More articles in category: Children And Families

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Tyrese: Custody battles and Divorce

 I remember Tyrese from one of his songs that came out years a go titled: “How you gonna act like that?” It was such a huge hit. It got him so much attention as a singer. He later went on to be a sex symbol and a ladies man. He was also someone who often proclaimed his faith in GOD. He always had advice for his facebook followers. He seemed to connect himself a lot to …

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Mattresses, Memories and Moving On

Memories are experiences that are relived in the presence. Most trips down memory lane begin with a flash from the past; a familiar sight or favourite smell. Usually people will commit their memories to scrapbooks, their iPhone photo albums, or journal writing. Some buy mementoes to tuck away in the corners of drawers and decorate but who oh who uses an old ratty mattress t...

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Step Parents: Point of View of the Child

Step Parents can be terrifying, different, and shape the way us children grow in this world. Coming from a kid who use to have a somewhat step-mother and a step-father, it wasn’t easy. Unfortunately, both of the step-parents I had were not good ones, but that doesn’t mean that you won’t be one. If you are becoming a step-parent, or are a newly incoming step-parent, d…

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GENEROSITY AND THE HOLIDAYS

Tinkle. Tinkle. Tinkle. Did you hear that? That is the sound of an angel getting his wings.

If you do not know that reference, you need to watch “It’s a Wonderful Life” this holiday season! It is a classic 

Christmas movie and sure to be on the television line-up once or twice in the coming weeks.In fact, have you noticed that the number of “feel good” movie…

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Halloween

Halloween is always an exciting times for children, but if your little one is too young to go walking around trick or treating or it’s too late and past their bedtime, here are some other ideas on how to celebrate with them:

  • Take them to a Farm – there’s a ton of local farms that have games and pumpkin patches and fun on the weekends throughout Oc…
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The First Day of School: A Retrospective View

Making a mistake or failing to act upon an opportunity is a valuable moment to learn from throughout the lessons of life. The long days of summer have ended and the children are back to a new academic year and ready to transform back into students. It has been two months since school has started and reflecting back, what can we have done better to prepare for the upcoming a…

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Moving On From Childhood Abuse

“Sit down! Shut-up! You’re stupid! You will never amount to anything, you will be just like your mom!”

Tough words to endure as a child. It seems as if its a never-ending cycle. Making the transition from a child struggling with abuse to an adult coping with it often proved itself to be difficult.

In all honesty, I struggled the majority of my life with m...

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Stepchildren

Being a first time mom, there are so many new things we experience and these first 8 months have been fun filled and filled with emotions, and just as I was getting the hang of raising one child, another one has come along. We applied for my stepson to come visit us from Cuba and his Visa was approved and within a couple weeks we had him here and I was a mom of two! Things I…

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Confidence , the next step

Part 3, Choice- the Magic Word.

Confidence the next step

In the last section I hope I established the fact that in order to become a successful adult, first you must be a child who feels good about himself, in other words a child must have strong self -esteem.

Strong self-esteem promotes confidence. With conf…

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Self Esteem The First Step

Choice -the magic word, part 2

Self esteem the first step.

How do we encourage children to be strong enough in spirit to follow their dreams?

 If we do not believe that we can make our dreams come true, then we stop the dreaming and then what? What happens if a child is constantly faced with opposition or always told what to ...

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Elder Abuse Is Very Real

Elder Abuse….I was informed in a scathing email by someone close to me that “Elder Abuse is B.S. you made it up, just lies”. This was responded to by a Police Detective…”no lies, it is very real”.

Why is it we gasp in horror when children are abused by their parents but not so much or we turn a blind eye to an adult child who treats their elderly parent or parents...

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The Alcoholic Parent and her child.

A kid has no choice about the homes they are born into. Parents set the tone for their kids’ lives. But when life is made hell through parents who abuse alcohol, the kids are forced to live with the parents drinking and their alcoholic actions, and that’s assuming the kids aren’t eventually taken away and put into foster homes by the state. And growing up in an alcoholi…

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Making Homework A Positive Experience

 In the last article I wrote, Back, Back, Back to School Again, I shared how going back to school was always bitter sweet for me. I was happy to see my friends and teachers but I wasn’t happy to loose all the time spent playing video games and going to the movies. In the article, I shared a…

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Take A Breather

 I find the small moments in life are what rock my boat these days and bring me the uttermost joy. Today I had one of those moments.

