. That is how TEEN TALK wa…


Quill Cloud

Today I want to introduce you to my next book. It will be titled One Life. I’ve just recently started to write it but here’s a little excerpt from it.

With excellence being the standard, my purpose is to enhance the lives ...


“It’s a dangerous business, Frodo, going out your door. You step onto the road, and if you don’t keep your feet, there’s no knowing where you might be swept off to.” 

― J.R.R. Tol…

4 Ways to CHALLENGE a Professional

Even when you love your career, sometimes you get stuck in a bit of a rut. In the past, I’ve been blessed to have a coworker, colleague, or friend reach out and help me get it together when I’ve been struggling. In doing so, they challenged me to push further and achieve more than I had previously believed I was capable of. A well timed challenge…


Performing well makes us feel good about ourselves and also attracts opportunities when others realize they can rely on us for quality results. Performing well depends on being skillful and skill development is hard work. Since there is no shortcutting the effort and time it takes to become highly skilled, being the very best at something typically requires one to g…

New Beginning

New Beginning New Start

You have 12 new chapters and 365 new pages to write your story.

What will you accomplish this year?

Plan your year out and then chunk it down into quarterly, monthly, weekly, daily task.

Having a plan will help you stay on your journey.

Did you include having fun o...

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Why I Don’t Want To Be Fearless

The minute you decide you want to do something better with yourself, you can be overwhelmed with 1.5 million personal growth articles online. Some are helpful and there are a ton which just spew opinion intended to get a reaction. That’s fine. Everyone who wants to write should be able to write. And everyone who has an idea should be able to share it.


Keeping New Year’s Resolutions

Happy New Year!

What is the most common way to start off the New Year? Usually, making a fresh start and making resolutions to make this year better than last. We make all sorts of resolutions: being a better friend, or partner, or parent. Maybe it’s to go to the gym more frequently, or make more time to read a book, watch more movies, to be healthier or …

Resiliency – Interpersonal Problem Solving

So many of our issues/problems that cause us to become resilient is how we solve our interpersonal problems. This life skill is so important to strong alliances because it helps us to confront those problems in a way that still shows respect for the relationship. This is of course important for all kinds of relationships – at home, at work, wherever there is a relations…

Do Something that Scares You

As children, it was easier for us to embrace life fully and we often did things that we’d never think of doing now as adults. We challenge you to think back to how fearless you were when you were young, and do something that scares you; maybe a little maybe a lot. Life makes a lot of people complacent. It’s too easy to just stay in your comfort zone. That zone is different f…

The Power of the Power Nap

I can’t think of a more enjoyable experience than taking a nap in the middle of the day. If you are like me, then I imagine sometimes you feel guilty about taking a nap when you have so much stuff to do. It wasn’t until a long talk with my mentor, and a little bit of knowledge about the subject that I decided to make napping a daily part of my everyday life. There are vast ...

The End of A Year, The Start of a Dream Part 2

Here we are 10 days into the new year. How are those new year resolutions coming along? If you are still going hard after your goal of the year then good for you. If you are saying in your mind maybe just maybe I made a to BIG of a goal and I should just quit now. 

Goals seem great in theory right. Man, I can totally loose 30 pounds in 1 month or I can easily save ...

Operating From Imagination Kills Procrastination

You’ve all heard the expression “Fake it until you make it!” Now, tell me the truth, how many of you have gotten frustrated or anxious with this statement? If I’m being honest, there are many times where I simply wanted to say… well a bunch of bad words to the person who delivered this message. I mean, what the heck does this mean and how do we achieve this? In a si…

Practicing Gratitude: Resources to get started

 In my last article I shared ideas on how you can start your own practice of gratitude. Many people only focus on gratitude during the holiday season, from mid-November through December. With all the benefits that come from practicing grati…

The Secret to Accomplishing Anything!

It’s so simple. It actually blew my mind when I first heard it YEARS ago. And, technically it’s easy too, yet I would bet anyone who hasn’t accomplished what they set out to accomplish for themselves or the people who find themselves not happy where they are at in relation to their goals, seldom, if ever, implement this secret.

I believe this secret works well …

Top 10 Grammar Mistakes That Can Make or Break You

One of my biggest pet-peeves as a writer is when I see native English speakers still making the most common grammar mistakes they should already know not to make. However, I suppose with the dawn of new technology, social media, and the English language now evolving into more and more acronyms, I really shouldn’t be all that surprised. Still…I feel t…

What Is Your Plan For Success After The Military?

Here’s the deal. You already know how to overtake big targets. You proved you can accomplish extraordinary missions in combat. You have the Ultra-High-Achiever skills necessary to win. You can execute with precision. You always adapt and overcome. But you never did it without a plan. Big success doesn’t happen by accident. It only happens with a carefully execut…

Doing Less To Do More

I’m in the midst of reading Deep Work by Cal Newport and it’s becoming clearer to me that I need to do less so I can do more.

What exactly does that mean? Well, everyday, I go about my routine and perform a myriad of activities. Some activities, like exercise, involve doing multiple movements. Others, like writing t…

Shift to master your authentic voice

The weeks leading up to a birth are often met with turmoil. It is often recommended to write down your feelings on paper to grasp an understanding of the emotions you are living. The following published poem in my book Taking Shape danced onto the paper:


I crossed the line

Making the shift



Human Beings Are Innately Beautiful at Heart

I strongly believe in the beauty of humanity. 

Each time there is a tragedy, I no longer avoid my feelings of pain and sadness for our nation. I now see these reminders as a cry to amplify our goodness. 

Watch for the stories of beauty, strength and bravery that will come out of the shootings at Fort Lauderdale Airport. 

There’s one about a Roche...



It’s truly difficult to be anyone other than who you are, but we try so hard to be someone else. Someone better. Someone wiser. Someone more poised.  Someone more………….acceptable. What’s interesting is that sometimes that person you are trying so hard to emulate is trying really hard to emulate someone else!

Is it wrong or bad to have a role m...


I have always found, that the plot writes itself. In my head I have the idea of two characters. What would they look like? Are they good or bad? Will they find love? It’s like watching a movie in your head. You can’t quite figure out the ending but you have a good idea  in the first five minutes, where it’s going to go. So you start to write, you write a great beginning to your s…

Nicholas Boothman in Cosmopolitan Magazine India

Make him fall in love in 90 minutes

Zipped into your favourite dress, you’ve got a mojito in one hand and the perfect bar-stool position from which to pounce. Then, suddenly he looms into view: the six-foot actually real version of your perfect man. It’s 9:30pm— you’ve got a good hour and a half left to lure him to your side and make him fall in love…

Life Skills for Resilience – Physical

Physical Resilience

Life Skills for Resilience


Our journey to learn how to be a resilient person we are stopping to learn about being physically fit. Understanding how the link between physical fitness and mental fitness improves performance, leadership, and overall health is an important component within resiliency. The life skill of being physical fi…

Hustle and Flow

After recently flying 30,000 feet in the air, I landed with new insight.

As I flew, I had to keep scooching my wadded up jacket around behind my low back and wiggle my left leg around because my knee was throbbing off and on all day yesterday. 

The result of hustle and flow was showing up in my body.

I share this becau…

Know the No

I went through a phase of thinking I should just say yes! to, well, everything I could. Slightly inspired by Jim Carrey’s movie ‘Yes Man’ so many years ago, it was a time of my life when I was beginning to blossom into who I am today. 

I used to hold back , live more timidly, and kept my mouth shut.

But then I began feeling, thinking, a...

How far can you go?

I would like to start out with an exercise. I’d like you to take your right arm and raise it above your head as high as you can go… Ok, is your arm high above your head? Now, I would like you to just give a little more effort and try and raise your arm a little hight… Can you get your arm up higher? Now that your arm is reached up as high as you can go, I’d like you to g…

7 Profitable Reasons for Writing a Non-Best-Seller

So many people seem transfixed on having a so-called best-seller and that’s fine. But, when it comes to self-help, if you write the best possible, well-researched, friendly, easy-to read book, with a killer title and a fresh approach it doesn’t have to be a best-seller to make you a star.

Most of us wish we could improve the world around us. For the disillusioned…

Live In Love! Personal Letters From Leo Buscaglia

Dear Friends,

I’m going to share something with you that no one outside my family has ever seen before. Yes, you’re getting something special to start the new year off with love!

In my earlier articles, I wrote about ‘Playing Big,’ ‘Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone’ and ‘Creating Mass Influence.’ I shared tips of honoring those who’ve touc…

What would you do if you only had 1 year left?

Have you ever asked yourself this question? Most people would spend time with family and loved ones, see the world and do everything they dreamed of doing before it is too late. While most people spend their lives doing what they “have to” rather than what they “want to”, and don’t even take the time to think about what they really want to do. That’s what a bucket li…

How To Hit Your Target… Every Time?

How to Hit Your Target… Every Time?