 I was in the kitchen doing our usual morning routine and was towards the end of it finishing up the last child’s food which is child # 4 she is still a wee baby and by this, I mean under 1. Our mornings of breakfast ca…

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Communicating With Your Teenager

 If you are the parent of a teenager, did this happen to you? You really enjoyed spending time with your child. You did lots of fun activities together, going to the park, playing board games, even going to the mall together. Then one day something changed. You can’t pin point exactly when it happened but it did. You found yourself asking, “What happened to my sweet little …

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STOP with the stop signs

You might think this is such a mundane topic but hear me out.

The back story:

I have lived on the same street for more than 27 years. It’s a modest 4-bedroom cottage on a fairly well-traversed suburban street off the island of Montreal in a community reputed to be ideal for raising young children. Just to illustrate how ideal… there are 3 elementary schools…

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The Parent-Teen Tango

I’m pretty sure whoever coined the phrase, “It takes two to tango” was talking about mother-daughter relationships during the tumultuous teens. The tango is a dance between two conflicted people, filled with frustrated love and human fata…

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Small Milestones

As moms I feel like most of us are always waiting for our little ones to hit the next milestone, like its a race. From the rolling over, to sitting up to the first teeth, its all about how quickly they are growing and if you are beating the other kids around you. Goolgling at what month they should be hitting the milestone or comparing on Facebook to kids around the same age as y…

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Trust, Hopes and Aspirations

Reading time:60 Seconds

My 11 year old daughter left primary school this week. Whilst she has been excited about the prospect of going to High School, it marks the end of our 10 year association with the school which we are very fond of and all of the staff and pupils there. It seems like yesterday my son left yet it is already 4 years ago.. How tim…

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Do As I Say, Not As I Do

Mom, as a child did you sneak into your mother’s room to explore the wonders it held? Did you try on her jewelry? Play with her mascara? Totter around on her heels?

If you did, you know from personal experience teenage girls are eager to emulate their mothers, the most important female figure in their lives

Your precious girl wants to experience life as yo…

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The Inner Game Of Tennis

The Inner Game of Tennis is Played Against Yourself

Whomp!

Player A swats the tennis ball out of bounds. “Oh no! You stupid imbecile! How could you miss such an easy shot? Stupid! Stupid! Stupid!” cries Player A, angry with herself. That’s one way to handle the Inner Game of Te…

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Promoting Physical Activity in children

I believe the love of fitness and health needs to start from a young age. But with the age of technology, and super busy schedules, it can be a daunting task for any parent to feel comfortable fostering enthusiasm for fitness. We have all heard the guidelines that children under two should have no screen time and children between 2 and 5 should be limited to no more …

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Common Core, Good or Bad? 3 Major Reasons its…

If you care about your child’s education then you must read this article. Educational reform has been a huge topic for decades. Teaching in schools have transformed and evolved as we frown upon the lecture-style instructional methods of the past. No longer is it okay to stand in front of the class and talk at students. It is not expected for students to sit quietly and …

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Indelible Remarks

Van Gogh didn’t spend his days honing his math abilities and Einstein didn’t hold a paintbrush determined to improve his artistic talent where perhaps there was none to begin with. They spent their time doing what they love, what they’re good at and they became famously excellent.

I’m good with words and I suck at numbers. At school my love for language and disdain...

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The day I had to use first aid

About a week ago I had every parents’ nightmare come true. My 17-month old started choking!

We had a busy day and stopped for a bite to eat at the mall. My children were sharing a BLT sandwich. My toddler, who has all her teeth and has been eating solids for quite some time was happily munching on the innards of the sandwich when suddenly she started coughing. I …

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Why you should get your kids into golf!

Now that school is over, your kids are free to enjoy any number of activities. Here are some reasons why you should consider golf as one of those activities.

1.      It is OUTSIDE! Golf is an outdoor sport where your children can spend time with Mother Nature and see her plants and animals up close and personal.