It’s a brand new year! New energy and new possibilities to create more!

So, did you set any New Year Goal?  

I personally used to set New Year goals but I no longer. Now, I choose to focus on creating the energy I like to enjoy for the year instead of setting goals.  

So why do I choose not to set any...

Create A Mind, Body & Soul Connection This Year

Each January brings excitement for being able to amp up the energy, clean the slate and start fresh. Change is good. Change is fun.  But most of the ads that bombard us each January revolve around losing weight, focusing on size and counting calories. But we are so much more than just the numbers on a scale! This year, aim to make a mind, body and soul connection that coun…

What do you want? Think it clearly and it shall be

For me, this is the perfect subject to start a new year with. Making resolutions, setting goals, implementing plans, are what is predominant in what I’ve been doing this past week. So, I started this year with a big question and broke it down into achievable tasks. Now, let’s dig into my why & how to make that happen.

In Chapter 5 of TJ Hoisington’s…

A Face-plant, Frozen peas and an Kid’s Life Lesson

My Dad was big on downplaying things that everyone else got wound up about. One particular day my while my mom was at work I was reeking havoc on the neighborhood- running full tilt across the neighbours lawns and hurdling over their fences. It became a test among my friends who could make it the length of the street the fastest– successfully hurdling every obs…

You Don’t Want to Change!

You really don’t want to change in 2017.


Transformation of your life, your body, your money, your situation, your relationships, your health, whatever it is.


the act of becoming different or to make something different



Taking Bold Steps in the New Year (Part 2)

Last week we looked at steps beneficial to moving forward to achieving your goals. This week’s article offers more helpful steps to accomplishing your objectives. 

·        Fake It Until You Make It – “Procrastination is like a credit card: it’s a lot of fun until you get the bill.” –Christopher Parker. No matter how you look at it, procrastina...

Why You Must Keep Going…

It’s too hard.

There are so many people doing that and the market is over-saturated.

You’re too old to start something new.

You need to have a degree in this for people to listen to you.

Everyone is writing a book now.

There’s nothing special about you.

The system is rig…

The Greatest Secret To Success

The greatest secret to living the most effective and productive life possible is understanding the principle and power of  establishing the proper priorities. Life was designed to be simple, not complicated, and the key to simplifying life is prioritization.

So what is a priority? 

Priority is defined as:

The principal thing.

Putting firs...

Happy New Year!

It’s that time again! New year, new you? We’re at the point where many people begin writing resolutions and making plans as if something magically happens the moment that clock strikes 12 a.m.  Because let’s face it, a new year automatically transforms us into a different person. In actuality, a “new” year doesn’t determine your lifestyle or the person yo…

Is Procrastination part of you?

On this last day of 2016 I thought, “What a great day to write about this subject that is constantly burning inside of me and too often rears it’s ugly head”. Perhaps if I get it onto “paper”, so to speak, maybe I will get it out of my system and be able to look forward to 2017, a procrastination free year!!! Or is that realistic? Based on much research that cannot be ignor...

It’s a complicated world

Everywhere I go people tell me. That it’s a very complicated world to publish a book. I have not found this to be true. Anyone can publish a book, if they know how to follow the steps. It takes me about two hours to publish a new book. The trick is not getting your book done, the work really starts. The second your book is finished. You can write a book, have a gr…

Stop! Recalibrate and Glisten

Ice is back with my brand new invention

Oh boy. Fun fact: I memorized alllll the words to ‘Ice Ice Baby’ back in high school, but I mean, who didn’t?

Don’t worry, this whole article is NOT about Vanilla Ice (nor 90’s hits as much as you may relate). 

It’s about your inner demons. 

Yeah, those …

The End of A Year and The Start of A Dream Part 1

So it’s the end of the year and everyone around you is like wow that year went fast. A new year a whole new you right? Well thats what you hear or read everywhere you go. This is the point in time where everyone reflects on the goals that they didn’t accomplish and makes new resolutions for next year which a good amount of them consists of loosing weight. 

When people…

You CAN Teach An Old Dog New Tricks

I’m not sure who said it first, but one of my Dad’s favorite excuses was, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.” Any time we tried to get my Dad to change something about his home, the truck he drove, his attire, his mannerisms, and even his entry into the technological age, he would without hesitation – balk. My Dad was a great man, but when it came to change, he would…

To The Past And the Future

So, here we are at the end of the year….and what a year it has been!

There is talk about a shift in energy that is bringing about change on a massive scale. When I look back over 2016 I would tend to agree. However, that is only in retrospect… What’s the saying? Hindsight is 20/20?

As an entrepreneur, there were many times throughout the year where I found m…

Resiliency Life Skill – Spiritual

As we continue our journey through the life skills of resilience we take up the “Spiritual” life skill. The goal of spiritual resilience is to strengthen the beliefs, principles, or values that sustain our sense of purpose. So how do we define spiritual resilience? The ability to sustain an individual’s sense of self and purpose through a set of beliefs, principles or value…

What Do You Want After The Military?

Soon after I got out of the service I moved back to my hometown where I ran into Gary. Gary is a Vietnam veteran that lived around the corner from me growing up. One day Gary asked me “what are you doing now?”

I whipped out my usual answer “well, I just retired from the military.” Typically at this point people nod their heads in admiration as if retirement is the Hol…

Passionate Beliefs

Have you ever had a goal that was so big, so far out there, that it didn’t seem like it could ever come true? I think we all have at one time or another. But I’ve realized a certain kind of magic occurs when you passionately believe in something that doesn’t yet exist.

Our subconscious seems to be working toward that goal even when you don’t realize it, noodling ar...

Make Yourself Memorable

What good is meeting someone for the first time, creating a favorable impression and establishing rapport if two days later they’ve utterly forgotten you? Advertisers pay fortunes to keep their products “top of mind,” job seekers want to distinguish themselves from the competition, and aspiring romantics want their efforts to spark lasting fantasies. There’ll be times in…

Why should I write a book?

Most of us wish we could improve the world around us. For the disillusioned lawyer, it might be a way to help the poor. For the ambitious social climber, it could be throwing the perfect dinner party. For the twelve-year-old boy with a social conscience, it might be teaching adults how to give back to the global community. For the brilliant scientist, perh…

What Lies Within Us: Creating Miracles

We stand at the precipice of a new year:  2017.  As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. And when we bring what is within us out into the world, miracles happen.”

How do we expand our inner selves to live at our highest p…

Master Your Thinking & Gain Focus On Your Goals

“The Quality of your thinking – the thoughts and beliefs you entertain, WILL make all the difference in the quality of your life. PERIOD!” Nowhere in T.J. Hoisington’s book “If You Think You Can!”  is there a better explanation of the practice of ma…

Passion, Purpose, Persistence!!!

Ha, Ha, Ha…get my Ducks-in-a-Flow not having my Ducks-in-a-row. Thanks Stan Holden for putting the proverbial finger on it! Now where’s my hammer???

If you haven’t read “Giving Candy to Strangers”, make it your next read! It’s not about what you get, but rather about what you give, without thought of being compensated. 

I sit here laughing as I read about “Te…

Taking Bold Steps in the New Year (Part One)


“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.” –Henry David Thoreau


New Year’s is a time to reflect on the past year and make resolutions for the upcoming year. Perchance it’s time to move forward on aspirations waiting on the sidelines.  It can be you want to lose weight, finally write a book o…

What 2016 Taught Me!

Before I say good-bye to 2016, I love to reflect on what this year taught me.

I’m READY for this year to be over! So many of you I know feel the same way. For many it was a ‘bad’ year and for many it was a ‘great’ year.

For me, it was an amazing mess of a year – mess in a good way. Could it have been better? HELL YES! In so many areas and for so many reasons of…

You Are Here!

You are here! But where is here? This article will not attempt to tell you where you as if written by some all knowing entity. But there are some similarities to where all individuals find themselves and that can be addressed in this article. The term, you are here is probably most familiar to you from having viewed a shopping mall directory or perhaps even on a map plac…


This article will be about Words of Wisdom. When I was growing up, my grandparents, my great aunt and mother always had Words of Wisdom that they shared with each of the children. As kids, we did not understand what the meanings were, but as adults, you realize the meaning of each ‘saying’ they mentioned to us. 

My words of Wisdom today will pertain to the stories th…

Pause For Reflection

This time of year tends to creep up on us and sometimes catches us off guard. Last minute shopping, brain wracking gift ideas, and fancy mealtime and party preps, can sure be overwhelming to say the least. Not to mention, if you throw in all that snow and hectic travel plans, that it’s any wonder how we all make it through in one piece (mostly).

I wo…

The 5 Most Influential Books I’ve Read

In this article I am going to share with you the 5 most influential books I have read. These are in no particular order as each of these books has had a unique influence on me and they each sit next to my bed or are never far away from me as I use them constantly as a reference source. I would thoroughly recommend these books as excellent additions to your own book libra…

Gray Rhino Quiz Personality: Game Warden

Wouldn’t it be nice if all of our problems stayed small and manageable? People who are good at identifying challenges and tending to them early on are my heroes. I think of them as game wardens caring for cute baby rhinos.