2.      It is a low impact sport that crea...

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Being an Authentic Dad

My son, Bronson, and I were getting my car fixed at an Acura dealer in South Jersey. We were getting the car serviced when Bronson wanted to talk to this gorgeous woman who looked like a…

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Co-parenting on Father’s Day

Co-Parenting on Father’s Day Takes Respect And A Touch Of Class

Father’s Day is joyously anticipated by your children, as it is a day to show their appreciation and love for their dad and stepdad. However, for newly separated or divorced fathers, this day can be one of the most difficult times of the year, especially in the circumstance in which they are unable to se…

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The Self-Care/Motherhood Puzzle

Once upon a time, I was an unhappy, stressed out mom. 

I was full-time caretaker of two little boys, struggling to keep everyone happy and fed and not fighting, work from home, maintain some semblance of order and occasionally spend time with my husband before falling asleep on the couch in front of Netflix.

If you had asked me, I would have to…

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Mothers Day

It’s been 8 years since my mom has passed away and although with time it does somewhat get “easier” but the pain and grief never goes away. There’s always something throughout the day that will remind me of her and that is even more true when it is a day of significance such as her birthday, anniversary of her passing and of course Mothers Day.  These are days you cannot avoid…

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What Children Need? Parents doing more….

Abraham Maslow (1943) developed five hierarchical levels addressing the basic human needs in life. He proposed the first level which focuses on basic physiological needs including food and shelter, water, warmth, and sleep. The second tier concentrates on safety needs such as security, protection, order, and stability. Moreover, the third level addresses the elements of…

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Children’s Literature and Creativity

We all agree that literature should be an essential part of childhood. Good literature for children accomplishes many things—helps them relate to their world, understand their place in human culture, validates their world, bond with the parent or adult who reads to them or with them, and learns language both spoken and written. These are just part of the psychological …

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My Mom, My Forever Friend

Are you sisters? We’ve been asked that question more times than you can imagine. When I was younger, it annoyed me. Now, I just laugh. I’m guessing she’s always loved it. After all, there is a twenty-five year age difference. Why wouldn’t she love it?

No, we’re not sisters. We’re mother and daughter.

I don’t know what it’s l…

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Respect For All Mothers

 As I look out the window from the house I live in ; the skies outside are cloudy. I still say to myself: “What a beautiful day to wake up on!” A day we get to reflect on how thankful and gracious we are for our MOTHERS. This weekend I went to a Mother’s Day program where we discussed many things about our MOTHERS. We discussed fears that a MOTHER has. We discussed hopes an...

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Mother In Waiting…

Mother’s day is a time of great celebration. There are so many women who are recognized this day for all that they have meant to their children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and for those extra fortunate, their great-great grandchildren. Even those whose mothers are not here physically anymore can celebrate the legacy that they left behind. But for those …

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Mothers Day

Every Mothers Day has always been very meaningful to me. As the only son to my mother, and her being a single mother, we have always been very close. My mother has and always will be my best friend and confident. When I lived in Cuba, every Mothers Day we would spend together growing up. Even as I hit my 20’s she was the number person I wanted to be with. I could easily talk to m…

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PUBERTY – Been there. Done THAT

Puberty – Been there. Done THAT

All of us Adults have had our experiences with this awkward time called PUBERTY.

Some had it better than others.

Myself…it was HARD.

I grew faster than most of my friends. Puberty got me at 9 years of age.

Boobs, hips, body hair and Aunt Flo (that’s what we called our monthly visitor back then)...

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Silently Saving My Daughter

If you have read some of my previous work, you will know by now that my children are the heart of my life. I have done and will continue to do anything to protect them. My oath to them even before they were born. One by one they captured my heart and I knew my most important responsibility until my last breath…… keep them safe. It is always SAFETY FIRST! Alas, there may …

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Single Mom with an Only Child

I grew up in a family of 6. Being one of four kids was an amazing experience. Of course there were times when my siblings drove me nuts and I’m sure I wasn’t always the best sister, but we had a sense of belonging, camaraderie and security knowing that we had each others backs. Today I am a single mom with an only child. I feel the guilt of not having supplied m...