We’re all different in the ways we respond to the probable but often overlooked, downplayed, or outright ignored problems that I cal...

Making Assumptions? Assume The Best


As I write this Boost, I assume I like you, the reader. I assume I need you; I assume you need me. And what’s more, I assume I’m right. This is what gives me the confidence to keep on writing. 

Assumptions at their best are great for connecting, learning and sharing, but at their worst they lead to biased, unfair, limiting and danger…

Holiday Cleaning Decisions Made Simple

When the holidays are on their way to your home you start getting the feeling of panick thinking, “oh my goodness! My house is a write off! How will I ever be ready in time for my guests?!” 

Don’t worry! You have a few options! 

1. You can always hire a cleaning company to do a last minute cleaning. Look for a reputable company that offers a satisfaction gau…

Life Skills for Resiliency – Meaning Making

As we continue to learn about the life skills of resiliency we need to take up the life skill of meaning-making. What is meaning-making and how does it relate to mindfulness and resiliency? The goal of meaning-making is to help shed light on difficult situations and find ways to grow and benefit from adversity.

We need to look at what is fixed verse growth mindset….

Who Will You Be After The Military?

The day you joined the military you selected a MOS but little did you know you were selecting something much more than a job. You were also choosing an identity. Knowing WHO you were is another gift the military gave you. This gift served you well, especially in the Theater of War. When charging into battle, you knew exactly WHO you were. You had no doubt that you wer…

3 Things You Need To Have A Phenomenal 2017

You’ve heard all the stories and statistics about New Years Resolutions. So, I won’t rehash them here. But, some of us make them every year. Over the last few years, I’ve heard of quite a few people who have sworn off resolutions simply because they found they didn’t work for them.

In the honeymoon of the new year and the emotion of the ball dropping, we decide …

Time to work on you: Embracing Be-Do-Have Habits

The opening line of chapter 4 in T.J. Hoisington’s “If You Think You Can”. says it all: “IF YOU WANT MORE, THEN YOU MUST BECOME MORE.” Read on and begin the change! 

As you can see from the image I’ve chosen for this article, being and …

Three Key Elements of Trust

Three key elements of trust


So what does it take to become a “Trusted” person in any relationship, be it on a business or personal basis.


I’d say that the following three words are right up there if you want to be that person. We will have a look at the three words and some examp…

What is Balance?

There I was in my hotel room off the coast of Portugal with tears streaming down my face. I should be happy! The sun was shining. The ocean looked so blue. The waves were crashing up on the volcanic rocks. We had been whale watching. We had been hiking and biking. We had visited natural hot springs, and had been eating amazing food over the last week. Yet there I was havi…

FIVE Ways to Keep Your inner Fires Burning

After what feels like an eternity of writing. I launched my first novel at a book signing party in Toronto last week. As I reflect on how long the whole process took, I wonder how I got through it. After all, the initial idea was born in a flash of inspiration on a dog walk with my sister. Six years later, a not-so-simple love story– when is love ever simple—with mystical …


It’s been said time and time again that overthinking kills happiness. We’ve all heard it before and more than likely have agreed with the statement at some point. Why then is it so difficult to adhere to its message? Certainly no one is trying to be unhappy. Could it be fear of trial? We’re all advocates to the saying until left alone to face it head on. One glimpse of a …

Before you set a New Years Goal..

Lets look at a popular goal “I want lose the last ten pounds.” First off, if this is something you want, ask yourself why. Next, are you ready to take action?

Figure out why your life will be better, why you’ll be happier, more confident etc. When you make the desire big enough you are more likely going to be ok with the sacrifices it requires. We get so caught up …

Gray Rhino Quiz Personality: The Pancake

Nearly all of us have days when we feel we’ve been run over by a rhinoceros. You know what I mean, right?

Sometimes we can’t help it and there’s nothing we can do to get out of the way. But often we can manage whatever it is that’s about to flatten us like a pancake.

We’re all different in the ways we respond to the probable but often overlooked, dow…

Proper Goal Setting (Part 2)

Step 4 – Make a list of everything you will need to do to accomplish your goals!

-Put everything on the list, no matter how big or small. If one of the things you need is to get pencils and pens, write it on the list. 

-Add to your list every time you think of something else you have to do.

-Keeping a written list helps for a few reasons. One, it helps ...