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Life’s Curveballs can Equal Biggest Joys

I’ve always been an entrepreneur and go-getter since I can remember and were talking back to the lemonade sale stands. It was what I would call hereditary it ran in my veins and was passed down from generations prior.

Entrepreneurialism and the ongoing travel bug where I must have been a gypsy in my past life, never f…

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MAKING A DEAL WITH GOD

After almost three years of investigating where we would like to live, my wife and I had narrowed the search to one of three cities: Atlanta, Houston, or Dallas. My close friend and business partner, Bill, had transferred earlier within Motorola to Seguin, Texas. They had moved to New Braunfels not far from where he worked in the San Antonio area. After examining all the p…

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A Child Scarred For Life!

It is indeed paradoxical that children are naturally authentic, yet so naive and impressionable. Born to parents who inherently are responsible for nurturing the next generation of productive, heart centred caring human beings and so often fail the very children who idolizes them. 

Is it not your absolute responsibility (once you make a conscious decision to be a pa…

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Life After Shiloh.

What do you do when you lose that which you’ve loved so deeply… or more specifically whom you’ve loved so deeply? 

How do you keep going? 

How do you keep talking? 

How do you figure out how to go back to life before… 

How do I go back to life before Shiloh…? 

At least one of…

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Alcohol – Toxic or Tonic?

Examining alcohol, a taboo topic which is definitely bittersweet. The negative stigma, debilitating health and socially unacceptable behaviour causes a ripple effect beyond comprehension especially for young children who are exposed to this environment. 

This is part of a series of articles which examines the behaviours and habits we develop and learned at an early a…

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Spring Forward and Finish Strong…

 For many schools in America, the third quarter is ending and the final quarter of the school year is about to begin. It’s the last chance to keep or get your grades up and finish the year strong. But, this also marks the beginning of spring which can mean a lot of distractions for kids. The weather is much nicer and many kids want to spend more time outdoors playing …

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The Most Significant Writing I Have Ever Done

Finding And Losing My Father: My Most Meaningful Writing

 

What is your most meaningful writing?

 

For me, there is a definite answer – Writing about my father.

 

At my father’s request, phrased – “You wouldn’t be willing to help me write my autobiography would you?” I assisted him in writing a memoir he wanted to leav...

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My Little Boy Who Never Was. My Final Goodbye

I had hated my body for what it put me through.

Allowing me to fall in love with you and then letting you go with no fair reasoning.

My heart breaks when I recall just how cautious I was. With the worry and near loss while being pregnant with your older brother back then and now me being of an older age, I had decided that this time around I would be a lot mor…

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Unbreakable Bond

I heard it.

It made my eyes tear up.

Faint but strong, I heard it.

My mind was cloudy.

Trying to register the overpowering effect that such a small, almost inaudible, sound could have on a person’s soul.

A sound which instantly created an unbreakable bond as strong as the ocean pulling its water back from the shore.

I heard ...

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The Village

Have you ever felt like no matter how much you try, you just can’t do it on your own?

It’s 3:05. You have 10 minutes before the school bell rings and you’re late to pick up your child. It’s cold, or raining. You know your child will be outside waiting for you… again! Or, you’re in the middle of something at work. You’re surrounded by clients. Your phone …

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Reflections on Becoming a Grandma

My baby had a baby. My daughter had a daughter.

For the last few weeks, as I’ve been awaiting the birth of my first grandchild, I’ve been packing up many of our belongings, donating other belongings to Good Will, and finding new homes for much of our furniture. My husband and I are moving out of the house in which we raised our children, and moving into one in whic…

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The Proof Is In The Pudding

“No such thing as bad student, only bad teacher.” – Mr.Miyagi, ‘Karate Kid’

As a parent, I always worry that my 6 year old son won’t be prepared enough for the harsh realities of the world we live in today. Am I being paranoid? Maybe. Am I not believing in my son’s capabilities enough? Probably. Truth is, every parent out there worries about the same thin...

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Celebrate St. Patrick’s Day With Your Family…

Celebrate St. Patrick’s Day With Your Family and Close Friends

 St. Patrick’s day is a world wide celebration of Irish culture celebrated on March 17. It was started to honor and remember St Patrick, one of Ireland’s patron saints, who ministered Christianity in Ireland during the fifth century. Celebrations are held all over the world to inclu…

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My Daughter – My Inspiration

Not too long ago I shared this quote, entitled “A Note From A Mother”, on my Facebook page and I applaud whomever the individual was who penned it.

“I gave birth to you but you came with no instructions.  All I knew was that I loved you long before I saw you. I know that I made some mistakes, and for that I’m sorry, but I was doing the best that I could wi…

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Later is better

I recently read an article talking about how it is better to start “formal education” for your children later in their young life, such as around age 7-8. This is interesting, as many people want to start formally teaching their children once they start to talk. 

I do remember when my first child was just old enough to start looking at books with me. From…

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A Parent’s Worse Nightmare

This article is a little longer then the ones I normally write but a very important one worth reading….

 On a Saturday night my friends and I decided to grab a bite to eat and go to the movies. The movie we wanted to see was an action movie which, because of some of the fighting scenes, was rated R. All our parents approved the movie but since we weren’t yet …

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Spending The Weekend With Your Children

Spending the weekend with your children can mean spending more money than you want or even pushing the boundaries of your budget. A weekend with kids doesn’t have to mean sitting home all day, watching cartoons or old movies, though that is sometimes a lot of fun and not to be dismissed entirely. Whether you live in a big city or smaller town (or no town at all), your c…

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The Magician’s Hat

This is the story of an unlikely author. Malcolm Mitchell made it to the University of Georgia with a problem that he knew he needed to address. He could only read at a junior high level.

While at a Barnes & Noble book store he struck up a conversation with a woman who talked about how much she enjoyed her book club.

Malcolm asked if he could join her b…

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AND IT WAS UPHILL IN BOTH DIRECTIONS

We tried so hard to make things better for our kids that we made them worse. 

A great article by Lee Pitts below, reminds me that sometimes its good to let failure and hurt as well as hardwork and disappointment lead the way to a wonderful future of appreciation, gratitude, family loyalty and happiness.

For my grandchildren, I’d like better. I’d really li…

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Making The Grade

 I was going through some old articles I wrote and came across one I had written for a blog while in middle school. It was right after Christmas break and we had recently had several days off of school because of the weather. It was written to encourage children to keep their grades up and excel academically. I modified what I wrote just a bit so I could share the artic…

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Expectations of a Father Abroad

Now in Canada I am expecting my second child, a daughter, and the process has been completely different. In Cuba, when the woman goes into labour, she goes by herself. The father is not allowed to be in the room with her. Over these past 9 months as I have been lucky to experience the whole pregnancy process with my wife here, the conditions are so different. Firstly, …

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Expectations of a Father

Being a father comes a lot of expectations and responsibilities. I know, I already have a 4 year old son who still lives in Cuba with his mother. That was one of the hardest things I have had to do as well, leave my son there while I pursue love and a better life. I am currently in the process of waiting for him to receive his Canadian Permanent Residency but i…

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“Mothering” my dying Mom

I consider this to be role reversal in its worst form…..experiencing the illness and death of my mother.   I share yet another of the most difficult times in my life, with the most heartfelt hope that some part of my experience will help you or someone that you love. I will outline just a few important things to consider in caring for a dying parent and then I will tel…

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Through the eyes of a Child – Depression

I was going to write and post this article yesterday, but decided to wait.

See my soon-to-be 12 year old Prince, Gabriel, whom I had written about in my 1st ever article https://www.goread.com/buzz/taralee-gooding/article/my-heart-our-angel/ , and I…

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Report Cards: How Much Do They Matter?

As report card season approaches, I take the time to think deeply about each of my students and what they have accomplished in the past few months. As a teacher, report cards are a mandatory part of the job where we relay to parents how their child is doing in a variety of subject areas, both academic and skill based. As a parent, it is sometimes the only communication we …

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Stuck Inside – Snowy School Days Part II

 December through mid-March is traditionally the coldest time of the year. The cold weather brings snow which can mean school closings and days off from work. In my last article I wrote about things you can do outside for fun when it snows and school is closed. Wh…

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For Everything There is a Time

“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:

a time to be born, and a time to die;

a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;

a time to kill, and a time to heal;

a time to break down, and a time to build up;

a time to weep, and a time to ...