Staying Focused on Friendship

Staying Focused on Friendship


Darrell V. Freeman

(Author of Your Choice Is Your Trouble)


Be Healthy for Yourself and Your Partner

Have you ever noticed that the people in relationships who do the taking, oftentimes work hard o…

The Power of Compounding

Imagine for a moment that you and a sibling just had a very close family member pass away. In this person’s will they named you both as primary beneficiaries of their vast estate; however, unlike a simple will, you are given two options to chose from. 

  • Option 1: You can choose to have $3,000,000 right now, no questions asked
  • Option 2: You can take...
Step into your Boldness

We often hear speakers suggest that as leaders we need to be bold. We are told that the bolder we are the more success we will enjoy. But what does this character trait really mean?

In a Harvard Business Review article they analyzed the effect of bold le…

Just Change One Simple Habit

We get into habits. We often do the same things over and over again without realizing it, without realizing what energy is attached to our words, our actions. And when everyone else is doing it, it becomes the norm. But a norm doesn’t mean something should be deemed normal.

I am going to ask you to break one simple habit.

Just one.

Please stop complain...

Saying I’m sorry

Two simple words, yet so powerful. They can pave the way for healing, comfort, forgiveness , and provide closure. So why then is it so difficult to say I’m sorry? I, myself, struggle with this occasionally, and really try to understand why this is such a challenging endeavor. There are numerous reasons why someone may not necessarily feel the need to say I’m sorry. No o…

When I was a boy I had a dream

When I was a Boy

Have you heard the song “When I was a boy” by Jeff Lynnes’ ELO?

I first heard this when he performed at the Glastonbury Rock festival in summer 2016. As soon as I heard it I fell in love with the song. When I listen to a song I always look up the lyrics so I know exactly what the words are.

I’d like for you to “YouTub...

Airing Dirty Laundry . . . and Dishes . . AND

“The way you do something is the way you do anything.”

Think about that phrase for a moment.
What’s your initial reaction?
Do you agree?
Feel annoyed? Confused? 

My initial reaction when one of my yoga teachers…

Gray Rhino Quiz Personality: Chicken Little

You know the story of Chicken Little, who got hit in the head by an acorn and was sure that the sky was falling. Of course, it wasn’t. It was just an acorn. Or you may know Chicken Little as Henny Penny or Chicken Licken; there are many variations of the folk tale going back 2500 years.

We’re all different in the ways we respond to the probable but often overlooked, d…

Release Your Potential

 It’s truly a sobering thought to know that there are over five billion people on this planet today, and only a very small percentage of them will experience a significant fraction of their true potential. Perhaps you are a candidate for contributing to the vast amounts of unknown wealth currently residing in the cemeteries all over the world. Consider this: Your potenti…

Gray Rhino Quiz Personality: Ostrich

Did you know that Ostriches don’t really bury their heads in the sand?

They lower their heads to the sand to scoop up sand and pebbles to help them digest. They also dig holes in the ground to bury their eggs.

But a little poetic l…

Gray Rhino Quiz Personality: Tourist on Safari

We’re all different in the ways we respond to obvious threats -the big scary things coming at us like a rhinoceros.

Take the Gray Rhino Quiz to find out how well you deal with the obvious dangers in your life, work and in the world around you. I call these probable but often…

Are You Ready for a Gray Rhino? Take the Quiz!

We all have things in our lives that we know we need to handle. But human nature is a funny thing and we get in our own way. All too often it’s the most obvious things that get us: the problems we ought not to be able to ignore in our health, finances, relationships or jobs. Instead, we push dealing with them off into the future. We know they’re there, right, and we’ll get…


I think that one of the greatest secrets to living a purpose filled and truly effective life is understanding the power of priorities. I believe life was designed to be simple, not complicated, and the key to simplifying life is proper  prioritization.  So exactly what is a priority? A priority is defined as:The principal thing. Putting first things first. Establishing the…


Vision is such a big “buzzword” these days, but what does it really mean?Webster’s 1828 Dictionary defines vision like this- “In Scripture, a revelation from God; an appearance or exhibition of something supernaturally presented to the minds of the prophets, by which they were informed of future events”. In other words, it’s the ability to …

Are You Writing “About” or “Because”?

Nobody ever told me the best part about writing. 

The part when Dominican- and Haitian-American students came up to me when I spoke at universities and bookstores about my first book, Why the Cocks Fight, and thanked me for talking about the questions their parents had always refused to answer.

The part where a friend messaged me to let me know t…