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5 Ways to Build Good Homework Habits

Yes, I stopped teaching a few years ago to write full-time, but I find myself writing about school. Go figure.

It’s January. The school year is about half over. If report cards have been less than stellar, there is still time to finish strong and have a successful school year. However, you probably need to make some adjustments to your family’s studyi...

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The Question A Father Should Ask Himself Everyday

Am I a good example for my children?

People do what people see and kids copy adults. Fathers should always set a good example for their family.

When my son Bo was about 5 years old, he taught me exactly what kids copying adults meant.  When we were out in public, Bo would see me open the door to buildings for his mother and even other people…

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The Question A Father Should Ask Himself Every Day

Am I a good example for my children?

People do what people see and kids copy adults. It’s a fathers responsibility to set a good example for their family.

When my son Bo was about 5 years old, he taught me exactly what kids copying adults meant.  When we were out in public, Bo would see me open the door to buildings for his mother and even othe…

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Serendipity

I love the word serendipity: A state of mind whereby a person through awareness and sensitivity frequently finds something better than that which he was seeking. In other words, you have a plan for each day, but if you notice something better along the way, take it! I love how Richard Eyre said, “Always put off something that you can do tomorrow when you can do it tomorro…

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The Mom Tribe

The Mom Tribe

As an author, I am often asked where I find my inspiration. Nearly everything comes from my surroundings. Anything you say or do may end up in my next story.

Here’s a perfect example: I was in Bradley Airport, on my way to visit The Cherub in D.C., whe...

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Snowy School Days

The temperature is starting to drop which means snow is on the way. In fact it has already snowed in some places. With the snow it can mean no school and parents thinking of what activities to do to keep children engaged, learning and having fun. Don’t panic! Even though it’s cold out, there a lot of things you can do outside for fun. Here are a few suggestions…

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What to Do When Learning Is Not So Fun?

What to Do When Learning is Not So Fun?

Returning to school from holiday breaks has its challenges.

DID YOU KNOW?

The average student loses up to 3 months of academic knowledge during the summer break alone per research studies.That means, they lose even more academic knowledge when you include the holiday breaks.

School breaks learning ski…

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SMART Goals for the New Year

If you have teenagers, this would be a good time to take a look at the first two marking periods, evaluate and assess their progress, and make some New Year’s Resolutions. This is not the time or place to be judgmental. This is the time to build a team where you are on their side, facing the challenge together. It’s time to make

SMART Goals for the New …

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The Dreaded “A” Word, Part 2: Autism in Toddlers

It’s very true that all children grow and develop at different stages, and sure maybe some children are just “slow developers” or a “late-bloomers”. Still, if a child misses more than two major milestones or doesn’t develop them at, then that is definitely a cause for concern and should be further investigated. With regards to my son, it wasn’t that obvious. He seemed to h…

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Homeschooling 101: How to and Why

Choosing whether or not to send your child to school always seems like a no brainer. Buy what if  your child doesn’t like school, or has anxiety issues or severe bullying problems? Homeschooling can be the answer. For a very long time home schooling has seemed like it’s been shunned. Not so much now. Homeschooling is becoming more of a wanted choice for many parents….

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My Heart -Our Angel

In 2003-2004, I received terrible news…My mom was diagnosed with a brain tumor and wasn’t given much of a chance to live. Life before hearing that news seemed to disappear. See mom and I weren’t close. For various reasons, we just could not get to a place where we could ever be friends.

After Mom telling me her life changing news, I gave up everything to be by h…

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A Mom’s Perfect Chaos

When describing what it is like to be the working mother of 3 children under the age of five, Ivanka Trump said it best, it is “the perfect chaos.” I couldn’t help but draw the similarities between Ivanka and I (albeit my wealth status and net worth is substantially less). I have two girls (ages three and one) and a baby boy that is 6 weeks old. As you can imagin…